Sibling getting married same year

[BlueberryFudge]

AIBU to be a little irked one of our siblings is getting married two months after us? All of a sudden all wedding talk is about their wedding and how we can juggle stag and hen do's around our plans which have been set for quite a while now.

Serious case of Bridezilla going it on.

There's a reason it's called a wedding DAY not a wedding YEAR.

My now DH said we couldn’t get engaged at the same time as his brother 🙄 So we ended up having a baby before bil/sil (who I think felt outdone by this as they felt it was their turn first). Then we had no time for a wedding and finally got married 9 years later.

I still think DH was an absolute idiot about this!

To completely derail the thread...but on the back of what a PP said about marrying within a certain period...I've recently received a 'save the date' for a wedding in December 2024 🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️ That's SERIOUS pre-warning 🤣

And blimey...some people could potentially GET married and then be divorced within this sort of timeframe couldn't they?? 😱😬

Wedding rehearsals are necessary when you have a large bridal party. My brother and first SIL had ten bridesmaid and groomsmen, as well as two pages and two flower girls. It was a huge wedding, but SIL divorced him for one of his best friends who had been a groomsman.
Generally, cheaters choose someone in their immediate circle to cheat with. I knew SIL was cheating on my brother five years for the divorce.

I've never heard anything so ridiculous

Get over yourself

@BlueberryFudge

You said "yes I do 😞 "

I mean what sort of bizarre fantasy world do you live in??

If your stressing about this you really need to get a grip and realise there are far bigger issues out there than you dressing up as a meringues for one day

I got married 2 days after my sister 🤣 you'd disown me!

Luckily she isn't a self absorbed idiot and nor am I so it worked out perfectly.

I would be miffed too. I wish you'd put a poll up.

My DH got a nasty text from his DB when we chose a wedding date within 6 months of theirs. Whilst everyone was wishing us well and congratulating us, all my BIL could do was think of himself. My DH never got over it and it really damaged their relationship. Get off your high horse OP and be happy for them getting married like everyone else.

I’ve had this with a family member.

Theirs was planned for two years ahead, big wedding.

Ours was small planned for the same year, they were fuming.

Ended up bringing ours forward to this year for personal reasons, now married.

They were even more fuming, think we deliberately tried to upstage them.

People baffle me.

I would also be upset! I had a friend get engaged about a month after me and we ended up ‘planning’ across the same period - even though her wedding was six months after mine and a different year. It was all a bit annoying people would ask me questions and she would jump in & talk about her wedding. I always felt like because mine was first, I was having to share everything and then she was going to get a whole six months after my wedding for it to be about her.

Some people don’t care about this stuff and some people do and that’s ok! Weddings take a lot of energy and you spend alot of money - you really do want it to be all about you 😂

I got married three months later than DBiL - we had our booked first and then they booked theirs in just before ours. Didn't matter. We both had the weddings we wanted.

I think you have probably become caught up in your wedding so can't see that you are being unreasonable, but you cannot dictate the year they get married in. Also 2 months is a long time, if they were getting married the week after you it would be a different matter as it might clash with your honeymoon and it would be a lot for guests to go to both weddings ect. Be happy for your sibling and enjoy your wedding.

YABU, get a grip. There are plenty of people just delighted to be able to marry after Covid cancellations and you're bothered about a wedding 60days after yours!

It's the guests that have to book annual leave and spend on gifts that I feel for.

I’m going against the grain here and saying that would annoy me!! Families should space out weddings, it’s unfair on guests otherwise having to fork out a fortune in a small space of time

Two months is not long after.

If your wedding date has been set for quite a while, and they’ve just set theirs, that seems to me rather selfish of them.

You shouldn’t be having to ‘juggle’ anything. Not very sensitive of your sibling.

Why would they do this? Did they need to have their wedding on that particular date, for some reason?

Happened to us and I found it annoying. Particularly because they picked the same flowers, similar dress, same colour scheme. Icing on the cake was they even used the same vows as us except we had written them personally for each other. By which point everyone was a bit like "WTF". I just got drunk and had a REALLY big hat.

I’m one of 3 siblings. We all married within 7 months. One wedding was tiny, only immediate family and 1 friend each. The other 2 were similar sized, same family. DM was on first name terms with the lady in the hat shop! I don’t even remember who set the date first. One of us is divorced now…..so really, does it matter?

I might be a bit irked if my sibling planned their wedding for a few weeks BEFORE mine but only because much of the guests would be the same people.

Many of them would probably come to the first one but be unable to take time off / afford a second one right afterwards.

Otherwise no, I think two months afterwards is perfectly respectful to your plans.

YABU.

I would be fuming too 🤣

My brother got married 5 months after us, I wasn't offended at all

I went to the wedding of two siblings (identical twins) who got married on the same day. They had a double wedding!

Maybe you and your sibling could double up, OP, and share the costs?

We got married the same year (6
months after) my DH's youngest brother. Who cares??