Does my partner owe me cash for injuring me ?

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Partner and I had a fight a year ago. It got physical and my finger got broken. Never been physical before or since. Both of us very ashamed. Basically- I’d been drinking & he was sober. Big argument kicked off. I went to bed as could see where it was heading ( big argument I mean-
not physical fight) I told him to sleep in other room but he followed me in and continued arguing. Tried to take duvet off bed. I was shouting at him and holding onto duvet. He slapped me ( only time ever happened) and there was scuffle. Finger obviously broken and confirmed by ED. So this were gets complicated. Turns out I have benign tumour in finger which why broke so easily.
Had hellish year of operations/ bone grafts / infections which has cost me a fortune and all my sick pay. I’m angry as if he hadn’t assaulted me in first place this wouldn’t be happening ( but probably would have at some point ) but yes not his fault I had tumour which means it broke so easily / isn’t healing. So AIBU to expect him to pay for operations or generally feel responsible
for what happened or do I suck it up?

This not about how dysfunctional it was to have this fight in the first place- that’s a WHOLE other post! Genuinely interested in peoples thoughts

Sorry but why are you still with this violent man?

Directory for my local hospital.
Oh look at that - Accident and Emergency.

OP. Tricky one. I must say I think you are misdirecting your anger at his behaviourcausing you financial difficulties. Has this incident and the aftermath been discussed at your therapy sessions?

If you were a visitor in his house yes, domestic third party insurance would cover it, generally members of the same “household” can’t sue each other, but I’m sure there are exceptions.

In your case you were drunk, the weakness in the finger was unknown and injury was not foreseeable, you would not win anyway. He was wrong slapping you but that’s a criminal offence nothing to do with compensation.

Completely untrue. There is nothing saying that people in the same household cannot sue each other, and this is potentially a civil wrong as well as a criminal offence.

OP, you might do better posting in the legal section. It's extraordinary how people who have no clue about the relevant legal principles always post with such confidence on issues like this on threads like AIBU and Chat, and in fact it's really quite dangerous.

OP is not in the UK and could be anywhere in the world, with any legal system. Nobody, here or in Legal, can give her any useful legal advcie at all.

Considering she hasn't actually said where in the world she is, she won't necessarily get good legal advice, but if you're going to take your partner to court for payment you may as well end the relationship now.

Don't partners share costs and help each other out? If he's not doing that, he's not much of a partner.

I don't think the OP is after legal advice here.

Demonstrating different legal approaches can be useful as it explains the reasoning, but no one is sueing anyone now.

I understand the question as asking for support for/warning against opening this topic with her partner.

The obvious answers are that a real partner is person who would offer, or at least where she wouldn't feel bad about discussing it.
When discussing, I see it as a result of common action, so I 'd expect common remedy.

No your ex doesn’t owe you any money.

Again it’s a benign tumour. No danger of it spreading or cancer. Also there’s no question of me suing him. Just as someone said “does he have a moral obligation to help with the financial fallout”. We don’t have shared finances at all due to various non relevant reasons - mostly me though as had rough divorce - (no not rough like that ) and like to have total control of my money and how it is used. Ergo my frustration at medical bills I feel I didn’t deserve or contribute to the cause of. BUT about 97% of people disagree with me so glad I asked as don’t want to make what is / was a shitty situation worse.

What an odd relationship.