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Sibling getting married same year

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BlueberryFudge · 14/10/2022 19:03

AIBU to be a little irked one of our siblings is getting married two months after us? All of a sudden all wedding talk is about their wedding and how we can juggle stag and hen do's around our plans which have been set for quite a while now.

OP posts:
Cma1988 · 15/10/2022 07:47

My best friends brother got married the same week as her! It was deliberate as they had majority of their family coming from abroad, so it was so the abroad family could come to both and not have to make two trips. It meant her parents were slightly more stressed with two weddings going on, but mainly because they were hosting all the family. My friend wasn’t bothered in the slightest and actually enjoyed sharing the excitement of the week with her brother and sister in law. In fact, the only minor inconvenience was that she and her DH couldn’t go on honeymoon straight after her wedding, as she had to be a bridesmaid for her brother and sister-in-law a few days later - so she went on honeymoon about a week after her wedding which lots of couples do anyway. She and her brother and their partners ended up going on their honeymoons the same day but not to the same place! 😄

YABU sorry.

BeeDavis · 15/10/2022 07:58

Grow the fuck up 😩

kingtamponthefurred · 15/10/2022 08:37

There is a point in the marriage service where anyone present can object to the marriage taking place. I think you should definitely do that.

PanPacificBallroomChampion · 15/10/2022 09:54

kingtamponthefurred · 15/10/2022 08:37

There is a point in the marriage service where anyone present can object to the marriage taking place. I think you should definitely do that.

🤣😂🤣😂

PanPacificBallroomChampion · 15/10/2022 10:17

PortiasBiscuit · 15/10/2022 06:32

My brother married my best friend two months before my wedding. They kept it a secret so as not to detract from my big day.
I was extremely hurt, still upsets me 20 years later.

@PortiasBiscuit
Were you extremely hurt because

  • your brother married your best friend?
  • it was two months before your wedding?
  • they kept it secret (how secret is secret)?
  • they didn’t want to detract from your day?
  • all of the above?
20 years have passed and you are still upset? How was your wedding day affected?
Gymnopedie · 15/10/2022 13:36

STARCATCHER22 · 15/10/2022 06:26

I understand the point that you are trying to get across but it’s a bit rich to say the sibling is potentially trying to “be the centre of attention” and “expect to have their own way” when it sounds like that’s what the OP wants…

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You're picking up on two of my YANBU 'ifs', ignoring the matching YABU lists. Only the OP truly understands which it is or which it is likely to be. I started the post by saying that context is all.

While most women getting married don't turn into bridezillas, equally there aren't many who would be happy to be relegated to the back seats and treated as an afterthought to the main event, which is what the OP seems to feel is happening here. But we don't know whether she's right or not.

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