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To block friend who said this?

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Nameychangey2022 · 27/10/2022 10:01

I've name changed for this. My friend posted a gushing post on FB about the new priminister. I probably should have ignored but I added a comment that given the state of things in this country under the last three/four tory priministers, although it was great we finally had a more diverse priminister, a general election would have been preferable in my view.

My friend just said to me on messenger, direct quote

" We are not going to be friends if you you're so extreme about your political views".

I've just responded with 'wow' for now, am I being unreasonable to have also blocked her?

Before this she also said 'Your hormones are getting to you!
Gotta take emotion out of big decisions!' I am pregnant so yes hormones and I am emotional... but I am frustrated by how bad things seem to have got and was before I became pregnant, even accessing maternity care this time around is a struggle, the NHS has been chronically underfunded .

She meanwhile doesn't have kids or a mortgage, lives with her parents at 40 plus (cultural reasons). Nothing wrong with any of that and doesn't bother me but perhaps means she is a bit sheltered from real life. Just trying to understand but really a bit upset. I was more than happy to never discuss politics with her but she brought it up..should I pretend I hold the same views to fit in?!

Perhaps it is a natural end anyway to the friendship as it can be very one-sided, I listen to her talking about herself for ages before she thinks to ask how I am.

What would you do?

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threegoodthings · 27/10/2022 11:09

I don't think I could be friends with somebody who thought it was priminister. What did you actually think that meant?

RobertaFirmino · 27/10/2022 11:10

TallulahBetty · 27/10/2022 10:31

Is Priminister like a Pre-Madonna that I also see on here?

It's a dupe PM with shoddy stitching from Primark.

PornographicPriestess · 27/10/2022 11:11

It becomes apparent very easily in the sort of conversations I have, yes.

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:11

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LBFseBrom · 27/10/2022 11:14

She sounds like some posters on facebook group - not prepared to consider different opinions and think you are being nasty if you take a different view.

I can see both your points of view. I have some hope that the new Prime Minister will bring some stability but would never vote Tory.

madmaxine33 · 27/10/2022 11:19

@Herejustforthisone what about dyslexia or other reading/spelling issues? These occur across a range of intellectual abilities and show no indication of the OP's knowledge on the subject which sounds pretty spot on in my opinion.

Either way I find it very boring and sneery when people try to derail a thread by picking on someone's grammar and/or spelling. It's all very playground bullying.

DameHelena · 27/10/2022 11:23

If someone ever cast their eyes over a news app (I imagine a newspaper would be unlikely)

I have to admit I do applaud your style here, Herejustforthisone, even though the comment itself is that of a twat.

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:23

madmaxine33 · 27/10/2022 11:19

@Herejustforthisone what about dyslexia or other reading/spelling issues? These occur across a range of intellectual abilities and show no indication of the OP's knowledge on the subject which sounds pretty spot on in my opinion.

Either way I find it very boring and sneery when people try to derail a thread by picking on someone's grammar and/or spelling. It's all very playground bullying.

I maintain it is a lack of exposure to the word as it is an isolated error in an otherwise correctly spelt (admittedly not correctly punctuated) post.

Sunshineandflipflops · 27/10/2022 11:24

Why people post political things on social media and then get offended/upset/angry when people comment and disagree is beyond me. I never post or comment on political issues on a platform that is best kept to #blessed and #makingmemories photos of pumpkin picking.

My dp does it and I just wait for the inevitable backlash.

Choconut · 27/10/2022 11:25

I would have just said 'I don't think my views are extreme' and left it to that. Blocking people over minor disagreements is just childish IMO. If she wants to block you then let her carry right on.
Personally if I had a strong difference of opinion to what someone had written on SM though I would just ignore the post rather that post a snotty reply. The state of the country isn't her fault and Rishi is such a step up from fucking Truss or Boris that I can understand she's pleased.

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:25

DameHelena · 27/10/2022 11:23

If someone ever cast their eyes over a news app (I imagine a newspaper would be unlikely)

I have to admit I do applaud your style here, Herejustforthisone, even though the comment itself is that of a twat.

Not many people purchase newspapers anymore. It was more a comment on the death of print journalism and the increase of a life lived online, rather than a slight towards the OP. But I’ll take the accusation of ambiguity and the name of ‘twat’ and wear it.

girlfriend44 · 27/10/2022 11:26

Just keep it light with friends. They day don't discuss religion and politics.

