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To block friend who said this?

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Nameychangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:01

I've name changed for this. My friend posted a gushing post on FB about the new priminister. I probably should have ignored but I added a comment that given the state of things in this country under the last three/four tory priministers, although it was great we finally had a more diverse priminister, a general election would have been preferable in my view.

My friend just said to me on messenger, direct quote

" We are not going to be friends if you you're so extreme about your political views".

I've just responded with 'wow' for now, am I being unreasonable to have also blocked her?

Before this she also said 'Your hormones are getting to you!
Gotta take emotion out of big decisions!' I am pregnant so yes hormones and I am emotional... but I am frustrated by how bad things seem to have got and was before I became pregnant, even accessing maternity care this time around is a struggle, the NHS has been chronically underfunded .

She meanwhile doesn't have kids or a mortgage, lives with her parents at 40 plus (cultural reasons). Nothing wrong with any of that and doesn't bother me but perhaps means she is a bit sheltered from real life. Just trying to understand but really a bit upset. I was more than happy to never discuss politics with her but she brought it up..should I pretend I hold the same views to fit in?!

Perhaps it is a natural end anyway to the friendship as it can be very one-sided, I listen to her talking about herself for ages before she thinks to ask how I am.

What would you do?

OP posts:
Forensiccountermeasure · 27/10/2022 10:25

I would assume with you mentioning cultural issues and diversity, you are, or have come across as, racist depending on what was actually posted.

Topseyt123 · 27/10/2022 10:30

RunningFromInsanity · 27/10/2022 10:05

I was more than happy to never discuss politics with her but she brought it up.. You literally started it.

That isn't how I read it. The "friend" put the FB status up and OP was one of the respondents. She isn't alone in thinking that a general election would be preferable.

OP, personally I would just cool the friendship. Step well back and stop paying her as much attention. If she should ask why (don't necessarily expect that) then tell her it is because you don't seem to be allowed a different point of view.

TallulahBetty · 27/10/2022 10:31

Is Priminister like a Pre-Madonna that I also see on here?

Original poster
Nameychangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:32

Forensiccountermeasure · 27/10/2022 10:25

I would assume with you mentioning cultural issues and diversity, you are, or have come across as, racist depending on what was actually posted.

No! Absolutely and categorically not. I simply agreed with the part of her post which said it was great to have a more diverse prime minister. Because it is..and it's about time we are actually lagging behind the USA on this! But I said whilst that's a great achievement it's a shame that's over shadowed a bit by the circumstances of his appointment....i.e not a general election and his party is in disarray. Because I think it is..How on earth is that racist?

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girlmom21 · 27/10/2022 10:33

Can you copy and paste your actual response?

IncompleteSenten · 27/10/2022 10:34

She thinks that's an extreme view?
You weren't bloody kidding when you said she's sheltered!

KitchiHuritAngeni · 27/10/2022 10:37

She wrote a post because she was pleased about something, you pissed on her chips, then she overreacted, and then you overreacted.

6 of one, half a dozen of the other imo.

user1494050295 · 27/10/2022 10:37

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Thank you for pointing this out

Cw112 · 27/10/2022 10:38

I think you sound as bad as each other. You can be friends and disagree on certain opinions and topics it just takes not always needing to give your 5 pence worth. I think blocking is a bit childish tbh I don't see why you'd do that.

Justkidding55 · 27/10/2022 10:39

yanbu. In this day and age politics matters so much. It really is the difference between being on the right side
or the wrong side and why would you want to be friends with someone who’s picked the asshole team 😂? I couldn’t be friends with someone who continues to vote for these people. i would have said to her that she is incredibly lucky to be so sheltered from real life and then block her.
who lives at home at 40 and then dares
to make
comments about politics? Wow.

Frogsalad · 27/10/2022 10:42

araiwa · 27/10/2022 10:09

Could you ask some adults to intervene

😂

Discovereads · 27/10/2022 10:43

I wouldn’t block because then her apology will never get to you.
If it’s a long friendship that has endured, or you want it to be like that, then you’re going to have to get together and have a lively debate until you both can agree to disagree or respect a difference of opinion in each other. You come across as more reasonable than her based on this post, but I’d not cut someone off for just this.

YouOKHun · 27/10/2022 10:45

She probably put a post on FB hoping lots of “quite right Hun” validation. You’ve broken the “#bekind” rules of social media by expressing an opinion however lightly that does not agree with her unoriginal “look at me I’m so aware” bollocks.

Facebook is a tiresome place full of half-baked soundbites. Just leave her to stew and worship at her Rishi shrine and adopt the old rule of “never discuss politics or religion”.

AssumingDirectControl · 27/10/2022 10:46

I don’t mind the odd pieminister. I like the goats cheese one best.

OdkinsBodkins · 27/10/2022 10:48

Priminister In 100 years this might be what we call it 😄
Lovely.

DameHelena · 27/10/2022 10:50

Your reply was extremely mild and most people would have taken it as an invitation for civil discussion. She sounds extremely precious and as if she just won't tolerate anything less than total agreement/capitulation. Only you know whether you want to continue this friendship, but for me it would depend on whether this response was unusual and you got on in other ways/could have sensible discussions on other things, or whether this is typical of her behaviour across the board.

Oh and you can fuck off, those of you criticising and sneering at the OP's spelling. The irony of doing that when people are telling her that she needs adults to intervene...

madmaxine33 · 27/10/2022 10:55

If she didn't want opinions on her post then don't write a Facebook status. Simple. The very nature of Facebook is that people communicate on it. You don't write something and assume it's not been seen. I assume she just wanted like minded people to comment on her post and it got her back up that someone disagreed with her. Yanbu and you are certainly not as bad as her. She's been incredibly rude and condescending to you. I wouldn't necessarily have blocked her but I'd have muted and not continued with the discussion.

Fwiw I have friends who have massively different opinions to me on all sorts of things. Topical things include politics and covid. If I value the friendship I just don't discuss these things with them.

Oh and the sneery posters commenting on your spelling need to get a life. MN is become a real cesspit of horrible, pedantic people who detract away from interesting threads with their pathetic attempts to appear superior. It's a shame.

Boomboom22 · 27/10/2022 10:57

Maybe but bit difficult to believe the op engages in politics if she doesn't know it's prime minister 🤣🤣

Rollingdownland · 27/10/2022 10:57

I have lots of friends with diametrically opposed views to mine, politically and economically, and it doesn't make a difference.

I hate this new intolerance.

moose62 · 27/10/2022 11:05

I have one very left wing and one very right wing friend on FB....I never comment on their posts but just read them with amusement.

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:05

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I sometimes wonder how it comes to be that people have clearly never seen words written down.

madmaxine33 · 27/10/2022 11:06

Boomboom22 · 27/10/2022 10:57

Maybe but bit difficult to believe the op engages in politics if she doesn't know it's prime minister 🤣🤣

Ah yes because spelling goes hand in hand with knowledge. It's you that needs to educate yourself.

PornographicPriestess · 27/10/2022 11:07

I'm not friends with anyone who votes Tory. It isn't a difference of opinion; it's a difference in morality

girlmom21 · 27/10/2022 11:08

PornographicPriestess · 27/10/2022 11:07

I'm not friends with anyone who votes Tory. It isn't a difference of opinion; it's a difference in morality

Do you ask any potential new friends which way they vote?

BiscuitLover3678 · 27/10/2022 11:09

It’s all a bit ridiculous! She also sounds a bit thick op.

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