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To block friend who said this?

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Nameychangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:01

I've name changed for this. My friend posted a gushing post on FB about the new priminister. I probably should have ignored but I added a comment that given the state of things in this country under the last three/four tory priministers, although it was great we finally had a more diverse priminister, a general election would have been preferable in my view.

My friend just said to me on messenger, direct quote

" We are not going to be friends if you you're so extreme about your political views".

I've just responded with 'wow' for now, am I being unreasonable to have also blocked her?

Before this she also said 'Your hormones are getting to you!
Gotta take emotion out of big decisions!' I am pregnant so yes hormones and I am emotional... but I am frustrated by how bad things seem to have got and was before I became pregnant, even accessing maternity care this time around is a struggle, the NHS has been chronically underfunded .

She meanwhile doesn't have kids or a mortgage, lives with her parents at 40 plus (cultural reasons). Nothing wrong with any of that and doesn't bother me but perhaps means she is a bit sheltered from real life. Just trying to understand but really a bit upset. I was more than happy to never discuss politics with her but she brought it up..should I pretend I hold the same views to fit in?!

Perhaps it is a natural end anyway to the friendship as it can be very one-sided, I listen to her talking about herself for ages before she thinks to ask how I am.

What would you do?

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RoseslnTheHospital · 27/10/2022 10:04

It's not really a great friendship if she can't tolerate a less than glowing opinion of our new Prime Minister. So I would have muted her and stop responding to her on social media.

Given her other comments, I would probably let this friendship gradually die off.

RunningFromInsanity · 27/10/2022 10:05

I was more than happy to never discuss politics with her but she brought it up.. You literally started it.

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/10/2022 10:07

Agree with Roses, you clearly have very different views and different lives and sometimes that just naturally gets in the way of a friendship. I would let this one slide.

ABJ100 · 27/10/2022 10:08

You sound as bad as her.

gulliblestravels · 27/10/2022 10:08

@RunningFromInsanity Read the post. 'In reply to a gushing message....'

RambamThankyouMam · 27/10/2022 10:09

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araiwa · 27/10/2022 10:09

Could you ask some adults to intervene

Badgirlriri · 27/10/2022 10:09

Priminister?

PunchDrunkTurtle · 27/10/2022 10:10

When you say "gushing" what was she actually saying?

Was she just pleased to finally have a prime minister who wasn't white and you responded with 'but he shouldn't be there anyway?'

It's weird you mention her exact private message, but not her exact initial post and your follow up

Selfesteem22 · 27/10/2022 10:11

Ha ha to that being extreme given state of the polls - I wouldn't bloke someone for that personally- probably hide their posts and disengage as friends a bit

insaneinthemembrane1 · 27/10/2022 10:11

ABJ100 · 27/10/2022 10:08

You sound as bad as her.

Oh for goodness sake, no she doesn't! She gave a measured response in reply to her friend's message.

Freespirit42 · 27/10/2022 10:12

Ignore the spelling and grammar Nazis on this group, nasty people. The point I find that many conservatives are very thin skinned and quite frankly I don’t think you said anything that a lot of us are not thinking. So just get rid of her, she should accept your opinions because you’re not being outlandish you’re thinking probably what the majority of this country thinks that are sick of not having a general election

Freespirit42 · 27/10/2022 10:13

insaneinthemembrane1 · 27/10/2022 10:11

Oh for goodness sake, no she doesn't! She gave a measured response in reply to her friend's message.

I swear some people just come on this group to troll because I’ve seen some really nasty answers on posts

Aquamarine1029 · 27/10/2022 10:14

What would you do?

I wouldn't have pissed on her chips in the first place. What's the point besides causing a rift?

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Wisteriaroundthedoor · 27/10/2022 10:15

Sounds like you’re simply acquaintances rather than actual friends, or you’ve a different definition of friends to most other folks.

Somethingsnappy · 27/10/2022 10:17

Well, I guess she was the one that said you're not going to be friends, so...

usernamechangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:17

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usernamechangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:18

ABJ100 · 27/10/2022 10:08

You sound as bad as her.

Why though?

usernamechangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:20

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SoupDragon · 27/10/2022 10:21

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name change fail...?

Pinkdelight3 · 27/10/2022 10:22

It wasn't remotely extreme, but people are stuck in their bubbles these days and she clearly can't cope with hearing anything but echoes of her own limited ideas.

usernamechangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:22

SoupDragon · 27/10/2022 10:21

name change fail...?

Yes I know..sleep deprived I've reported it to Mumsnet..I don't think she is on here anyway

custardbear · 27/10/2022 10:25

Never discuss politics .. the end

But do learn the title Prime Minister