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To think I'm having the worst night ever

58 replies

ohmegee · 04/11/2022 02:17

Been talking to this guy for a few months. Went from a flirty tone to a sort of pally tone over the months. He has recently moved to my city. So last night after having a bottle Blush of wine I decided it was a good idea to suggest I go to his flat. He agreed and over I went.

When I got there there was definitely no chemistry other than friends so that was fine. Stayed for an hour and a half then said my goodbyes. However was literally impossible to get a taxi, all saying they were taking ages and my eyes were shutting on his sofa

He suggested I stayed so I said okay (I still wanted to fuck at this point and thought I was in with a change) however he took me into his bedroom which has two single beds. I am currently in one and he is currently snoring his head off in the other 🤣

I'm so affronted. I wish I'd just pushed to go home. Now if I decide to get up and go it will wake him up and be very awkward. Not to mention I am in a rough part of the city. But there's also no way I can sleep tonight and my dogs are at home alone. I'm so mad at myself for not just heading on home when I had the chance.

OP posts:
WhosafraidofVirginiaWoolf · 04/11/2022 02:21

Do you usually fuck your friends then?

Mediumred · 04/11/2022 02:22

Akk, try again to get an Uber or something, if he wakes just say you were trying to sneak out without waking him but would sleep better at home. All his loss anyway if he’s not interested, you know where you stand, onwards and upwards!

TooBigForMyBoots · 04/11/2022 02:24

Call a cab and get to your own bed. Don't lie there all night.

ADifferentKindOfWonderful · 04/11/2022 02:28

Agree with trying to get a taxi. Don't stay. Think of your poor dogs 🐕

ohmegee · 04/11/2022 02:31

In taxi on way home thank god

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ohmegee · 04/11/2022 02:32

Never been so excited in my life to see my dogs

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Mediumred · 04/11/2022 02:32

Yay!good escape! X

ohmegee · 04/11/2022 02:33

The noisiest sneak I ever did do 🤣

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FlissyPaps · 04/11/2022 02:49

Glad you’re home OP.

But WTF…. What kind of adult has 2 single beds in their room? Does he have a room mate? 😂

Fraaahnces · 04/11/2022 03:21

Omg… Sounds like Ernie and Bert

Worriedaboutethics · 04/11/2022 03:27

@ohmegee

you home safe?

Gingernan · 04/11/2022 04:47

Put it down to experience. Doesn't sound like he was horrible,just not a fun date for you.

Untitledsquatboulder · 04/11/2022 07:00

OMG a bloke who offered you a bed for the night and then didn't coerce you into sex (or wait til you were asleep then try to rape you). Poor you, what a bastard! Hmm

Herejustforthisone · 04/11/2022 07:22

Untitledsquatboulder · 04/11/2022 07:00

OMG a bloke who offered you a bed for the night and then didn't coerce you into sex (or wait til you were asleep then try to rape you). Poor you, what a bastard! Hmm

Gosh, your bar is low isn’t it?

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 04/11/2022 07:27

WhosafraidofVirginiaWoolf · 04/11/2022 02:21

Do you usually fuck your friends then?

So what if she does??

BMW6 · 04/11/2022 07:44

I have to say OP it's not the bloke who comes out of this looking bad.

Cosycover · 04/11/2022 07:47

WhosafraidofVirginiaWoolf · 04/11/2022 02:21

Do you usually fuck your friends then?

Does that affect you at all?

BamBamBilla · 04/11/2022 07:50

Sounds horrifying

Intelligenthair · 04/11/2022 07:55

Sounds like he was just trying to be a good guy tbh, sometimes the chemistry just isn’t there when it comes to it.

Two single beds is v weird though but he offered it to keep you safe when you couldn’t get home.

YABU for not thinking about your dogs earlier though.

WhosafraidofVirginiaWoolf · 04/11/2022 07:55

@Cosycover Not in any way.

in the same way that my asking the question doesn't affect you in any way either 🙄

Ozgirl75 · 04/11/2022 07:57

I mean this kindly but if this is the worst night of your life, then you’ve been pretty lucky. A friend invites you over, you have a pleasant evening, he doesn’t fancy you so you try to go home. Unable to get a cab so he offers you a bed to sleep in and then goes to sleep? I mean it doesn’t sound that terrible if I’m being totally honest.

Herejustforthisone · 04/11/2022 07:57

A lot of attempts by women on here to ‘slut shame’ another woman.

Fuck sake.

pastabakeonaplate · 04/11/2022 07:58

If the chemistry wasn't there why would you think he wanted to fuck you?

Herejustforthisone · 04/11/2022 07:58

BMW6 · 04/11/2022 07:44

I have to say OP it's not the bloke who comes out of this looking bad.

Why do you think she looks ‘bad’?

Untitledsquatboulder · 04/11/2022 08:00

Herejustforthisone · 04/11/2022 07:22

Gosh, your bar is low isn’t it?

So you explain to me why this would be the "worst evening ever". What exactly did he do wrong?

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