To think boys shouldn't be in women's toilets

[verazayac]

...even if he's with his gay.

Just been to the shopping centre with toddler DD, she told me she needs the toilet so I took her, the women’s toilets are in a different place to the men's, I saw 2 girls with a teenage boy, I would guess between 16-18, they told him to go in with them as they didn't know where the men’s toilets were and told him he's gay and with friends anyway so he can't be accused of being a creep. I was a bit , I hurried DD and whilst we were washing our hands a few women did come in and look at him but didn't say anything.

Aibu to think he shouldn't have gone in the women's toilets even if he's gay and with friends?

Obvious from these comments that even as women, we are aware that men's toilets can be dodgy.

Most men are not attracted to other men, and of that small % of men who are, only a fraction will behave inappropriately in a public toilet, and a smaller fraction again will represent a danger to vulnerable men and boys.

Yet women are aware of the danger and seek to protect their young sons/adult sons with SN.

But most men are straight. That means that most men who are nuisances, exhibitionists, fetishists and sexual predators are straight also.

Can people who try to foist mixed sex spaces onto us really not see the very sensible reasons for providing single sex spaces for females?

When I'm their mother/carer, yes I am

@verazayac sorry tldr but YANBU

No. But women and girls in mixed-sex toilets (and allowing gay men, teenage boys etc in makes a facility mixed-sex) are attacked, spied on, secretly photographed etc very much more often than in women-only facilities. That is a big problem.

People on this thread need to get a grip talking about eight year olds invading womens spaces

When our little boys started using the men's bathroom my mum friend would stand in the doorway with the men's bathroom door open so she could hear what was going on inside. I appreciated that a lot actually. I was too embarrassed to do it myself but no man ever said anything to her.

I know right. We get it, your 'feminist values' mean you're somehow more vulnerable than a little child. Grow the fuck up.

I don’t understand why men are simultaneously too dangerous for young boys to be left with unattended yet safe enough to be admitted to women’s loos.

There is a reason why sex segregation exists and that reason is that 98% of assault, sexual crimes and violence are perpetrated by men.

Keep loos single sex.

Now that my son is 11 he goes into the men’s loos. I don’t like it but I believe that women deserve their single sex spaces and I can’t make an exception for my son. My 4 year old son comes with me though. My cut off is 10 for my sons.

At 16 that's too late to be uncomfortable. At that age it's a case of deal with it

The to girls should have asked someone where the mens toilets were. Eventhough he's gay he shouldn't be in the ladies toilets anyways.

FidgetWonkham · 11/10/2022 13:55
I have a young son. Id say a boy of 8/9/10 is more vulnerable in the mens toilets on his own than he is a threat to girls or women in the female toilets.

My son probably went in the Mens from about 9 or 10 but I waited outside feeling very uneasy about “

Absolutely agree, I felt exactly the same when our youngest was a young boy. .