Hi just a brief background, I live at home with ds1 and dd2 with my mum and step dad. I was due to move out but relationship broke down. Ever since I have been trying to find appropriate housing but I am on the housing list and it’s just a waiting game. I am in no doubt denying I have debt, but I believe it to be my own problem to deal with. It’s the likes of credit cards, old debts wanting a monthly payment but of course they send letters regularly. I’ve come home from work recently to find that my letters have either been opened or even been confronted by my mum and quizzed on what the debt is and why I have it. Made to feel like a 5 year old. My step dad even took some of my letters to my mum as they arrived from the post man and told her to open them so they can find out who they’re from. Am I being unreasonable to think this is an absolute joke?? With regards to step dad I don’t really get on with him a great deal but for the sake of my mum I make the effort.
AIBU?
Am I being unreasonable?
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POLLLily9915 · 09/10/2022 04:18
@XDownwiththissortofthingX thank you as you’ve actually highlighted it is illegal which I did suspect
Lily9915 · 09/10/2022 09:39
@mountainsunsets as I stated after that I did mention the roof over my head which I am grateful for. I do a lot in return to help them out too. But with regards to food, paying for my children I pay for this myself and as I’ve stated I contribute to the bills.
Lily9915 · 09/10/2022 11:21
@mountainsunsets conversations have been had about me moving out and every time it creates more of an issue because my mum wants me to stay there. She makes me feel like bad mother if I was to uproot my child because he is settled into school. Also passes comments about areas surrounding that are ‘rough’ and no place to bring up children.
and I have told her about my debt and I told her that now I am working I can start paying it off.
Lily9915 · 09/10/2022 11:21
@mountainsunsets conversations have been had about me moving out and every time it creates more of an issue because my mum wants me to stay there. She makes me feel like bad mother if I was to uproot my child because he is settled into school. Also passes comments about areas surrounding that are ‘rough’ and no place to bring up children.
and I have told her about my debt and I told her that now I am working I can start paying it off.
Lily9915 · 09/10/2022 13:14
I’m not comfortable into going into detail about why and how my relationship broke down and why I didn’t move out again. My mum knows why and fully supported and encouraged me to remain at home. I am not minimising what she does for me by letting me stay there. I am simply pointing out I don’t expect all this for nothing I am not leeching off her. As I’ve also said many times, my step dad is irrelevant as he is also in debt up to his eyeballs, has had bailiffs come to my mums house for his own debt and he simply moved into the property he does not own, part own or pay rent either. He likewise contributes to the bills. My point regarding him was that he also feels he can either open my post, tell my mum to open my post or create drama between me and her. I wish I hadn’t mentioned him but he was part of the initial thing with opening post that’s why I did.
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