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To think secondary school rules are harsh and missing the point

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craxyrulebraker · 19/10/2022 22:19

DS has just started secondary I just think it is all too much and the focus is all wrong.

You have to ask to take your blazer or jumper off
warning about the 'wrong' type of PE shorts, etc
Not allowed to drink water in lessons
Cautions for forgotten kit
Detentions for homework not complete - even when its not clear who/how to hand it in

Meanwhile very little nurture or pastrol care; poor communication so children don't know what is always expected of them, but scared they will get a detention; hardly any SEN support; very little staff presence at break/lunch times or in corridors; problems with bullying. Schools can't do these basics but tell the kids off for wearing the 'wrong' grey trousers!!

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Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:16

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:04

I mean, they say they require them, but they don't actually require them. I can whole heartedly say I have never used GCSE science in my career. Or maths other than basic maths (which my husband who coincidentally doesn't have a GCSE and earns twice what I do, is also equally capable of!) And ditto English.

It's not an actual requirement in order to be able to do the job, for a lot of jobs.

But requirements for grades or subjects indicates a standard of education, even if you don’t use Pythagoras every day. The alternative is teaching people to read and nothing else, because what else do you need?

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:20

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:16

But requirements for grades or subjects indicates a standard of education, even if you don’t use Pythagoras every day. The alternative is teaching people to read and nothing else, because what else do you need?

You need lots of other things, of course. Life skills being one, but we don't teach them and we wonder why people don't understand their mortgage, or end up in mountains of debt, or whatever else. I don't think we should do away with lessons, especially history, geography etc actual things that have happened, the world around us. But I don't love that out ability to remember things can dictate the rest of our lives. Because that's all it is, coursework would probably be better test of actual understanding, I think.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:22

And also, having a good standard of education certainly does not mean you're any good at a job. I have literally worked with people who had PhDs but we're absolutely shite at their job! And people who were realistically "underqualified" but actually were shit hot in reality. It's really not the measure it should be.

Morph22010 · 25/10/2022 19:23

CecilyP · 25/10/2022 18:53

I think it’s probably fairly unlikely they have similar demographics! Or intakes based on ability on leaving primary school.

Aspirational parents would tend to put an outstanding school as their first choice, certainly ahead of one in special measures, regardless of their views on blazers or trainers. Less aspirational families will go for their nearest school. Presumably school 1 is oversubscribed, and school 2 gets more lower ability children based on the over subscription criteria. I guess school 1 also excludes more difficult children, then it’s off to school 2 with them!

I was thinking along similar lines school one doesn’t sound very accommodating to Sen, no reasonable adjustments. Overall Sen children don’t tend to perform as well in exams as non Sen so if you can lower your Sen population you will automatically improve your results

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:23

And I say this as someone who has really good GCSEs!

HiveBee · 25/10/2022 19:27

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Pissing myself laughing literally.

The real world you have literally no idea what is coming over the horizon in terms of technology.

Good quality roles oh my fucking god, I don’t know where to start 🤣🤣

DeLan · 25/10/2022 19:27

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Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:50

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:20

You need lots of other things, of course. Life skills being one, but we don't teach them and we wonder why people don't understand their mortgage, or end up in mountains of debt, or whatever else. I don't think we should do away with lessons, especially history, geography etc actual things that have happened, the world around us. But I don't love that out ability to remember things can dictate the rest of our lives. Because that's all it is, coursework would probably be better test of actual understanding, I think.

Why do you think we don’t teach life skills?

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:52

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 19:22

And also, having a good standard of education certainly does not mean you're any good at a job. I have literally worked with people who had PhDs but we're absolutely shite at their job! And people who were realistically "underqualified" but actually were shit hot in reality. It's really not the measure it should be.

It doesn’t mean you’re good at any job, but I don’t think anyone is claiming it does. A phd shows an academic standard that isn’t relevant in most jobs, but every single job requires a level (a standard) of literacy. We’re back to ‘teach only the basics’ again, and that’s a miserable society.

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:04

Life skills being one, but we don't teach them and we wonder why people don't understand their mortgage, or end up in mountains of debt, or whatever else.

Most schools do teach debt, savings, mortgages. Shockingly 14/15/16yos forget this knowledge when they need it aged around 30. It used to be parents who educated children with life skills; that home school partnership should still be there. Stop expecting schools to fill gaps left by crap parenting.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:10

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:04

Life skills being one, but we don't teach them and we wonder why people don't understand their mortgage, or end up in mountains of debt, or whatever else.

Most schools do teach debt, savings, mortgages. Shockingly 14/15/16yos forget this knowledge when they need it aged around 30. It used to be parents who educated children with life skills; that home school partnership should still be there. Stop expecting schools to fill gaps left by crap parenting.

Many don't!

