To want a towel to dry my hands?

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My sister never has a towel in her downstairs toilet so everytime I wash my hands I have to ask her for a towel. She used to just go and get me one but is now rolling her eyes everytime I ask. Tonight we were there and when I came out of the bathroom I asked her for a towel. Everyone in the room burst out laughing and she rolled her eyes and said “wipe them in your hair”. She basically went on to say that she’s sick of me asking for a towel, she thinks I’m attention seeking and making a massive song and dance all the time and it’s boring. I said it’s perfectly normal to want to wash and dry your hands after using the toilet!!?

anyway when we left I asked DH why he was laughing earlier and he said “because you say the same thing everytime, it’s funny because she gets so wound up by it and when you went in there she said “watch her come out banging on about a towel” so everyone was waiting for you to say it”

Isnt it normal to want to dry your hands after washing them?? Am I being the sick here? DH agrees with my sister apparently that I’m making a song and dance

Probably because your rank hygiene keeps everybody away.

Just wipe your hands on her curtains or in her hair.

I'd come out with my hands dripping and then wipe them dry on her cushions or sofa....

I don't wash my hands after I've lambed a sheep or cleaned out the pigs

Bloody hell, that's vile.

This is weird. Even if you don’t wash your hands - and I’ll admit, I don’t always - other people do, so why wouldn’t you accommodate them?

I always have a towel in the kitchen, my mum does too. I need to dry my hands frequently, what else do you use?

I wouldn't keep banging on about the lack of towel, and just wipe my hands on my trousers. It is certainly inconvenient and bad form not to have a towel but it's her house and her choice. It becomes rude to point it out more than once.

Just wipe your hands on her curtains or in her hair.

OP, this ⬆️ is excellent advice.

This thread has it all: the dirty lambing hands troll, the filthy sister (seriously, stop going round to her hovel), the faux confusion over the concept of towels in a kitchen, MN hygiene horror over the thought of drying clean hands on a tea towel.

Is the black soap just straight-up mould?

Wipe it on your petticoat?!

Same here, I don’t use tea towels for drying dishes, they come out dry from the dishwasher, the tea towel is only used for drying my hands and nothing else.

@SunshineAndFizz I wear only dresses and skirts with a full slip underneath. I’m both modest and cold. Full skirts hang better with a slip or petticoat. Even pencil skirts look better with a slip slip. No, I don’t live in an ark or the past.

@Maddison12 no because they never entered my house, they went into a whelping box in a shed and touched puppies. I thought it was pathetic as they all wanted to take a puppy and were happy to have one in their home yet slathered their hands in anti bac as soon as they could. Are they hey going to do that when they are at home every time they pat their dog?

If it’s the only thing bothering you then why don’t you carry a small towel/flannel when you go to hers. If this is a bigger issue and is about your relationship with her then think about whether you want to spend time with her or if you both need a chat. I know my relationship with my sister can be difficult due to our childhood.

You have missed off my favourite suggestion so far: sitting back down and rejoining the conversation whilst casually using the sofa cushions to dry your hands.
If more dramatic effect is needed I would use the curtains, but I prefer the PA 'benign' subtlety of the cushions.

OP the lack of towel is weird, but the group reaction to you asking was nasty. I would be having some rather cross words with DH once we got home if he had joined in with it.

Just shake your sopping wet hands dry all over her bathrooms walls, mirror, etc. Or open the door with hands as wet as possible and drip water all through the house.

She sounds disgusting. I hope you don't eat at her house.

Have she or you got an 80s curly perm? We used to dry out hands on our hair back then to recurl the hair!

I have one of those circle towel holder things on my toilet door and in my kitchen, I'm often made to feel my cleaning standards are low on mumsnet but I'm right up there today.
I am resisting going to wash my already clean hands now. Ugh!

Lots of people. My mum was a cook and you don’t dry your hands on the tea towel you have a separate one for hands. I still do, my siblings do, my in-laws do. It’s not that weird and more hygienic.

ughhhh

You really don't understand hygiene do you?

Not coliforms though! It isn't about you it is about everyone else.

In that case, why don’t you just keep a hand towel instead of a tea towel in the kitchen? Surely more practical and absorbent for wet hands?

Confused by people who don't have a hand towel in their kitchen - I don't eat meat but am always washing my hands while cooking, doesn't everyone? E.g. before you chop veg or if you mix something with your hands or if you knead some dough

But I mostly came in to say that you should buy your sister some hand towels for Christmas. And a pack of command hooks

Well, OP’s sister would presumably dry her hands in her hair then carry on cooking, while upthread we’ve got one who wouldn’t wash her hands at all. In sum, I’m going to be very careful when eating friends’ food from now on.