This person is not worth worrying about. They sound abit of a nutter putting their political thoughts above a friendship.
Let them go.

SleepyPlanet · 27/10/2022 11:26

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It's also possible that the automatic spell check got the better of her. I wouldn't read too much into spellings online these days.

DameHelena · 27/10/2022 11:27

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:25

Not many people purchase newspapers anymore. It was more a comment on the death of print journalism and the increase of a life lived online, rather than a slight towards the OP. But I’ll take the accusation of ambiguity and the name of ‘twat’ and wear it.

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It was more a comment on the death of print journalism and the increase of a life lived online, rather than a slight towards the OP.
Sure it was.

olivehater · 27/10/2022 11:29

I do find it sad that people can’t seem to be friends when they have different political opinions. I have good friends at both ends of the political spectrum. It’s never been an issue. Enjoy a bit of lively debate in person but anything typed is never going to end well. It was very passive aggressive to reply to her fb post. She is allowed as different opinion from you. If you don’t like her anyway then fair enough but only surrounding yourself with people with the same political opinion as you is very insular.

Randlehandle · 27/10/2022 11:37

PornographicPriestess · 27/10/2022 11:07

I'm not friends with anyone who votes Tory. It isn't a difference of opinion; it's a difference in morality

Since when has pornography been moral? How embarrassing to be so selective in your friendship base, going by their politics. Are you 10?

Floomobal · 27/10/2022 11:39

gulliblestravels · 27/10/2022 10:08

@RunningFromInsanity Read the post. 'In reply to a gushing message....'

OP didn’t need to engage.

teaandtoastwithmarmite · 27/10/2022 11:40

She sounds like my 'friend'. I've posted about her on here but she keeps sending me stuff and saying she has no interest in my life because I'm not interested in her views. I.e - putin ok, Covid hoax, vaccines killing people etc etc. just because I'm not doing the 'research'. Tell her to fuck off if she wants to.

LindaEllen · 27/10/2022 11:41

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Thank you. That one winds me up SO much.

EatenDorky · 27/10/2022 11:42

I personally think it’s important to try to engage with people of opposing political views (though what good it does and what the chances of ‘educating’ anyone who doesn’t want to be educated are presumably negligible). I’ve been very quick to block people in the past but trying to be less hot-headed these days… shouldn’t end a friendship over this… om, etc!

MavisChunch29 · 27/10/2022 11:45

Pieminister. That was Johnson.

Herejustforthisone · 27/10/2022 11:46

DameHelena · 27/10/2022 11:27

It was more a comment on the death of print journalism and the increase of a life lived online, rather than a slight towards the OP.
Sure it was.

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Sure, it was. I work in the media. T’is my bread and butter.

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Nameychangey2022 · 27/10/2022 11:46

SleepyPlanet · 27/10/2022 11:26

It's also possible that the automatic spell check got the better of her. I wouldn't read too much into spellings online these days.

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That's correct @SleepyPlanet . It was a technology fail which I should have spotted, freely admit I am hopeless at technology and attention to detail. We can't all be perfect. There is no edit function on Mumsnet and it really annoys me, but I know I should preview first!

But thank you @Herejustforthisone for making sweeping judgements on my intellect, reading and viewing habits based solely upon a simple error when I'm sleep deprived and just typing at speed and accepting the spellchecks without really looking. Actually I think that does say more about you. It's a lack of nuance isn't it. Stupid spelling error/mistype =must be stupid. I appreciate it was a clanger though, but seriously can't we move on from it or do I have to delete the whole thread and repost it for the offence caused and sacrifice my degrees to the gods of spelling?

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MeanOldPotato · 27/10/2022 11:48

Jesus. This thread reads like a group chat between a bunch of tweens.

Grown women falling over themselves to poke fun at someone who made a spelling mistake.

Its Fucking embarrassing.

SidewaysOtter · 27/10/2022 11:48

I have a few acquaintances whose views are along the lines of those of @PornographicPriestess - utterly intolerant of anyone else's opinion, sees the world in black/white, good/evil, they are good and anyone with a different view is amoral.

Those I stay away from. The people whose friendships I value are where we respect each others differing opinions, discuss respectfully and accept that different views can be held for a reason other than amorality/being evil/nazism/[insert other slur here].