... to not poop in a toilet that's not at home?

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

If I can, that is, barring being taken short or being on holiday?

Yes, and the difference being that was a kid. I can't believe how some are willing to cause damage to their bodies. Not pooing at work, and worse on holiday, have got to be psychological issues.

Here you go

m.youtube.com/watch?v=D9cu9ot1X5U

i have a poo loo at work, on the other side of the building from my office and on a different floor :) makes going much better.

Apparently we all have an inner bottom that won't let the poo down until we feel it's 'safe' to do so. That's why you can be constipated but get the urge as soon as you get home.

I wish my stinky family would poo at Pauls😷🤢

have not RTFT but i know a few people like this.
Unsurprisingly the Germans have a word for this: Heimscheisser (home-shitter)

I'm meh about it. A toilet is a toilet, i appreciate people who don't want to stink up my loo, but i hate the thought that they don't feel they can use a toilet for its intended purpose. Windows that open are often a thing as are extractor fans.

Tell that to my DH. He sometimes needs to go very urgently - residual effect of cancer treatment - and it won’t wait.

One thing that would put me off though - if the toilet in someone's home doesn't have a loo brush. How to get rid of any potential residue is a worry.

Typical that people with chrons, IBS are deserving of sympathy but those with often a psychological issue from childhood are derided.

We just need to go to the next step and train ourselves to only wee at home as well, then councils can close down all public toilets, if people won't use them anyway.

No point in paying to keep them if they're the equivalent of the pretty village shop that everybody dearly loves the idea of but never actually buys anything from.

I wonder what this all stems from? Are a lot of people taught in young childhood that poo is bad, rude and shameful - rather than just that it's something natural that everybody does but it needs to be done in an appropriate place (i.e. a toilet - any toilet)? Why just poo, though - urine doesn't particularly smell nice, if we're going to be squeamish about it.

MN is so weird about poo. I'm surprised this one hasn't flagged up as being a 'pop troll' thread yet. This is part of the problem. People see this very normal natural bodily function as shameful and taboo. So people like myself who have ibs issues feel even worse about them. It's actually really debilitating. There are many places I won't go to because of poor/zero toilet facilities. And if you ever try to talk about it on here you get accused of being a poo perv. It's beyond childish.

Those who are afraid of stinking just strike a match as soon as you've gone. Burns the methane and thus the smell.

why do you think anyone cares where you take a shit

Loads of people are weird like this.
I'll never understand it

Where there's a toilet, I'll take a poo in it (barring display toilets in shops etc).

I don't have the luxury of going home for a poo if I'm at work (it's a half hour drive...used to be a 45-50 minute drive). Just find the nearest toilet and go!

I hate the poo shame. I go when I need to but often feel embarrassed and try to go somewhere quiet rather than a loo all my colleagues use. I love unisex loos because so much more anonymous/sound proof and each cubicle has its own ventilation. I don't know why I poo so much but for us women sometimes it's hormonal and many of us on medication that doesn't help. I'm on iron tablets at the moment so not always great for being regular/once a day. Too much shame amongst us women wouldn't it be great if we all didn't give a shit about doing a shit!

Please,don't use the wet wipes. They cause huge problems in our sewage system

That's another reason it's easier to go at home as you have access to decent toilet paper and wash basin usually rather than having to come out of the cubicle etc

There is zilch privacy where I work and people hanging around in toilets

I use wet wipes (living in the middle east with their bum hoses taught me dry toilet paper is rubbish for cleaning arses 😂) but I bin them.

I always put some tissue paper down first and literally never leave a trace

without going into TMI i do that but it doesn't always work.

My friend worked with a lady who would not poo at work so if she couldn't drive home to go she'd walk over to Morrisons supermarket a couple of minutes walk and go there.

There was a public loo on the way but she'd bypass that to go to the supermarket as their loos were obviously much nicer.

I pooh at home and when i am on holiday but i have never needed a pooh when out and about. Once when i was on holiday i went out and i needed a pooh as soon as igot back to the caravan. It was like my brain had forgotte n to tell me that i needed a pooh when i got off the train.

My body just says no. Even on holiday, everything just waits till I'm back (depending on how long I'm away.....longer trips means its got to happen at some point). Always end up with a sore stomach because of my fussy bottom 🙃

I once had to take a shit on a beach.
I couldn't even make it as far as the sea and just had to dip into a massive rock pool type area. The most mortifying moment ever
There was no way I could have made it off the beach and found a toilet.
I'm frightened to go anywhere without a toilet now. It's really restrictive

You can buy wet wipes that have the 'fine to flush' logo that are plastic free. Wipes that are labelled as being 'flushable' aren't always, they can still contain plastic. If they have the 'fine to flush' label (and are plastic free) they have been tested by Water UK to make sure they disintegrate. I would also never flush more than one at a time.