... to not poop in a toilet that's not at home?

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

If I can, that is, barring being taken short or being on holiday?

I don't understand the people criticising/belittling OP... obviously it works for her so why do you care?! 🤣

FWIW I'm the same. It's not really something I have a hang-up about (well not consciously anyway). I don't know why I do it - it never occurred to me that it was weird until now. I just generally don't feel the urge to poo unless I'm at home (or as a PP said, on holiday so I guess my body sees that as a temporary home).

Nine times out of ten, I just go to the loo first thing every morning. Sometimes though I'm going about my day no problem, and then I get home and as soon as I start unlocking my front door it's like something flips in my brain and suddenly I'm desperate for the loo 🤣

I can think of one occasion where I had a dicky tummy (sorry for TMI) when I felt the need to go at work. Other than that, I think my body just likes home comforts 🤣

Nah if I need to go I need to go. My stomach is pathetic and easily triggered.

And yes, I would judge someone having a poo in my home too. Sorry.

On your sofa, completely understandable; but actually in your toilet? That makes no sense. Are they allowed to just have a wee without judgment? It's like asking somebody if they would like a hot drink, expecting them to ask for a tea, and then being horrified and judging them if they dare to request a coffee.

I can only go in certain places. Never at work, never in proper public. Holiday abroad I think the flight breaks me lol 😆 the odd good friends house.

YABU calling it "poop"
Are you 5 yrs old?

Are you ShitBrick from American Pie?

He had to go home from school to take a shit

Don’t know if YABU or not but you definitely need to be nicknames ‘shit break’ (ie from American Pie)

Bloody hell, how did you cope during lockdown, when everyone was at home?

I can crap anywhere, thankfully (for me, at least): work, friends' houses, pubs, shops, even motorway service stations. Pre-covid, my work involved community visits so I was in other people's houses most of the time, and I sometimes had to shit in clients' toilets.

I go every morning before work and rarely need to go again till evening-if that

but on Monday, at work i got the urge. And I was ready to explode. I was out, it was lunchtime, and I rushed in to find a quiet place. Found it, did what i had to, there was an almighty stench and I was gagging, it was awful.

then someone came in. 😱 omg I knew the smell would hit them. Thankfully i flushed washed and left without drying my hands and ran up the stairs to my room.

I am with you OP!

It’s a recipe for chronic constipation if you don’t go when you need to/ hold it in for days.

The only thing I'm funny about is I don't much like going in hotel bedroom Ensuites. As you don't then have a lounge to go and sit in if it's a bit pongy, nor air freshener on tap --so I will tend to use their main loos.

Fine if individual people make rules for themselves, but those who judge others are just making life even worse and more unpleasant for people living with IBS, Crohn's and similar conditions. Would you also judge somebody with type-1 diabetes finding a private place to go and inject insulin? It's actual ableism.

I can't help but see a parallel between the idea of judging somebody for doing a poo in a toilet cubicle and the still-persisting idea that breastfeeding in public is dirty or otherwise unseemly. "Yes, I know the baby has to be fed, but surely she could just wait until she gets home...."

I can't believe somebody would be judgy and weird about a friend, let alone a non friend visitor, using the toilet for its actual purpose unless they left it in mess.

I was holidaying in France and I needed to go. They have these public toilets where you press the bottom to go in and there's only one toilet. So was relieved to find a toilet and felt relief as there was tissue paper as well. Only problem was when I tried to flush the toilet, it wouldn't work. I tried several times. I gave up. Walked out and there was a couple waiting. I can't imagine what they thought when they saw my turd in the bowl. Even worse if the flush started working and them thinking i was a dirty person who deliberately didn't flush my poo.

It's not waiting though if you don't actually need to go? I don't need to go when I'm not at home. If I'm away for a weekend I just don't think about it, there is no urge to go. When at home I go every morning.

There is no waiting, there is no urge, there is no thinking about oh I can't go but need to. Then I get home and slip back into routine like it never happened. Like day to day if I'm at work/a friends/out shopping our whatever I would just never need to a poo, it's just not something that happens to me.

The only thing I'm funny about is I don't much like going in hotel bedroom Ensuites. As you don't then have a lounge to go and sit in if it's a bit pongy, nor air freshener on tap --so I will tend to use their main loos.

Just knock on the door of somebody else's room, ten doors down the corridor, pretending to be room service, and use theirs instead.

I can’t go anywhere other than home. Obviously being away on holiday is different, but work is a definite no no!

Don't ever buy a motorhome! Using the bog in a motorhome is like having a dump in a cupboard in your lounge, kitchen and bedroom simultaneously.

And I once got the urge to go when stuck in traffic on a dual carriageway. The traffic started moving while I was on the lav, and I was still there when we went round a roundabout. Most disconcerting.

I'd rather use a loo any loo than find a hedge to duck behind and sting my fat arse on a nettle.🤦‍♀️

YANBU I'm exactly the same. When we moved I struggled for weeks until the new house became home. We didn't sell the other house for a while after we moved so I used to go there for a poo!

Although YABVU to call it poop.

And I once got the urge to go when stuck in traffic on a dual carriageway.

I often wonder how people cope when stuck in a traffic when there's been a hold up on a motorway. One of my dreads

They do it because they are scared when they come out someone will find out.

Me i dont really care il go anywhere. If not at home though id open a window and spray something etc

I go (like clockwork!) every morning not long after my first cup of coffee and I'd rather that was on my own (freshly scrubbed/lemon-smelling) loo/throne.

When we go on holiday or are staying in someone else's house, it just doesn't happen. I then get bunged up for a day or two and it all gets a bit unpredictable. If that's the case and it's not my loo, I layer the loo seat in toilet roll. I freely admit to being a total saddo in this regard. 😂😂

YANBU!

Eh why did i say find out? I meant think it's them. I dont know what's wrong with me today keep typing the wrong thing 🤦🏼‍♀️😂