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To think he named his DD after me

137 replies

LetMeSpeak · 10/10/2022 21:12

So a few months ago I had got back contact with an ex from years back in my high school days. The man is even more of a bigger knob now than back then. He was bragging how “successful” he was, talking about his big finance job etc. Then he proceeded to call me his “first love” and told me that he would constantly check on my on social media for years and that he was “devastated” when he found out I was had gotten married. I then blocked his number and blocked him on the social media he added me on.

Now months later I get a request from him on Facebook and I accepted (like an idiot 🙄). I then see on a recent post he has a picture of his new baby daughter who has the same name as me! Spelt exact same way ( it’s a unique name in this country and way of spelling it is also unique). What in the Adam Levine is actually wrong with this man? Why would he do this and why would he not ask for my permission?

It’s not a coincidence as he told me his children were named after his friends. His daughters middle name is his sisters first name as well.

Im just in shock. His girlfriend is rather young as well poor thing. Aibu? or do I need to just calm down.

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VladmirsPoutine · 10/10/2022 21:29

If I were you I'd block, delete and carry on with your life. All of this is so unnecessary and has absolutely zero bearing on your current life.

Macaroni1924 · 10/10/2022 21:30

Ask permission 🤣🤣

Also suspiciously sound like the next headline in the DM 🤔

LetMeSpeak · 10/10/2022 21:31

He doesn’t “suggest” names to his gf . She most likely forced to agree with it. she doesn’t have any say in the names. He’s a complete knob. Hes manipulative and I feel sorry for her.

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America12 · 10/10/2022 21:31

My ex did this - no animosity though. I was flattered

MarshaMelrose · 10/10/2022 21:33

He’s a complete knob.

But.... if anyone wants to use his name, do they have to get his signed permission? 😆

Blueeyedgirl21 · 10/10/2022 21:33

Op it is a bit weird don’t know why anyone would say it isn’t !

best t just forget about it though

also Adam Levine was rumoured to be having an affair with Sumner Stroh (a model, and yes her name is SUMNER not SUMMER) and he asked if the baby his wife is currently pregnant with is a boy, could he name him ‘Sumner’ after her. There are screenshots of the texts for proof.

sandytooth · 10/10/2022 21:33

LetMeSpeak · 10/10/2022 21:31

He doesn’t “suggest” names to his gf . She most likely forced to agree with it. she doesn’t have any say in the names. He’s a complete knob. Hes manipulative and I feel sorry for her.

Why did you get back in touch with him then? Seems an odd thing to do.

MrsReeves · 10/10/2022 21:34

PinkButtercups · 10/10/2022 21:26

Permission to use your name? Okay Beyoncé.

🤣🤣🤣

Toottooot · 10/10/2022 21:35

So fits yer name then?

AnnieEva · 10/10/2022 21:38

Just block him and forget about it. What would/can you do about it? He told you that he named his children after friends and family. One of my children has the same name as one of my ex boyfriends (of many years ago) but that’s just coincidence.

FistFullOfRegrets · 10/10/2022 21:39

Sounds like a bucket full of teenage nonsense.

you're making a lot of assumptions about his gf (though she's surely his partner by now & not that young with several kids together)

if this was supposed to be a brag you need to tell a bunch of teenagers instead, but even they will probably think you're behaving like a loon.

you don't own your name, being 'your' name doesn't make it exclusively yours.

jesus, it's like a reception class lesson on a wet grey day.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 10/10/2022 21:40

Mine did this. I guess it meant he didn't have to get rid of the tattoo 🤣

Lampan · 10/10/2022 21:42

Luckily it doesn’t affect your life in any way. Since he’s such a knob, I would completely block him, forget him and move on.

Hearthnhome · 10/10/2022 21:43

Wtf?

He was knob but you ‘reconnected’ anyway. They found out he was a bigger knob so blocked him. But before that you were in touch enough that he detailed How he names his kids. You went into that level detail?

But when he added you on another social media platform….you accepted again. Despite knowing he was a knob?

Now offended by his name choice.

You clearly love the drama of him. Hope your husband knows all this.

as an aside why are there so many posters, recently, whose ex has named a child after them and they are offended by it?

Banana2079 · 10/10/2022 21:44

He might be a nob but you do not own the rights to your name and he definitely does not have to ask for your permission just block him and move on 🙄

HeadNorth · 10/10/2022 21:45

An ex of mine did this - like a PP I found it quite flattering & thought no more about it.

AmyDudley · 10/10/2022 21:46

Can't say it would bother me, but then I'm not in touch with any exes that were knobs so I wouldn't know if they'd named their kid Dodecahedron after me.

CosyDarkNights · 10/10/2022 21:47

Ask your permission?? 🤣 you sound nuts, is your name copyrighted lol?

Begoniasforever · 10/10/2022 21:47

Ask your permission, you can’t be serious?

move on. He clearly has. It’s over op.

Banana2079 · 10/10/2022 21:48

Also how do you know that the girlfriend has no say? You just said that you don’t know her

tonystarksrighthand · 10/10/2022 21:48

I've given up drinking but Christ what the fuck have I just read?? Adam Levine? ... asking your permission??? Girlfriend is young poor thing?? Confused

KermitlovesKeyLimePie · 10/10/2022 21:48

Is your ex Elon Musk and his Gf FKA Twigs?

If so, I can see your point about the "uniqueness" of your shared names and he should pay up for breaching your copyright.

Grapewrath · 10/10/2022 21:49

You’re really overthinking this.
Unless your name is completely made up or unheard of it’s likely just a coincidence- or maybe his girlfriend liked it? Either way you’re making a massive drama out of absolutely nothing

Riverlee · 10/10/2022 21:50

I’d feel a bit creeped out about this as well. Every time he says her name, it’ll be a reminder of you. I wonder if his partner realises she has been named after an ex, or thinks it’s just a name he likes.

However, he doesn’t need your permission.

Letsdorevenge · 10/10/2022 21:51

I agree with you op. It's weird as hell.