To leave 2 year old and 10 month old alone for a week?

[PrueHalliwell]

Well not alone obviously but with their grandma?

I'm 30 this month but on my birthday I'll be 38 weeks pregnant so that rules out anything exciting happening (unless I give birth! That'd be lovely)

So my husband has suggested we go for a week away next year to universal Florida as we both love it there ( we are big kids) but we don't think it'll be appropriate for a 2 year old and a 10 month old just yet plus would be nice to actually spend some time as a couple and I was really excited about it but now the mum guilt has started to creep in and I've started to feel really bad about leaving them.

My MIL has a good bond with my DS and DD isn't born yet but I'm sure they'll be okay - she's happy to look after them and they will be staying at our house with her and I'll know they'll be safe and have a good week but is it really selfish?

I just wanted to see what others thought before booking the holiday.

Thank you

aw the ten month off old will need her mom. Don’t go.

Ok next year, fine

None of that is happening

Apart from possibly leaving the kids for a week.

^This.

They Will never remember it, it's a week.... they will be loved and cared for in that time.....do it!!!!

What’s bonkers is your lack of comprehension skills

I didn't want to leave my kids when they were little except the odd overnight for a wedding type thing. I definitely didn't want to be in another country from them. But that was me. You need to do what feels right for you and ses how your kids are. If they spend a lot of time with their grandparents including overnights then it will be fine.

Maybe stay in Europe/UK and make it 3 nights? You can always go away for longer when they're older.

There is nothing wrong with it and if your kids are happy and you're happy then it is fine.

There's a lot of different opinions which is good and what I hoped for.

I think the most I've taken away is waiting until closer to the time and seeing how everyone is, how everyone's feeling, emergency plans etc and then doing what I feel is right which is all any parent can do really some at that time might think goings fine, others not but it's a year away and a lot can change.

Yes, I was confused by your post😂I don't see an issue, especially if the DGP are very involved in the DC lives

Thanks @OnlyHams , must be wonderful being perfect

I think you have such differing opinions on this as it’s so personal. I could quite happily have left my children at that age with grandparents. Some can’t cope being away for even one night. We’re all different so you need to judge for yourself.

I would never voluntarily leave my child for that long, and he’s 3.5 years old. A weekend? Fine. A whole week? Too long, in my view.

There is a long way between perfect and able to read properly

We went yo NYC when ours were 2.5 & 6 months. It was for a medical appointment that my DH needed otherwise I likely wouldn’t even have thought about going but we made it into a break for us too. We were away for 5 days in total and that felt enough. I was desperate to get back to them at the end of it even though I did enjoy our time away.

Kids were totally fine with Grandparents though (they also had extended family help if they needed it). Granted we were a long way if we needed to get back but we trusted our in laws and you’ll always have that worry if you ever go away long distance regardless of what age they are.

I haven't read all the replies but have read yours.

My ds had huge seperation issues.. honestly he would wake up if i left the room.

10 months old is also classic seperation anxiety time for babies.

It is what kind of baby you have that would be my biggest concern .

The distance my second

I had to leave ds when he was 11 months old for a week so maybe I missed it, I'm not entirely sure how it works to be honest but he has a secure attachment and doesn't suffer with separation anxiety.

I'll just have to see how baby is closer to the time, if she clings to me and can't cope then obviously I won't be going anywhere or maybe I'll book her on as under 3s are free (I'm kidding) I'm gonna leave it for now and see where we are next year and made hopefully a more informed decision then.

@OnlyHams well then you might have read I realised my mistake and reposted 3 minutes before you pointed it out

Personally no. I think kids that young shouldn’t be away from their main caregiver for a week. Very destabilising and personally I think can have lasting effects of insecurity. Kids that young can’t understand where you have gone and why. They have no bearing of time so saying mummy and daddy will be back in a week means nothing. Could be soon as a day. Could be a year or never for all they know. For me i would be worried that they thought I had left them. I wouldn’t be able to enjoy the time away at all.
save it for your 40th and have a lovely time away then when they will fully understand.
Each to their own of course but it’s not for me.

Leaving them for a week won’t be an issue, but it is very far away. I used to travel long haul for work when my kids were little and it’s hard being in such different time zones and knowing there’s Really limited flexibility in options for getting home if you need to.

I wouldn’t. A long weekend? Yes. A week away with long haul flights? No. I think it’s too far and too long to be away. But only you can decide if it’s right for you.

I have a 3 year old and 3 month old. If I could get a week away anywhere you better believe that I’m taking that offer!
Go and enjoy yourselves.

No way could I ever have done that. Just speaking for me, it’s up to you.

I'd be booking it with no hesitation

I think I'm just a bit unsure about the attachment things as if we do go then prior to that we work 8-12 hours a day, DS and DD will spending all day Monday with MIL, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday all day at the childminders and Fridays are usually spilt between my mum and grandma and I appreciate that's different because we're working but are they really gonna notice the difference? Maybe at bedtime I'm not sure but I wouldn't want to upset them - like said DS does this now and he's secure and happy but babies are all different however DD will still have to do this whilst we're working as we have no choice really.

Maybe I'm over thinking it now idk

Are you really asking if your babies are going to notice if you're there or not?

I find it really sad that you don't seem to realise how important you are to them on a day to day basis.