I'm not expecting schools to fill gaps left by "crap parenting". However, it's a damn site more useful than Pythagoras' theorem isn't it? Which teenagers also forget Confused

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:11

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:52

It doesn’t mean you’re good at any job, but I don’t think anyone is claiming it does. A phd shows an academic standard that isn’t relevant in most jobs, but every single job requires a level (a standard) of literacy. We’re back to ‘teach only the basics’ again, and that’s a miserable society.

That's not at all what I'm saying though, is it?

Realistically GCSEs don't actually tell you anything.

Basics and actual useful information would be better, plus coursework and not tests. Actual understanding. Not pressurised exams. No part of that is "teach the basics" is it? No.

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:13

The teens that go on to use Pythagoras through A level and university, and sometimes in jobs, don't forget. Education should be broad enough for people to have options in life. We need some of the population to go on to jobs that use Pythagoras, we need some of the population to go on and use their knowledge of History, we need some students to be great photographers. We'd do a disservice by limiting students options to 'only what they need to function as an adult (eg mortgage, bills, literacy and cooking)'.

All schools will teach percentages, it is examined at GCSE and usually over multiple questions. Mortgages and savings are percentages.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:14

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 19:50

Why do you think we don’t teach life skills?

Why? Presumably because it's not in the curriculum? When a lot of other useless shit is?

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:15

How do you decide what is 'useful information'? Useful to you might be useless to the person next door.

Coursework is a cheats paradise, hence it getting scrapped. Coursework in maths 😂🤣😂.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:16

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:13

The teens that go on to use Pythagoras through A level and university, and sometimes in jobs, don't forget. Education should be broad enough for people to have options in life. We need some of the population to go on to jobs that use Pythagoras, we need some of the population to go on and use their knowledge of History, we need some students to be great photographers. We'd do a disservice by limiting students options to 'only what they need to function as an adult (eg mortgage, bills, literacy and cooking)'.

All schools will teach percentages, it is examined at GCSE and usually over multiple questions. Mortgages and savings are percentages.

Yes and I would imagine they are not the majority. Many of us have jobs where we use a specific thing but many of us learn that in further education or specific training. Again, I've not suggested we should only teach the basics. I've literally said this several times.

Mortgages and savings are percentages, of course, but they're not taught about those actual things are they. They're taught generally about % which many people clearly don't grasp relates to their mortgage and what they pay.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:18

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:15

How do you decide what is 'useful information'? Useful to you might be useless to the person next door.

Coursework is a cheats paradise, hence it getting scrapped. Coursework in maths 😂🤣😂.

Well useful information might me things the majority of people use in everyday life, no?

"cheating" what though? Themselves?

Exams test memory though. How is that any better of a measure?

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:22

I think the laughing faces are also a bit mean, to be honest. Clearly no consideration for those who really struggle in exams and don't get results that reflect their actual understanding. Very intolerant.

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:23

Many of us have jobs where we use a specific thing but many of us learn that in further education or specific training.

The way memory works is that it can only attach to existing 'data'. You need links between current knowledge to take on the specific training or further education. How would you know which bit of further education you need/want to do without some experience first?

Cheating to get better grades, yes. Not sure why this is a surprise.

I'd argue schools do teach the majority of stuff people use in life. Literacy, numeracy, manners, social skills, how to form an argument, physical health, mental health, respect, tolerance.

Fwiw the maths curriculum usually examines compound interest in the context of savings and uses the word interest and savings. Not quite the lack of link to real life you seem to think is happening.

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 20:24

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:14

Why? Presumably because it's not in the curriculum? When a lot of other useless shit is?

It is in the curriculum though.

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:26

How would you know which bit of further education you need/want to do without some experience first?

I mean, schools don't offer all the courses universities do, do they? That is quite literally what people already do.

Respect and tolerance seem to have gone a bit amiss.

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 20:26

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:11

That's not at all what I'm saying though, is it?

Realistically GCSEs don't actually tell you anything.

Basics and actual useful information would be better, plus coursework and not tests. Actual understanding. Not pressurised exams. No part of that is "teach the basics" is it? No.

Well actually, it is. That’s a very bare education system - who decides ‘understanding’ for example, if there’s no tests or exams?

Hercisback · 25/10/2022 20:26

I was laughing at the maths coursework I had to complete, and those I had to mark. Both ridiculous, not a show of my (or students understanding), instead a show of how well students copy. Because it was maths there was only one correct answer.

Coursework has its place for some subjects and can be utilised well under controlled conditions. You're all about the large majority being catered for, evidence is that exams suit the majority just fine.

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 20:27

Also, who decides what’s ‘useful’?

Catfordthefifth · 25/10/2022 20:27

Pumperthepumper · 25/10/2022 20:26

Well actually, it is. That’s a very bare education system - who decides ‘understanding’ for example, if there’s no tests or exams?

......I mean, teachers have done just that in the past couple of years. Also, coursework but apparently that's totally fucking stupid so what do I know.