To get so pissed off with the sarcastic sods on here

[Herecomethesheep]

I don’t subscribe to the ‘sarcasm is the lowest form of wit’ view. But on here generally it isn’t funny, it’s either rude, unkind or more usually both.

So someones just started a perfectly harmless thread about a clothes shop and instead of replying ‘oh, did you know they have a petite range, I’ll link you’ we have You do know they have a petite range, right?

Its everywhere. Is it just me who is sick to death of the snark? I mean, sometimes there is help and support and just sometimes a nice chat on here but there’s always someone wanting to be an arse. And WHY don’t MN deal with it?

Some people also say utter nonsense and comment on things they have absolutely no knowledge on...yet they speak like what they're saying is factual.

Like a poster who said giving notice when you resign was just courtesy and you didn't have to. I did respond very sarcastically, as she was talking pure nonsense.

What over-simplistic nonsense. People are inhibited from offering honest opinions face to face for a variety of reasons. This is simply a different environment, that's all - oh and yes I'd say that to your face.

It's awful. Sometimes you come for genuine advice and some of the replies are just awful. If you didn't feel bad before starting a thread, you will afterwards!

That's no different from real life - people at work and everywhere spout utter shit on things they nothing about all day long. some of them are politicians :)

It's not as if it's unexpected in AIBU though is it?

Actually, I have been here 10 years + and it's not any ruder - but I do think you are right about the number of totally fictitious threads.

Theres some real nastiness lately, I was thread a while back and comment pretty much in line with all the other posters but was singled out by one mumsnetter and on the receiving end of some really nasty comments and was pretty much trying to goad me into a row. Can't be bothered with people like that, did make me think twice about whether to bother with mumsnet anymore as its not a always thats nice a place to be sometimes

people start disbelieving absolutely everything and post accordingly.

I agree, it's very difficult not reacting to a thread that is so clearly made up, attention-seeking, look at me, or ones where a quick Google would give them what they need. I'd have respect for someone who said

"I've had to alter a few details to maintain privacy"

or

"I've tried Googling it, but only found XYZ and that's not what I'm asking". If someone isn't prepared to even start to help themselves and wants MNers to become their Google slot-machine - stick in a coin and out splurges the answer, then it does tend to grate on people who are normally willing to support.

or someone who has already posted about their ghastly abusive partner on 4 separate threads over 6 months, gained access to fantastic support and information and still comes on asking the same thing again and again. And done absolutely nothing about their situation, Then you do start to wonder if they are a troll.

www.mumsnet.com/talk/holidays/4651631-masks-on-planes?reply=120614454

Check the first response

That was me! I could have googled it I know, but it was nice getting real life experiences from people who have recently traveled!!

Yes I get it ! I was going to reply but wanted this place to know that's exactly what we are talking about! Winds me up! @the80sweregreat
Hope you have a lovely holiday!

Your response was perfect though. Some people are so one-dimensional that they don't get that people use MN in addition to Google as opposed to instead of. As you say, people want personal responses, not Google.

Me too
I get sniped by people all the time

You know what I change usernames and I still see the same abrasive posters over and over and over
Fed up

It stops me from replying to people I am hurt by it and it's like I'm not allowed to be.

Thank you
The holiday threads are normally nice.
Twitter is worse than here though
It can be a bloodbath over there :(

All those of you complaining - do you report these nasty/sarcastic/passive aggressive (etc) comments to MNHQ? They may not delete that specific comment, but it helps to get specific posters on their radar.

If I feel it warrants it @BIWI but I’ll be honest, unless a post specifically breaks TGs I don’t feel like MNHQ want to know.

The debacle with the private email addresses being sent to MRAs didn’t help to encourage reporting.

You might, there are plenty on here who wouldn't. I can spot the big gobs a mile off, and I know they wouldnt be so brave in real life. Thats when I know just to ignore, roll my eyes, and scroll on by.

*@WatchoRulo

That's no different from real life - people at work and everywhere spout utter shit on things they nothing about all day long. some of them are politicians :)

True... but I'm not in a position to respond to politicians. 😆

If someone I knew did say something so ridiculous...like the example I gave, I'd correct them.

It’s pretty horrible when that happens, @Tara336 and you feel ‘got at’. Best thing is to ignore them completely. Just blank them, and respond to nicer posters.

I have deleted threads before now where I just can’t be arsed with it any more.

Threads that always raise an eyebrow are the ones where the OP will only respond to the few arseholey posts, not the in-the-majority supportive ones. And the whole thread becomes a huge fight. I’m suspicious.

@AutumnCrow yes I just completely ignored it but it makes you wonder why some people feel the need to behave like that, as others have said would they say that to someone direct? Probably not! Just keyboard bullies really

I really don't think that's true @Herecomethesheep - MNHQ always encourage reports.

And TBH, if you're not reporting then nothing can change.

You were probably just a random 'mark', @Tara336, and there's nothing you could have done or not done about it.

I have in the past reported 'hounding' of posters where I see it to @MNHQ for them to have a look at. Ditto potential sockpuppeting, where another 'hounder' joins in from nowhere.

I think my best advice would always be: find some boards and threads where you can have robust but good-natured discussions, and avoid AIBU.

The thread yesterday about the woman telling her husband not to wear a lanyard when driving was shocking! The amount shitty and sarcastic replies, when all the woman was doing was thinking about her husbands safety.

Reports made after about 5pm don't seem to get actioned though, even the next day. You may need to do it again in working hours.