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To want a towel to dry my hands?

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ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 21:38

My sister never has a towel in her downstairs toilet so everytime I wash my hands I have to ask her for a towel. She used to just go and get me one but is now rolling her eyes everytime I ask. Tonight we were there and when I came out of the bathroom I asked her for a towel. Everyone in the room burst out laughing and she rolled her eyes and said “wipe them in your hair”. She basically went on to say that she’s sick of me asking for a towel, she thinks I’m attention seeking and making a massive song and dance all the time and it’s boring. I said it’s perfectly normal to want to wash and dry your hands after using the toilet!!?

anyway when we left I asked DH why he was laughing earlier and he said “because you say the same thing everytime, it’s funny because she gets so wound up by it and when you went in there she said “watch her come out banging on about a towel” so everyone was waiting for you to say it”

Isnt it normal to want to dry your hands after washing them?? Am I being the sick here? DH agrees with my sister apparently that I’m making a song and dance

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Peashoots · 04/11/2022 21:57

So she doesn’t wash her hands then. Scruffy cow. YANBU, she’s the weird one.

Galaktoboureko · 04/11/2022 21:57

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 21:47

I don't have a towel in the downstairs loo because I don't wash my hands... maybe she doesn't either. I wash my hands in public loos but not at home

So, you wipe your arse and don't wash your hands after? That's a bit grim tbh.

miceonabranch · 04/11/2022 21:57

Just use loads of her toilet paper. Bonus points if it's the expensive padded kind 😊

whoareyouinviting · 04/11/2022 21:58

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 21:55

@TimeSlipMushroom
Yep! I don't! I live on a farm and I don't wash my hands after I've lambed a sheep or cleaned out the pigs, I'm also pretty healthy. Get the odd cold the kids bring home. People are too sanitised now. It's pathetic. I can understand in a hospital but it's never done me any harm

That's really disgusting. I grew up in the countryside too and handled all sort of stuff but that doesn't mean you forgo basic hygiene.

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 21:58

I'd actually wash my hands thoroughly before I lambed a sheep but not after! None of my family do, we are all incredibly strong fit healthy people. My baby is 8 months old and has had one slight cold... that's it. I havnt even had covid yet

LolaSmiles · 04/11/2022 21:59

She's definitely unreasonable then OP.

I'd not be bothered by a missing towel as a one off if the host made no fuss and got one. We've all days where towels have gone in the wash and not been reported or maybe I'm going to be judged by the MN bathroom police .

Not having a towel regularly is weird and knowing you have a guest who wants to dry their hands, not putting one out, and then moaning about it is strange

Floydthedemonbarber · 04/11/2022 21:59

Not having a towel in a loo, especially if visitors are going to use it is odd. However if there wasn't a towel I'd just dry my hands of my jeans and not mention it.

Original poster
ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 21:59

you’re lucky to find toilet roll in there to be honest, I’ve had to ask her for that before too.

Not keen on the upstairs bathroom

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lottie198 · 04/11/2022 22:02

I do enjoy reading these posts. How ridiculous ! Why wouldn't there be a towel?? I'd take your own towel next time or buy her a pack of 5 hand towels for Christmas (and a rail)

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 22:02

Meh I actually don't care. If I were in the same room as someone with a cold I would and equally if I were to have one. I don't actually get poo on my hands when I go to the loo, or piss.

butterfliedtwo · 04/11/2022 22:03

ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 21:59

you’re lucky to find toilet roll in there to be honest, I’ve had to ask her for that before too.

Not keen on the upstairs bathroom

That's just rude. Doss she laugh about that as well? She sounds bizarre.

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 22:04

Go to the kitchen and get a towel, they are probably all thinking you're making a fuss. If you were my sister I'd roll my eyes too. It's a bit princessey

oviraptor21 · 04/11/2022 22:04

Oh yeuch! I thought my hygiene standards were seriously low but reading some of these replies makes me positively saintly!

I'd have to call her out on it. I'd take my own towel and twirl it around like a cheerleader whilst observing how ludicrous it is that you have to bring one because of her shockingly lax standards.

Original poster
ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 22:04

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 22:04

Go to the kitchen and get a towel, they are probably all thinking you're making a fuss. If you were my sister I'd roll my eyes too. It's a bit princessey

A towel from the kitchen?

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OldTinHat · 04/11/2022 22:04

Buy a small towel and a Command adhesive hook.

Stick them up in her loo.

Don't say a word and see how long it takes her to find another excuse!

californiakiss · 04/11/2022 22:05

My sister doesn't have one down stairs either it's so anoying I just use toilet roll even though am so against wasting paper like tht

Pixiedust1234 · 04/11/2022 22:08

ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 21:59

you’re lucky to find toilet roll in there to be honest, I’ve had to ask her for that before too.

Not keen on the upstairs bathroom

I think its time to avoid going over there tbh. Meet in cafes or pubs or your own house but start to make excuses. I'm wondering if shes deliberately being mean to see how much you will put up with under the guise of "family". I'm sorry OP but I bet its more than just a towel.

rwalker · 04/11/2022 22:10

Accept it for what it is and she doesn’t have a towel
beat her at her own game take your own

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 22:10

Yeah a towel from the kitchen, I'd approach it by washing your hands, opening the toilet door, then going to the kitchen door, opening that and proceed to dry your hands on a towel.

CurlingTwinklingSky · 04/11/2022 22:11

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 21:47

I don't have a towel in the downstairs loo because I don't wash my hands... maybe she doesn't either. I wash my hands in public loos but not at home

That’s the worst thing I’ve read this evening, I hope you were joking

GoldIsMyBirthMetal · 04/11/2022 22:13

Ewwwww does she wash her hands? Does she prepare food for you when you visit?!

Original poster
ItsAllABit · 04/11/2022 22:13

kanyoukan · 04/11/2022 22:10

Yeah a towel from the kitchen, I'd approach it by washing your hands, opening the toilet door, then going to the kitchen door, opening that and proceed to dry your hands on a towel.

Why would towels be in the kitchen?

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Name99 · 04/11/2022 22:13

CurlingTwinklingSky · 04/11/2022 22:11

That’s the worst thing I’ve read this evening, I hope you were joking

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Hairy hands are hard to wash and dry

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 04/11/2022 22:14

Who keeps a towel in the kitchen? Except a tea towel.

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 04/11/2022 22:14

If you visit her again, you could help yourself to a towel from elsewhere in the house (bathroom or kitchen) and take it into the downstairs loo with you.
For extra points, take a cup-hook and attach it to the back of the door or somewhere else suitable, and hang the towel off it. Walk out with dry hands, don't say anything, wait and let her discover what you've done for herself...
Direct action gets the goods...