... to not poop in a toilet that's not at home?

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If I can, that is, barring being taken short or being on holiday?

I'd say it's pretty normal, even though it's a shame that people feel so embarrassed by their pooing. everyone does it, even Victoria Beckham

@Dollydea I have Crohn's too and due to a bowel resection I can't always wait until I get home either! I know what you mean about the disabled toilet dirty looks. I used to hold my Crohn's alert card on show when I walked in but I've come to realise that I shouldn't have to prove myself to anyone!

No I can’t either! I even only use one toilet at home for a poo- never the downstairs toilet or the bathroom used by the kids. I’m weird.

Odd question. If you needed a shite, why on earth would you hold it? 🤣

I go wherever I am

Yes. I think people who judge smelly toilets at work etc are those who go on a regular schedule in the morning/evening so can't comprehend why others don't have such regular bowels.... I would never poo in someone else's house, either feels a bit 'rude' even though I know it's not.

And, yes, I am anally retentive in others ways, too!

Completely up to you but I would generally think it’s better to listen to your body than your mind on this issue.

I don't understand the people criticising/belittling OP... obviously it works for her so why do you care?!

The OP started a thread about it, on AIBU no less, asking for people's opinions on her attitude to pooing. Was everybody supposed to just reply 'Bless.You do you!'? It would have made the thread a bit pointless and extremely boring. Of course peare going to criticise - it's a silly thing to get hung up about, regardless of how many people are.

I can poo at home, hospital, families house.
Not at work or public toilets, my body just never needs it then.. it knows 😆

But yeah, a toilet for shit, piss, vomit and blood so there should be no shame!

You get paid to poo at work. Why dirty your own toilet when you can do it during working hours?

Surely I'd only know if someone had had a poo if there was evidence?

It depends what kind of evidence you're counting and what your 'standards of tolerance' are. Some of the mean judges will lurk outside cubicles just waiting to hear a splash (rather than a stream) as proof that their accused has done something 'disgusting' that they can be criticised for or gossiped about. OK, nobody wants to discover scenes of devastation, but toilets do get cleaned regularly for a reason - they aren't going to remain sparkling and pristine between cleans.

As for doing a poo in somebody else's house being 'rude', do people also think it equally 'rude' to take all of your clothes off in somebody else's bathroom, in order to have a shower?

I'm honestly shocked that so many women can only/strongly prefer to go at home.

I genuinely don't give a shit where I have a shit! It's never really occurred to me to think about it! It's a perfectly normal process that we all do most days so why get so hung up about it?? I will just go when I need to. Whether that's a supermarket toilet, a cafe toilet or whatever. Don't care.

Don’t care where I go! After 5 days of Glastonbury toilets everywhere else is luxury.

Yabu for using “poop”

terrible cutesy coy word for a normal bodily function.

poo is perfectly fine. No need for another p. Or shit will do as well.

I just don't get it. For me it's like doing a no.1, I don't need to go and then I do and when I need to - I go, sit down, and it's all over within 30 secs.

I don't understand the people who go in the bathroom and read etc. So when they enter the bathroom do they not need to go but then sit there till they do? Never understood it.

I won't even go in the downstairs loo in my own house! Big bathroom only unless an emergency situation.

Twice I've done the walk of shame across motorway hard shoulders after hours of going nowhere, and everyone watching you disappear into the undergrowth beyond the hard shoulder because it's the most exciting thing to watch in the past 90 minutes at least. By annoying co-incidence, both times I was so near but yet so far from motorway services too, within a mile.

I'm a runner. I have IBS. When nature calls, I can not deny it. Toilets are pretty luxurious compared to squat toilets, moors, nettles and toilet pits all of which I've encountered in my time. Even the putrid shed built over a desert toilet pit was not enough to clench and hold. Fresh air trumped privacy on that trip!

The idea of holding and the urge being repressed for hours/ days sounds really uncomfortable and painful.

I don't understand the people who go in the bathroom and read etc. So when they enter the bathroom do they not need to go but then sit there till they do? Never understood it.

For some of us, it's a process that may take a slightly longer time for full execution to complete. No different from taking a gold tin of barley sugars with you in the car, in case you get caught up in traffic

I can honestly sympathise. My problem is psychological that stems from childhood. Potty training was awful. I vaguely remember her making such a song and dance about me pooing. I remember holding it in for so long she had to take me to the gp for suppositories and I was torn when that one passed, all her fault for going on and on about the smell, mess etc.....like this woman didn't shite!
I've always had a feeling of "shame" that I need to go, I've never really got over it. I find I can't go unless I'm on my own in my home, when I stayed with my ex I had to wait till he went out. Its crippling, my record is holding it in for over a week when I was on holiday.

‘Backed up’. Indeed.

Absolutely howling at this thread 😂😂😂😂😂 so funny the responses 😂😂

Omg I pooped at work the other day. Was so paranoid someone was gonna walk in and smell it so I made sure my fat arse covered the whole seat the lock the smell in... then I flushed it which sitting on it still and I WASN'T FINISHED!!!

Have PTSD now I think 😅
Note to self... take VIPoo in work bag

Omg I pooped at work the other day. Was so paranoid someone was gonna walk in and smell it so I made sure my fat arse covered the whole seat the lock the smell in... then I flushed it which sitting on it still and I WASN'T FINISHED!!!

Aaaah, the DIY bidet!

No, I'm 42.

My body just doesn't need it when out and about, then I get home and a switch flips 😆 So I'm not holding it or getting uncomfortable, my brain just won't tell me it needs one!

I understand what you mean. I literally cannot go for a poo anywhere else, except for when I'm at home. Holidays are a nightmare. I think it's actually got a name, something like 'shy bowel'.