AIBU to think DP is in the wrong here?!

[scige]

Hi all,

First-time poster, longtime lurker. As, I imagine, is the case with many posters, I've felt compelled to write today after a disagreement with my extremely frustrating partner.

I'll try and keep it brief...

DP's sister is getting married next year. DP, DC1 and I are all invited. Fab.

I'm currently pregnant and have since found out that unborn DC2 is not invited to the wedding. All being well, DC2 will be around 3 months old at the time of the wedding; DC1 will be 4 years.

They are not inviting any other children to the wedding but are making an exception for our first child. Not for the second.

I understand that not everyone wants kids at their wedding - totally fine with that - and so I suggested that I don't go and stay with both the children. DP is insisting that DC1 should go and states that if both kids can't go, he'd 'like at least one of them there.' 😐

AIBU for thinking this is not on? How can you pick between your nieces and nephews - one makes the cut and the other doesn't - and more concerningly, how, as their father, is DP okay with one child being picked and the other one being left at the sidelines? I just think it's so wrong. However, I'm fully aware that pregnancy hormones may well be influencing my perspective so I'm keen to hear some other viewpoints!

@SleeplessInEngland still a better end of the deal than her husband will have which may make op feel better about being excluded.

No new mum would leave a brand new born, so sil knows full well excluding baby is excluding Op

I’d stay with baby at home and let husband take 4 year old.

I think it’s a bit odd… I think most weddings would be ok with a baby not toddlers

Speak for yourself and yourself only. You can't make a statement like that. I'll be leaving my baby for a wedding at 3 months!

3 months is not a brand new born baby

@Confusion101

I thought baby would be 3 weeks.
My mistakeZ

I would also leave a 3 month old if I wanted to go. But would understand a mum not wanting to leave one child and take the orher.
It's up to Op.

Still think sil a brat tho.

Sorry but if this is a religious service I think the vicar/ minister etc would be unhappy to exclude children.

I personally invited everyone and I didn't like children at the time!
Of course everything has to be insta perfect these days and life is just not like that. A glossy wedding a marriage does not make.

Sorry but if this is a religious service I think the vicar/ minister etc would be unhappy to exclude children
What are you suggesting, exactly? It's perfectly true that nobody can be excluded from a church service, but steamrollering a baby in when it's been made very clear that the bride and groom would rather you didn't isn't a normal thing to do.
The vicar hasn't been asked for his opinion.

If I was the DF, I'd say my child, my sisters wedding and I'm taking DC1.