Does my partner owe me cash for injuring me ?

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Partner and I had a fight a year ago. It got physical and my finger got broken. Never been physical before or since. Both of us very ashamed. Basically- I’d been drinking & he was sober. Big argument kicked off. I went to bed as could see where it was heading ( big argument I mean-
not physical fight) I told him to sleep in other room but he followed me in and continued arguing. Tried to take duvet off bed. I was shouting at him and holding onto duvet. He slapped me ( only time ever happened) and there was scuffle. Finger obviously broken and confirmed by ED. So this were gets complicated. Turns out I have benign tumour in finger which why broke so easily.
Had hellish year of operations/ bone grafts / infections which has cost me a fortune and all my sick pay. I’m angry as if he hadn’t assaulted me in first place this wouldn’t be happening ( but probably would have at some point ) but yes not his fault I had tumour which means it broke so easily / isn’t healing. So AIBU to expect him to pay for operations or generally feel responsible
for what happened or do I suck it up?

This not about how dysfunctional it was to have this fight in the first place- that’s a WHOLE other post! Genuinely interested in peoples thoughts

How is she 'a drunk' when she states she got drunk once a year ago??

Don't you have insurance for this sort of thing? I've no idea how it works but if I had no nhs I'd be making sure I had decent insurance to cover me for medical care. What would happen if it was cancerous and you had no cover? Completely missing the point but sounds like you are gambling having no medical cover.

I’m praying this is a joke. Regardless, looking at this in the massively distorted way you appear to wish to, it is the tumour that had caused these problems, he possibly saved you money as without the finger being broken you’d have found the tumour later and it could have been much worse. But this really really should not be about the money.

It's still called A&E whoever said it is ED.

All the road signs say A&E.

WHY THE ACTUAL FUCK ARE YOU STILL WITH THIS LOSER OP!?!?!?!? JUST LEAVE!

The tumour was benign which means it would not have killed OP.

ED is what it is called in the UK. A&E has not been used for many years.

Why do people talk so much bollocks?

Well aside from you're still with him so you make your bed you lie in as they say

If he hadn't broken it you'd never have known about the tumour?

If it's not called A&E, why does my local hospital have a huge sign that says Accident and Emergency Department?

MN has really jumped the shark lately.

You both sound as bad as each other.

I wonder how accurate your recollections are of the events if you were drunk.

You say he slapped you (unacceptable of course) then grabbed the duvet, you clung on and in the process you hurt your hand.

Taking the whole money side out of this, (which is a red herring really) why are you together?

Some couples can move past a physical outburst, as they thrive on drama, others can't.

ED is what it is called in the UK. A&E has not been used for many years.
Off topic but it literally has Accident & Emergency above the relevant door at my nearest (UK) hospital.

Same. Plus road signs.
Plus all the "fly on the wall" programmes on TV, like "A&E after Dark" and "24 Hours in A&E"

I seem to find the terms A & E and E D used pretty interchangeably in
the UK. The US term is ER (Emergency Room). Not sure about
other English-speaking countries such as Canada or Australia.

I work in the NHS… it’s emergency department where I am. Not utter bollocks at all.

You missed the word 'benign' - it's not cancer.

I feel like the therapy isn’t going well if this resentment hasn’t been dealt with.

Nobody is covered glory in this situation but the finger break would have most likely happened at some other time if it was weakened due to the tumor. You would have been dealing with the same set of circumstances.

So with all that being said, I honestly don’t know how to answer your question. If you are not sharing finances then I’d guess I’d say no he shouldn’t pay for the ongoing treatment related to the tumor. He should have paid half for the initial break.

I work in the NHS… it’s emergency department where I am. Not utter bollocks at all

That may be what people call it as shorthand when they are speaking, but it' s not what road signs say, or directions.

I work in a Hospital. We switch between ED and A&E, but mostly use A&E. There's no 'rule'

It absolutely is what’s on the signs here too, I have just looked through my emails and jobs are advertised as “Emergency Department”.

www.theguardian.com/politics/2003/jan/12/health.nhs

I did a quick Google, most NHS pages say A&E/ED, then refer to the department as ED after. Road signs etc are still in place in some
areas, yes. It’s to avoid confusion; but very much a thing that DID happen.

Your being called ED does not mean the post you quoted was not utter bollocks.
PP said A&E hasn't been used in the UK for many years, which is utter bollocks as many many hospitals still have huge signs over the doors saying A&E.

I do hope your comprehension skills are better for medical matters.

It’s a benign tumour in finger joint- I could have had it for 20 years! I could have ten more. Anyone could. The docs say doesn’t cause fractures but complications with healing (but the physios say they suspect they do cause breaks due to the frequency they see fractures in same place.) anyway appreciate feedback - pretty much unanimous I’m unreasonable. Arse, I’d been hoping for it to go my way 😁

YOURS

ED is what it is called in the UK. A&E has not been used for many years.

What rubbish

If you're in a serious relationship, don't you have joint money? I don't understand why he owes you for something that would have happened some other time, the other issues he didn't 'cause' albeit yo were both in the wrong arguing and fighting when drunk

Same. I drive past our local one most days and it very clearly says 'Accident and Emergency' over the door.