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To not change the bed sheets immediately…

279 replies

DoreensEatingHerSoreen · 13/10/2022 21:13

... because they have a small amount of dried blood on them as my dog is in season.

My partner was furious when he realised that my Shih Tzu had left a small amount of period blood on our bedsheets. (Two dried spots, one the size of a 50p, one the size of a 20p). I was already in bed, tired having retuned from a week working away, and in the first few weeks of pregnancy.

Parter demanded that the sheets should be changed immediately, I said it would be fine til the morning, but if he wanted them changing that badly he should do it himself.

For context the dog is mine, I've had her since before we met and moved in together.

Not sure if I've set up voting or not but ...

YANBU - it's a small amount of dried blood, the sheets can be changed later or he can do it himself

YABU - that's gross, it's your dog, you should change the sheets immediately

OP posts:
PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 21:57

@Midnights how have you managed to stop your local birds shitting?! 😂😂

User38899953 · 13/10/2022 21:57

Vile.

They should be changed immediately.

Not everything has to be an argument, just change them together, it would have taken no more than a few mins if one of you stripped the bed, the other one grabbed the sheets.

Asparagoose · 13/10/2022 21:58

Not everyone gets their dogs spayed. If they did there would be no puppies for you to buy! My dog isn’t spayed because I intend to breed. And yes she has left a few spots here and there when in season. I do not follow her around bleaching everywhere she sits. Sometimes she has dried poop on her fur and I don’t realise till later, or even a slug that’s hitched a ride from the garden. I am very lax about everything and wouldn’t see the point of changing the sheet until the period (mine or hers) is finished. Who can afford to keep putting the washing machine on nowadays?

butterfliedtwo · 13/10/2022 21:58

OP, if you want kids, don't have them with his guy. He is not going to cope with the snot, sick, pee and poo that parents are inevitably clarted with.

Bit late for that one.

Timetosayno · 13/10/2022 21:58

🤢🤢🤢🤢🤢

PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 21:59

What about sperm? Do you all immediately change your sheets after having sex?

BadNomad · 13/10/2022 21:59

Put a nappy on your dog. Those swim pants work well. Just cut a hole for the tail.

Midnights · 13/10/2022 21:59

PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 21:57

@Midnights how have you managed to stop your local birds shitting?! 😂😂

I haven't? But the paths are hardly covered 😂 maybe being rural they choose to poo in more scenic locations? Local birds are mainly small hedge ones, no huge flocks of anything interesting here 😂

MinglingFlamingo · 13/10/2022 22:01

It depends where on my bed it would be. If it was by my feet. I'd wait until the weekend. I can't stand changing sheets and put it off as long as possible. If it was near my head then I'd have to change the sheet there and then

VeridicalVagabond · 13/10/2022 22:01

PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 21:43

What a lot of little snowflakes on this thread 😂 do you all realise when you walk on pavements your shoes are touching shit and piss? Better bleach your shoes. Eeww gross 🙄

So you'd be quite happy to kip out on the pavement then would you?

Mamai90 · 13/10/2022 22:02

That would turn my stomach and my standards aren't high, but I'd have got the lazy shite to change them himself.

Blackmetalmama · 13/10/2022 22:03

YABU. Absolutely disgusting. And pretty grim that you have the dog in your bed at all.

Blowyourowntrumpet · 13/10/2022 22:03

I'm sorry, but that's gross. Change the bloody sheets.

PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 22:04

@Midnights oh posh birds? They sound very considerate. Anyway I was taking the piss out of the people freaking out over a tiny bit of bodily fluid.

Cakeyface123 · 13/10/2022 22:05

Ooooo the scores are so close on this one!

OfficerArrestThatRuffian · 13/10/2022 22:06

I can completely understand why he'd want the sheets changed but demanding that you, pregnant (presumably by him) get up and change then because it's "your dog" suggests 1. He doesn't view your lives as entwined enough that home and pets belong to (and are the responsibility of) both of you - not good, and 2. He has absolutely no compassion for the amazing, exhausting job you're doing of growing a new human being inside your body.

The PPs saying, "oh, he just has no way of understanding how tired you are (bless him)," are entirely wrong in my experience. My lovely husband couldn't do enough for me when I was pregnant with our child; it was his way of looking after both of us. Regardless of a reasonable difference of opinion over whether or not the sheets need to be changed, the unpleasantly phrased demand that you hop to and do his bidding - to no benefit to yourself - while you are currently doing the vast bulk of the relationships physical labour has made me very cross.

On that basis alone YANBU. Tell him to sort his act out and stop being an embarrassment to his fellow men.

allboysherebutme · 13/10/2022 22:06

He should change them for you, you've been working hard and are pregnant
He should have just changed them himself not demand you do it. X

PoseyFlump · 13/10/2022 22:07

@VeridicalVagabond well done for misinterpreting my words 👏 I'm saying if you're grossed out by a speck of dried menstruation blood then how do you cope with life's other dirt? Scrub yourself with bleach?

Tlolljs · 13/10/2022 22:08

I wouldn’t have a dog on the bed in the first place.
I also think there’s a vast difference between dog’s period blood and babies poo or sick.

TolkiensFallow · 13/10/2022 22:10

my standards are low but that’s revolting

i don’t see why he couldn’t do it though

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allboysherebutme · 13/10/2022 22:12

@Summerfun54321 people homes who have dogs are not unhygienic if the person it's lazy and does extra, hoovering and moping.
Anyone can have an unhygienic house if they're lazy. X

Timetosayno · 13/10/2022 22:12

Tlolljs · 13/10/2022 22:08

I wouldn’t have a dog on the bed in the first place.
I also think there’s a vast difference between dog’s period blood and babies poo or sick.

👏👏👏

MasterBeth · 13/10/2022 22:14

Think I saw Dog Period Blood storm the John Peel Stage at Glastonbury 2007…

Grim as fucking fuck. Yuk. Revolting.

Asparagoose · 13/10/2022 22:15

I wouldn’t have a dog on the bed in the first place
My dog gets under the duvet with me and licks my face.

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