DS got a tattoo - AIBU to be furious?

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I'm posting to see if I'm being U to be furious.

My son is 16, he goes through phases of wanting things then losing interest (like most teens probably!), for about a year he'd been going on about wanting an eyebrow piercing, in the end I let him and it was only in for about 6/7 months until he lost interest and took it out.

He’d also been asking for a lip piercing recently, I said no and he's now lost interest in that - the same as a nose piercing. Those are just examples of how quickly he changes his mind.

He's always said he wanted a tattoo, recently he's decided what of and had been asking me, I've said no and he needs to wait until he's 18 which he wasn't happy about. He came back home today with DP and he's had the tattoo, he had given him consent and I'm furious.

DP says I'm overreacting and it's just a tattoo and doesn't seem to understand he's in the wrong.

AIBU?

What the actual fuck?

I thought in the UK its illegal to tattoo an under 18 even with parental consent
Where did he go for it?

I’d be furious with him and DP not the mention the tattooist that did it. It’s 18+ for a reason. I’d tell DS to start saving now for the cover up / laser removal he’ll want in a couple of years.

I don’t believe a tattooist would tattoo a 16 year old. The possible repercussions wouldn’t be worth it.

He must’ve got it done privately at someone’s house or something.

I’m covered in tattoos, but totally against tattoos on children.

What is it?

YANBU I would be mainly furious at DP for undermining when you'd already said no. That in itself is a real dick move.

@absolutelyanythingwilldo I've reported you for being a homophobe.

I got my first tattoo at 14, second at 15. In two different shops. I don't regret any of them and I've now got about 15. Of course this happens, I've never known any tattoo artist to ask for I'd etc. but I do know 100% that no adult can give consent for their child to be tattooed .

What? Are you posting on the right thread?

My thoughts exactly!

DP’s friend did it apparently. It is small but will be noticeable when wearing just a tshirt, I think it is something he'll regret as it's a character of some sort so not anything meaningful!

I love tattoos but anywhere that will tattoo an under 18 is as dodgy as fuck.
Your dp has been completely out of order, and your ds has not instilled any sense of trust in you for his ability to make mature decisions.
I'd be pissed off.

Posters aren't questioning it because it's unthinkable someone might do something illegal. It's more that tattooists either would be dodgy enough not to care and therefore parental consent wouldn't be needed, or they would be aware and consistent with the law in which case parental consent wouldn't be enough.

OP, if this is true and it's the former I'd be concerned about hygiene and safety.

Ooooo, what character?

I have a Skylander tattooed on me.

Love looking at people’s tattoos.

And also, report the ‘friend’ to the police.

Tattoos don't always have to be meaningful, some of mine aren't and I don't regret them. Obviously they shouldn't have done it because he's 16, but tbh you should've just let him get his lip pierced probably would've quenched the thirst for a bit.

Are you sure it's real and they are not playing you with a fake. It's an utterly dick move either way.

DP and DP’s chum are the ones to be mad at.

Depends how big and what.

Also clearly people don't realise there are plenty of tattooists who will do underage.

Got my first one at 15 guy told me to bring in my ID the next day when I said I'd forgotten it.

My worry is if the tattooist is prepared to ignore the law about the age what other laws/regulations do they think are optional?

I was asked for id for my last tattoo and I’m 45!

My dd got a tattoo at 17 and her dad went with her.

I hope it is fake. I would be really angry at the partner and partner’s friend. More so than if your son had somehow managed to get it done in a tattoo parlour.

Not your body.

The only unreasonable thing is him doing it under the legal age to get tattooed. YABU to take issue with him getting one in general, it's his choice.

So not only did your DP go against you in giving consent, but he actively organised it?

is he your DS’s Dad?

Is the DP his dad?

I'd be furious about a permanent thing like a tattoo on someone underage and id not be in a relationship with someone who I could trust with my kids

I’d be absolutely livid. But more with the dp and his “friend” than ds. Is DP his dad?

not sure if reporting the “friend” is a possibility?