be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

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Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

No. Not for any amount.

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I'm loving the cynical replies much more than the "no he's my best friend" responses!

Yes, wouldn't think twice!

50k I would be signing up

Thought about it for less than a second and the answer is no, absolutely not! The money would be pointless without my husband to enjoy it with.

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I'll give 5 mil for someone to take him. Couldn't get rid of him if I tried lol

Tough question if I'm deciding for both of us. It's perfectly realistic that OH would rather have £5m and that needs to be considered.

Do I get a young Robert Redford as part of the deal?

Never. I'm not about that.

People mean more to me than money. Millions wouldn't replace anyone I love and certainly not DH.

I’d probably do it for a tenner

I'd be in but our agreement of a child each stands, all the same.

No - just asked DH and he said no too. No amount of money will buy another human who will genuinely want me, rather than being after my cash.

For that amount, then yes I'd part ways, with my relationship. Love fades, yet cash pays the bills.

I said no, however I do concede we are comfortable financially and own a small house, with a modest income (especially by MN standards)

I think there is a good point that absolute poverty and disability would be a determining factor though for alot of people. Not just to provide a better life for your kids or your family but also the stresses poverty puts on a relationship.

Perhaps this post highlights the fact that poverty makes people consider doing dehumanising, self harming things (like never seeing someone you truly love again) and we should strive for a country (which is one of the richest in the world) that doesn't inflict that degree of poverty onto such a large proportion of it citizens.

I did it for only half of our meager assets!

Yes I would!

I don't believe there is only 'one' person out there for each of us. With my 5M, I'd travel a lot and I'm sure I'd meet someone at some stage and if not, I'd live a financially unstressful life which would bring me a huge sense of peace and security for our children.

Yes.

Because the children always come first...they have additional needs and that sort of money would safeguard their future when we are gone. Both myself and DH would act in their best interests. Its a no brainer.

No!
I’d have paid you to get me away from husband no.1 though.

Yes, I married a financially inept man who has chosen to not support me through anything.
I had a very complicated pregnancy because of the stress he put me under. I went to all consultant appointments alone, when I was ordered to stay in hospital he didn't visit me, despite us living opposite the hospital.
Hasn't provided any help with baby. He does the opposite of what I ask, and when I talk he doesn't listen.
I told him that I have postnatal depression, and I've been having thoughts of hurting myself that are getting progressively worse.
He replies, DS has a cold, the poor boy! It's so tough on him at the moment.
I said, this is about me needing help, my mental health has been getting progressively worse for the past 6 weeks. I don't think I'll hurt myself, but I think about it with increasing regularity. I'm talking about me here.

His final reply, you always find it harder when he isn't feeling well.

Absolute knob.

No. We've been broke together before. We're ok together now financially. My relationship with him means more to me than money even though I would kill for that kind of money in most other circumstances.

Not him. Not our kids. They come before anyone and anything. They're my favourite humans.

I'm single so I'm doing the scenario with mý FWB, who's also one of my best friends. I wouldn't, but I thought he might because he has kids and might feel like he could give them a better life with the money. So I asked - he said he'd take the deal and give me most of the money so I could do all the things I want to, like moving abroad (I forgot to mention that I also get my own £5 million as part of this arrangement). At first I thought that was really sweet, until I realised this means he'd agree to end the friendship for substantially less than £5 million, and now I'm quite offended

Yes. Everyone is replaceable.

I'd separate for a Milky Way after the argument we had tonight.

Nope. I have up my life in the United states and paid $2500+ to move to Canada and become a Canadian citizen because I am incredibly irreversibly stupidly in love with him. I will happily choose poverty any day to stay with this adorable idiot. 😂🤷🏻‍♀️