... to not poop in a toilet that's not at home?

[ImJustMadAboutSaffron]

If I can, that is, barring being taken short or being on holiday?

I have never understood the Mumsnet reluctance to poo in other people's toilets.

Would you rather shit your knickers instead?

I go when I need to but my hubby and one of my three lads will only go at home unless they REALLY can’t hold on. I don’t get it, but tbh I don’t try to understand - each to their own 😂

I can't, my body just says nope. My friend is the same way, except she got ill 💩 when we were out one night as teens. She was so embarrassed someone would come in. My friends and I started a mini dance party in the toilets so nobody would hear her 🤣

I physically can't do it either, I don't feel relaxed enough. I also use flushable wet wipes which I don't have access to in a public toilet.

I'm not a great judge though as I will also avoid peeing in public toilets if possible. I only tend to go if I'm desperate, I know I won't be home in a while or if I'm on my period and need to change my pad or tampon.

I'm like clock work after my morning coffee so wherever i am i go 😂

And yes, I would judge someone having a poo in my home too. Sorry.

Just when I thought people on MN couldn't get any weirder!

I think a lot of this stems from the female public toilets being used as a gathering place, there's nothing worse than needing a tom-tit and going in and finding a group turning around to stare at you, hanging around chatting etc.
Men generally see the toilets as functional for purpose and you never make eye contact or chat.

I also use flushable wet wipes

theres no such thing as a flushable wet wipe, no matter what the marketing says and I'm sure you know that.

There is actually, 'fine to flush'. Also, not flushing multiple at a time is required.

When I first left home I had to go back to my dms to go for number 2s for the first few months 😂

Even fine to flush wipes still have plastic in them and they don’t disintegrate in the sewer in the same way paper does.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-61922999

Warning: the pictures in this article are pretty disgusting.

Or standing around redoing their make up and fussing with their hair. I’ve actually been in this position at work, waiting for someone who is washing their hands to leave the loo because I don’t want to be farting and making plopping noises, and then I hear them unzipping their make up bag and faffing about.

There is actually, 'fine to flush'.

No. A quick google reveals the issues with even wipes marked in this way

www.today.com/today/amp/tdna151945

www.scottenglishplumbing.net/blog/4-reasons-why-you-shouldnt-flush-wet-wipes-down-the-toilet

www.natracare.com/blog/can-you-flush-wet-wipes-even-biodegradable-wipes/

I knew a guy years ago who would only poop at home. He would leave work to go home if need be. He also got really angry if anyone used his toilet for a poop. We were at his house for a party and he came storming in demanding to know who had used his loo! It was so bizarre. I don't know how he got away with the work thing but he used to drive home, poop and then drive back to work.

Lol. It's not a choice between pooing in a public loo or shitting yourself for most people. Obviously if you have an upset stomach or a medical condition that's different and I have used public loos in an emergency, but an average poo can wait until I'm on the comfort of my own throne.

The wipes get tangled up in sewage pumps (which cost thousands) and have to be cleaned out by hand. Extremely well qualified and well-paid engineers have to clean the wipes out by hand. Imagine someone doing that for your convenience (and taxpayers paying for it).

Just don't flush wipes. Even if they claim to be flushable. Thin paper is the limit for non-bodily products down the loo.

I don’t have a medical condition of that kind, but I have been in the situation where I just have to go. Holding it in and waiting until I get home isn’t an option. And it really isn’t good for you to do this on a regular basis.

This is an American article and references poop throughout, sorry about that

www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/is-it-bad-to-hold-your-poop#is-it-bad

but an average poo can wait until I'm on the comfort of my own throne

You might be able to wait but not everyone can, and not everyone is only ever a short time away from home.

I don't have any medical issues but often get very little notice or am will not be returning home for many hours.

I can only speak for myself. I don't care if people poo in public loos or in my loo I just would rather go at home unless it was an emergency.

Where to begin ...

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Anyone else been reminded of the “but I want to poo at Paul’s” air freshener ad?

Oh poor you @WhichWitchIsTheWitch that sounds really tough

No!!!

I’d like to see it though.

Yes! My neighbour is called Paul and it's a bit of a running joke in our house.