To leave 2 year old and 10 month old alone for a week?

[PrueHalliwell]

Well not alone obviously but with their grandma?

I'm 30 this month but on my birthday I'll be 38 weeks pregnant so that rules out anything exciting happening (unless I give birth! That'd be lovely)

So my husband has suggested we go for a week away next year to universal Florida as we both love it there ( we are big kids) but we don't think it'll be appropriate for a 2 year old and a 10 month old just yet plus would be nice to actually spend some time as a couple and I was really excited about it but now the mum guilt has started to creep in and I've started to feel really bad about leaving them.

My MIL has a good bond with my DS and DD isn't born yet but I'm sure they'll be okay - she's happy to look after them and they will be staying at our house with her and I'll know they'll be safe and have a good week but is it really selfish?

I just wanted to see what others thought before booking the holiday.

Thank you

I love Florida but there's no way I'd go without my baby, who's 9 months old, so we won't go again for years. Everyone is different but I wouldn't even consider it.

I went away for 4 days for work when my son was 11 months old and then again for 5 days when he was 13 months old. But it was for work and he was with his dad.

I probably wouldn't do this. I'd perhaps compromise and do a long weekend away somewhere closer to home, and save Florida for when your kids are a bit older and you can go as a family.

I personally wouldn't. It wouldn't even enter my head to do this to be honest. However in saying that we don't have a family member who would offer to take our children so this has never ever been an option for us. I'd do two or three days if I were you I think a week is too long personally

Don't people post these things because deep down they know it's wrong, but they're hoping they be surprised by responses and 'get away with it'?

Get away with what?

I suppose what the above poster means is get validation, or encouragement.

If the GPS are happy to have them II would go (and have gone)

Half of MNs will be horrified and half would be packing bags.

You might freak out at being that far away when the time comes! Eurodisney sounds great, what about that? Disney world but leaving the kids at home makes me feel weird 😅 But it's totally up to you and nothing to feel bad or guilty about, but the distance mightmake you wobble when the holiday gets closer.

Only you know your kids. But you don't know the youngest yet either. I wouldn't make any plans for a 10mo you don't know yet tbh. But if they're fine then it's fine. DS would be very upset so it would be cruel of me. But DN is perfectly happy away from her mum so it wouldn't be cruel of them. Different strokes for different folk.

I agree on another thread I have said exactly the same these decisions are so personal based on the parents but also on the children!

Not unreasonable to leave the kids but I'd be wary of travelling so far to such an expensive healthcare destination at 38 weeks pregnant

Took my two children at this age and the photos and memories we have are priceless. I would take them

I would be guilt ridden if I did that. Doesn’t mean you should not do it. I think a week is too long and it sounds a bit mean and selfish. I ah e grandchildren of a similar age. I’d be happy to have them 1-2 nights so their parents could have a break but a whole week? I’d refuse. Sorry, but you did ask!

Yes of course you should go, it's not like your leaving them with a stranger.They will love staying at your Mum's and I'm sure she will spoil them.

yeah, but most of them cope just fine doing a few hours here and there or a day once a week or an overnight once in a while. this is a 2 year old, plus a 10 month old who will need lifting all the time for a week, so, yes, I do think that's a lot, even with help.

I couldn't go that far at that age. I'm going to the US with DH later this year but DS is 5 and we're only going for 4 nights. I'm already anxious at the distance. In contrast, we went to Europe for 4 nights during the summer and I felt totally fine about that because we were only a couple of hours away.

It's not wrong though

Yes go, kids are very resilient, and they are with someone capable and someone they know.

We did a weekend away when my DC1 was about 18 months and honestly he couldn’t care less, I would face time and he’d be like “bye” and run off to play with all nanny’s toys. My youngest is 4 and still gets upset if I go away for a few days even if she’s staying home with daddy. Really depends on the child but I would maybe consider a weekend in Europe instead of a week in the US.

At least when mummy and daddy come back from holiday, they bring lovely toys - rather than a screaming newborn the toddler has to get used to sharing mummy and daddy with

I want to new york for 5 days between Christmas and New year leaving 3 dc aged 1,3 and 5 with m.i.l and f.i.l.. if you want to go and M.i.l will be happy looking after dgc why not. Children that young won't even remember you going.

I wouldn’t personally. I wouldn’t enjoy being so far away from them. Flights could be cancelled for a variety of reasons (volcanos, disease outbreaks etc.). I’ve left my 5 year old for a week for work and hated it. I like spending my time with them, they get big so quickly. I would worry the whole time. Imagine if one fell over and had to go to a&e while you are in America etc.? 10 months is very little (and mine didn’t sleep at all at that age so wouldn’t put that on a grandparent).
however it’s nobody else’s business so if you want to do it and your MIL is happy so don’t worry about what other people think only your kids. Would they be happy with MIL for that amount of time? 2 year olds can get very clingy on mum.

Go for it !!!

Its a long time for 2 young kids to be qithout both parents. A weekend id say go for it but I worked in childcare,ive seen parents go on honeymoon and leave yr old babies with grandparents only for the child to fret all week and grandparents tell the parents they were fine. IF they were fretting or were ill god forbid,you are very far away. But at the end of the day its about what you and your partner are comfortable with.

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its a holiday for her 30th!

it’s about her letting her hair down and celebrating! You can’t really do that with the kids there