Does my partner owe me cash for injuring me ?

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Partner and I had a fight a year ago. It got physical and my finger got broken. Never been physical before or since. Both of us very ashamed. Basically- I’d been drinking & he was sober. Big argument kicked off. I went to bed as could see where it was heading ( big argument I mean-
not physical fight) I told him to sleep in other room but he followed me in and continued arguing. Tried to take duvet off bed. I was shouting at him and holding onto duvet. He slapped me ( only time ever happened) and there was scuffle. Finger obviously broken and confirmed by ED. So this were gets complicated. Turns out I have benign tumour in finger which why broke so easily.
Had hellish year of operations/ bone grafts / infections which has cost me a fortune and all my sick pay. I’m angry as if he hadn’t assaulted me in first place this wouldn’t be happening ( but probably would have at some point ) but yes not his fault I had tumour which means it broke so easily / isn’t healing. So AIBU to expect him to pay for operations or generally feel responsible
for what happened or do I suck it up?

This not about how dysfunctional it was to have this fight in the first place- that’s a WHOLE other post! Genuinely interested in peoples thoughts

Well this sounds healthy.

No, he does not owe you money.

Since we're being dysfunctional you could say you owe him for finding the issue sooner.

Turns out I have benign tumour in finger which why broke so easily.
Had hellish year of operations/ bone grafts / infections which has cost me a fortune and all my sick pay.

Surely the year of hell is due to the tumour, not the broken finger - a broken finger would normally heal in a straightforward way? Hoping it's OK now . You probably need legal advice relevant to the country you're in about the viability of a personal injury claim, but on a moral level you've said nothing to suggest the fight wasn't 50/50 in terms of fault.

You must be joking OP.

No.

Surely in a roundabout way he saved your life as the cancer was found 🤷‍♀️

Totally toxic attitude.

Really ? Your only concern is if he owes you ?

He slapped you and broke your finger. Why on earth are you still with him? Despite what a lot of posters seem to be implying, you did not deserve it for being drunk or starting an argument. He was sober, he should have walked away, instead of assaulting you. There's no excuse for domestic abuse! None. Not even if you provoked him. Shame on anyone who tells you otherwise.

I doubt you will be able to get money from him. Do yourself a favour and leave before it happens again.

OP mentions ED. Don’t think they’re in the U.K.

What an absolute shit show .

Though she says it's a benign tumour so presumably not a risk to her life (though potentially a risk to the finger it was growing in given the problems.)

not his fault I had tumour which means it broke so easily / isn’t healing.
WTF have I just read?
IF HE HADN'T ASSAULTED YOU, YOUR FINGER WOULD NOT HAVE BEEN BROKEN.

You had gone to bed to take yourself out of the argument zone for goodness sake. This is 100% on him.

which has cost me a fortune and all my sick pay
Why has it cost you a fortune, when it is all bully boy's fault?
Why are you still even with him?

Quite. And I would wonder about the OP's version of events. They were drunk but managed to not get physical. Remarkable self-restraint because my observation of drunk people arguing is that they often get physical. I suspect the truth is that there was a lot more "scuffling" than suggested here. No excuse for violence on the part of anyone, but I suspect the OP's memory of the incident may be tinted slightly.

No... why would he pay because you had a tumor in your finger that caused it to break easily? The dynamics of this relationship are pretty hectic you need to leave him and find something healthy where you treat each other well.

Basic legal principle - you take your victim as you find them and pay for the consequences of what you do. It's known as the eggshell skull principle - i.e. if you hit someone on the head and their skull fractures because the bone is so fragile, you are liable for the fractured skull.

Why would you have to pay for an operation..?

And no, he does not owe you any money.

However, despite the eggshell skull principle, the boyfriend wouldn't be liable for treatment for the tumour, and indeed damages may be offset by the fact that you may have benefited from having the tumour discovered earlier than might otherwise be the case. There may also be a degree of contributory negligence if this was part of a scuffle that you participated in.

Do you or does your boyfriend have household insurance that might cover his liability?

ED is what it is called in the UK. A&E has not been used for many years.

ED was introduced to try to discourage non emergency problems to free up ED’s.

So this were gets complicated. i think this is a misunderstanding on your part OP, it was complicated from the start.

Also, are you thinking about how money is sometimes awarded in a court of law? Outside of this your partner wouldn't owe you money.

So this were gets complicated. i think this is a misunderstanding on your part OP, it was complicated from the start.

Also, are you thinking about how money is sometimes awarded in a court of law? Outside of this your partner wouldn't owe you money.

To clarify- no I’m not in the UK and my costs have been for X-rays / unable to work due to time off for medical appointments & surgery / taxis ( couldn’t drive for awhile)

Reason I didn’t go into argument is because absolutely you are all right 100% revolting behaviour on both our accounts. Was awful period in our relationship which we have discussed and regretted immensely. We are in therapy and trying to move forward but every other month my finger seems to get new infection or I need another expensive medical appointment. I’m finding it hard to move on from the resentment of being so utterly fucked financially whereas he seems to have accepted that it was just “unlucky,” Yes maybe it would have happened in the end but it happened because he followed me into the room and started a fight. To be clear - I had removed myself from the situation to deescalate the argument but yes when he followed me I was as bad as him ( actually no I wasn’t as didn’t hit him but was verbal)

This, completely.

Why does he stay with a drunk?

You could try a personal injury claim but it could cause things to become very complicated between you.

I don't know where to start with this OP. What future do you see with him? If you want to be together in the long term then you should be sharing financial burdens no?

ED is what it is called in the UK. A&E has not been used for many years.
Off topic but it literally has Accident & Emergency above the relevant door at my nearest (UK) hospital.

Do you live together? Share finances? Surely he is also feeling the pinch if one of you is being affected financially.