Should I invite her over to meet her new niece ? Or be done with her?

[BlueBunny23]

So to cut a long story short… me and my partner have two children. A son and a brand new baby girl, when I got pregnant with my son, my partners brother and his fiancée found out and the brother was real happy for us, the fiancee on the other hand wasn’t and blocked us on social media and blanked us when we bumped into her, the brother apologised and claimed he didn’t know what was up with her. When son was born we invited them over and fiancée stayed in the car glaring at her partner holding his brand new nephew who I believe was 3 days old at the time give or take. We didn’t speak for 2 years after this when she bumped into us and told me about her fertility issues and her many miscarriages. She explained seeing me pregnant was so difficult for her, I forgave her and we became friends again, she told me she’s always wanted a daughter and if I’d of had a daughter she couldn’t have coped.
I found out earlier this year I was pregnant and we later found out it was a girl, when we announced the news I was again blocked on social media until last week when she readied me when my baby was 1 week old she’s now 2 weeks old. She hasn’t liked any of my baby pictures, she hasn’t messaged to ask if I’m ok or if baby is ok.
so my partner wants his brother to come see the baby and his brother wants too….. so he’s going to come alone and Not tell fiancee.
im annoyed she hasn’t messaged me or liked a baby photo of her new niece….. so I feel perhaps if I invited her over then she wouldn’t want too, my partner thinks I should block her and not bother with her at all and that we should just enjoy our baby and our children regardless weather she’s family or not. I feel if I invited her over to meet the baby it would almost be like rubbing her nose in it, would this be the case? Should I invite her over and try to make a things work? Or just leave her to come around or just simply block her and move on with my life?

Be grateful you haven't being in her position OP. For me it was 15 years of infertility and then once I was able to fall Pregnant I had 5 miscarriages. My 4th loss was by the hardest for me. 3 of us were Pregnant at the same time. 2 got to bring their Baby's home. We didn't and for along time seeing posts and pictures on Facebook tore me apart more and more each time. Now I can very rarely like someone's fb posts that have pictures of Baby's on them. It took me months to be able to walk past the baby clothes section without breaking down. Try having a bit more sympathy and compassion. You're happily celebrating your Baby. She's forever going to be grieving hers.

Let your BIL know she's welcome to come visit but you understand if she needs to protect herself by staying away. It's a difficult situation as your rightly annoyed by her blocking and ignoring your children but she's not doing that out of nastiness she will just need to protect her own wellbeing. I hope she comes round and yous can get it sorted. Congratulations on your baby

I don’t think she’s done anything wrong yet with the new baby has she?

The only things I saw are:

1. Hasn’t clicked “like” on social media posts. Liking photos isn’t obligatory and I don’t think most people count up who has or hasn’t liked their photos.
2. Hasn’t text you to ask how you are etc. She’s probably just finding it tough again. But the thing is, she isn’t your sister. She isn’t even your sibling’s spouse. She’s your spouse’s siblings’s spouse. It’s BIL who should be the one who is leading their relationship with you and your DH IMO. I don’t even have my DH’s brother’s long term girlfriend’s number. I don’t have a problem with her, but she’s just fairly far removed from me.

Don’t block her but don’t feel obliged to text her either. If she tags along with BIL, fine.

That’s extraordinary. OP are you jealous of your SIL? Is she doing better than you in some respects - bigger house, better job? Is that why you seemingly want to rub your fertility in her face?

My opinion is also that’s it’s always women that are expected to reach out, “like” social media photos, keep in regular contact etc etc.

If it were your DH’s sister’s husband not texting you and not liking your social media posts but a normal amount of contact and congratulations coming via the the sister, would you even notice the lack of it from the husband? Would it annoy you equally?

Just imagine your baby girl or your son not being breathing the same air as you. That is how she feels every time she looses her babies. You sound like you don't have a heart at all. I wouldn't want be around you. Your rubbing it in and even posting this surprised people would even take your side. If they do have no heart either.