To get so pissed off with the sarcastic sods on here

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I don’t subscribe to the ‘sarcasm is the lowest form of wit’ view. But on here generally it isn’t funny, it’s either rude, unkind or more usually both.

So someones just started a perfectly harmless thread about a clothes shop and instead of replying ‘oh, did you know they have a petite range, I’ll link you’ we have You do know they have a petite range, right?

Its everywhere. Is it just me who is sick to death of the snark? I mean, sometimes there is help and support and just sometimes a nice chat on here but there’s always someone wanting to be an arse. And WHY don’t MN deal with it?

It’s when it’s not expected, isn’t it? It’s like going into work and saying ‘good morning’ and having people reply unpleasantly.

Oh ok I think my definition of sarcasm is different because those people are unequivocally twats. Also the ones who police which boards people post on.

And ‘There were two threads about this yesterday.’

Were there indeed. I wonder if these people say to their friends (if they have any) ‘I talked about this with you last week.’

To be fair, that sounds quite passive aggressive, too, OP.

No, it’s not. It’s aggressive, pure and simple, nothing passive about it. It is being shitty to claim you don’t understaaaaand and force people to explain every detail of their life to you.

Heh. I've probably done the "I find it baffling" thing myself at some point. I deserve a kicking too if so.

It's a funny old place. I've been called a cunt for reclining my seat on a aeroplane and asking people to move their bags from seats on buses and trains so I can sit down, a fucking weirdo for having a slipper selection available in my shoeless house, a fat arsed cow for doubting someone's theory that her menstrual blood will rejuvenate her garden and "fucking vile" for taking a baby on a plane.

Still not as bad as the male-dominated forum I was on some years ago, though.

You're right. I never thought of it till just now. I mostly blamed it on Twitter and that short, sharp manner of communicating filtering to other platforms, but I think you could be right here. I was listening to an excellent podcast with Helen Joyce this morning and she referenced MN and what a supportive place it was and how the conversations here made a difference more widely and that certain people were threatened by women gathering and talking together in large numbers. I thought about that how that's still true but it's also so much snarkier and gloves off on here than it used to be, and you find yourself doing it too :(

You might as well accept it's just part of MN now.

A lot of people wouldn't be so snarky on forums where name changing is not allowed, because everyone would dislike them and no-one would give them the time of day.

With MN, you can snark to your heart's content and just name change when you're called out on it.

I must have read the tone wrong, sorry. You didn't phrase it angrily enough or use enough capital letters and exclamation marks ;)

It’s definitely got a lot worse. I’ve seen threads that would have been very funny in previous years turn into humourless snarking for no good reason. And I hate the picking apart of OPs. What’s the fucking point? Do people do this in real life? “Wait, you said five minutes ago you had sausages for tea and now you’re saying it’s mashed potato? This doesn’t make sense.”

They should be put in their place

I’ll clarify then: it does make me angry when people are bullied into disclosing information by the I Don’t Understaaaaand crowd. It’s a wanker way to behave. And the same crowd are inevitably furious when the evenings source of bear baiting is taken down for being identifying.

YANBU at all. It’s got horrible of late. I joined 11 years ago to elicit help for my DD’s early waking and found a lovely group of women to engage with. Nowadays the main YANBU forum and chat are horrible. There are still nice posts and posters to be found on the less frequented boards though. Just steer clear of the bunfights.

Totally agree, so many miserable people on here! Never see a post without sarcastic or negative comments... sad x

Sometimes the op, can be misleading or be a puzzlement if they only give a small amount of information,

That's the thing sometimes with society, is that because rightly or not society will judge, so even if a person could be correct in their view and if the science ect backed up that persons perspectives but, if it goes against main stream thinking, ect

I said this to my husband the other day. The comments on here are sometimes just awful for no need when someone has just asked for help. Normally saying things like … are u always this awful etc etc.

"and what did Mumsnet HQ say when you put this to them?"

My personal pet hate!!

I’m very new to Mumsnet. I’ve generally found it helpful but I’m single. I do get annoyed by ‘why did you marry a man who was such a terrible father?’ Type comments, when it’s clearly far to late to do anything about that now. I’ve had good handholding though and I’m grateful.

I saw something the other day. The Op was talking about the clocks changing and debating if people would rather keep the changing of the clocks or not.

Someone replied to the Op to say 'I suppose you live in the South East' to which Op later replied 'No actually, about 2 hours north of Nottingham'.

Someone then put a sarcastic remark saying 'Funny way to describe where you live, never heard anyone describe where they live like that before'. I mean, come on, the Op just clearly didn't want to give out too much identifying details about where they lived, no need for such a pile on?!

I agree OP. I think it's because we're anonymous on here. Unfortunately bullies are everywhere, but it's easier to be snarky on here because no one knows who you are. You can easily name change after upsetting someone as well. I feel sorry for other posters sometimes, with the awful replies they get.

YANBU at all

I’m Scottish. That’s how we communicate. You’d get exactly the same off me if you were sat in my sitting room. The problem is reading it. You don’t get quite the right nuance

Yeah it can be a bit aggressive. I was called creepy for declining a late night online dust-up not that long ago (I posted along the lines of 'no ta') I wondered if the person wanted a late night dust up to get some of their pent-up real life rage out? it was most peculiar.

Yes totally agree. The worst perpetrators are those who make nasty comments towards women who are clearly vulnerable and are reaching out for advice