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AIBU?

to think my neighbour has no right to complain about this?

117 replies

Cliveandclyde · 06/10/2022 09:47

I live on a street where parking for visitors is a nightmare due to the fact that nearly everyone has a driveway (including us). Therefore when we have visitors we always let them park across our driveway. To be clear, them doing this does not affect the neighbours on either side getting in or out of their own driveways - there is no overhang whatsoever and plenty of space. One of my neighbours has asked me not to let visitors park across my driveway as (his words) it sets a bad example and makes other people think they can park across driveways (I've never seen this happen once).

AIBU to think I should be able to let visitors block my own driveway?!?!

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CrushedPistachios · 06/10/2022 10:51

I think what I’m struggling to understand, if it is as the wonderful diagram StopDriving supplied us with, is how the 2nd car is accessing the driveway from that angle? Are they using next door on the lefts dropped kerb? Who’s land is that between the properties?

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cultkid · 06/10/2022 10:54

Ignore him, sounds like he is a control freak.

Ask him if it's ok for your guests to park on his drive then, to set a good example. I always lob my car over the top of my driveway. I'm only blocking in my husband!

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nannybeach · 06/10/2022 10:54

Highway code mentions should not,it's not a police matter,you cannot actually even stop a complete stranger parking on your drive. You can't remove the vehicle. I used to think this, having had people park in front of my garage door,so I cannot open it.

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Seeline · 06/10/2022 10:54

StopDrivingIntoMyFence · 06/10/2022 10:47

For anyone struggling to picture this. This is how I imagine the OP means they park.

Well that's how I'm imagining it too, but I still can't see how a car can park parallel to the road without using neighbouring land to make the turn. My Mum is in a 1930's semi, so large front garden, which is entirely paved, but I don't think a car could park like that without crossing onto the neighbour's land. If this is the case, I'm not surprised the NDN is clutching their pearls!
Also, I think a car parked like that would make it very difficult for either neighbour to see properly when leaving their own property.

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dailyfup · 06/10/2022 10:55

Looking at that great diagram not from the OP, perhaps the pearl-clutching neighbour is objecting to the fact that the car parking side on makes the place look "unordentlich" as they like to say a lot in Germany..... wait... the English will come to me in a minute....
disorderly

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girlmom21 · 06/10/2022 10:57

but I still can't see how a car can park parallel to the road without using neighbouring land to make the turn.

I'm not sure which needs to improve: your imagination or your parallel parking...

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GasPanic · 06/10/2022 11:00

From that diagram I struggle to see why you wouldn't park the cars in tandem one behind one another like any normal people would.

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Fahrted · 06/10/2022 11:03

dailyfup · 06/10/2022 10:55

Looking at that great diagram not from the OP, perhaps the pearl-clutching neighbour is objecting to the fact that the car parking side on makes the place look "unordentlich" as they like to say a lot in Germany..... wait... the English will come to me in a minute....
disorderly

Na, sowas.

<hoiks Busen>

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awomanofthecuntytype · 06/10/2022 11:04

GasPanic · 06/10/2022 11:00

From that diagram I struggle to see why you wouldn't park the cars in tandem one behind one another like any normal people would.

Maybe because it's not the OP's diagram?

(It's very good, though).

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OhmygodDont · 06/10/2022 11:05

GasPanic · 06/10/2022 11:00

From that diagram I struggle to see why you wouldn't park the cars in tandem one behind one another like any normal people would.

Because it’s not ops drawing plus maybe it would fit say one full estate but ops got a Kia so it can fit one full length Kia and a Ford sideways but not long ways.

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Jules912 · 06/10/2022 11:07

ON the driveway fine. I have the same problem as PP in that if the neighbours park across their drive and someone parks opposite I can't turn right out my drive.

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Mariposista · 06/10/2022 11:10

It sounds like your neighbour has far too much time on his hands and spends too much time at home. Needs a hobby.

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IncompleteSenten · 06/10/2022 11:14

So you have a dropped kerb and there's no pavement between your driveway and the road?

What is between driveways? Where do people walk? Along the edge of the road?
If there's no pavement, what is your drop kerb dropped from?

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BlackberryCat · 06/10/2022 11:15

I feel like I really need to hear the neighbor’s side of this.

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cultkid · 06/10/2022 11:18

Seeline · 06/10/2022 10:21

I'm curious how a car can park across your drive without crossing/using any neighbouring property - you must have a very wide drive (as in your whole front garden paved or something?).

Assuming the visiting car is very close to your front boundary, are you sure that it isn't blocking neighbour's sight lines when trying to exist his property?

I can park over my drive no problem at all and it's because the driveways are not next to each other but on opposite sides of the house? Hope that kind of makes sense

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StopDrivingIntoMyFence · 06/10/2022 11:20

GasPanic · 06/10/2022 11:00

From that diagram I struggle to see why you wouldn't park the cars in tandem one behind one another like any normal people would.

Very good point. I made the driveways way too long. I'm going to improve my parking diagram skills for next time.

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Pumpkinpatchlookinggood · 06/10/2022 11:22

Imo add one of those gnomes to your driveway that has his bum flashing!

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OneTC · 06/10/2022 11:24

I reckon they mean parked on the paved verge part.

Otherwise complainer is crazed

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Facecream · 06/10/2022 11:24

There is very little chance the OP’s property boundaries with the road.
I’ve never seen an instance where it is the case unless it’s in the countryside where there aren’t any footpaths.
She used the phrase dropped kerb which means there’s a pavement/kerb to drop.
if there isn’t a kerb/walkway then what her parking visitors are doing is extremely dangerous: a pedestrian walking past her house could be not seen by her neighbour as they exit, most especially a child.
Similarly, the neighbour exiting their own property will have no “creep and peep” space so would have to drive blind into oncoming traffic.
The notion that it’s her drive and she can do whatever she wants is a little odd.
If there is a kerb, that’s the space in which a driver can pause before moving onto the road. How could the neighbour possibly see beyond a car parked sideways?

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Seeline · 06/10/2022 11:25

cultkid · 06/10/2022 11:18

I can park over my drive no problem at all and it's because the driveways are not next to each other but on opposite sides of the house? Hope that kind of makes sense

Over your drive - within your property boundaries? Not across the dropped kerb on the road/pavement?

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outtheshowernow · 06/10/2022 11:26

Omg it's up to you

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outtheshowernow · 06/10/2022 11:27

RB68 · 06/10/2022 09:57

Doesn't matter if they are your visitor or not if they are parking across a dropped curb then they are in the wrong. I think if its a quick drop and run fine but anything more than a couple of minutes then you need to sort something else out

They arnt in the wrong if they have. Even told to park there by the owner

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Facecream · 06/10/2022 11:35

The owner of a dropped kerb isn’t the home owner- it’s public land, council owned.

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OneTC · 06/10/2022 11:35

Parked here I reckon.

Not actually blocking anything, but not right either

to think my neighbour has no right to complain about this?
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OneTC · 06/10/2022 11:35

*but not a double drive

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