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be honest, if you and partner/dh were offered 5 million each to seperate...

338 replies

cutthelawn · 05/10/2022 21:35

Basically you can have all the custody of the kids if you want but you must separate permanently from your oh and you are both given 5 million each to start again would you do it>?

OP posts:
JustLyra · 05/10/2022 23:02

If there was an expensive treatment out there that could cure/considerably extend our youngests life then we both would consider it. Just for that.

There currently isn’t so it would be a no.

Mummyoflittledragon · 05/10/2022 23:04

It’s ok, for 5 million, it’s possible to rent offices in the same building. Wink

melchim · 05/10/2022 23:10

No, definitely not.

BUT if we were so poor that it was causing serious disadvantage to the kids then yes we would sacrifice our relationship to give them a stable life with good opportunities.

PurpleFlower1983 · 05/10/2022 23:13

No, I would be miserable.

L0bstersLass · 05/10/2022 23:13

Atmywitsend29 · 05/10/2022 21:42

Nah.
He's my best friend, he makes me laugh every day. I'd be most unhappy without him.

Don't know what he'd say tho 🤣

This is exactly how I feel.
I wasn't going to ask him because if he said he'd take it I'd be gutted.
But I did ask him, and he said no!
Yay!

PrinnyPree · 05/10/2022 23:15

Genuinely not for a billion, he's my best friend and partner for 20 years. The thought of a lovely big house, fat pension and never having to work a job I dislike ever again as lovely as it sounds feels so worthless without the person I actually want to spend the rest of my life there with me.

takeasadsongandmakeitbetter · 05/10/2022 23:16

I reckon I'd do it for 5k 😂

OrlandointheWilderness · 05/10/2022 23:17

No. Not in a million years.

shrunkenhead · 05/10/2022 23:17

hell,yeah!

MrsTerryPratchett · 05/10/2022 23:17

Nope. I don't think Richard Armitage would convert to heterosexuality and go out with me for 5 mill so I'll stick with the next best thing.

DH though, I don't know if he would.

CatherinedeBourgh · 05/10/2022 23:19

No, walked away from more than that to be together and have never regretted it.

But we're not starving, and our children lack for nothing. If it was a choice between being together and feeding the kids, we'd both choose feeding the kids, I'm pretty sure.

Oliverfunyuns · 05/10/2022 23:20

Well, if we were literally starving and incapable of scraping together enough to live on, I guess we might not have much choice, but other than that? No.

I'm at the point in my life where large amounts of money would be a little fun to play with, but ultimately meaningless. Life is short. I'd rather keep my dignity and stay with the man who's been by me through thick and thin than splurge on meaningless "stuff" without him. I only have to imagine how hurt he would be if I said I'd rather have the money to be convinced that it's the right decision. I can't think of anything I'd do with the money that would be worth it to me.

Redsquirrel5 · 05/10/2022 23:20

Yep, I’d go travelling.
Buy my best friend a lovely house on a farm and I would live nearby later.
Buy my niece a flat in Edinburgh.
My eldest wants to move back to the country so I would help him do that. Youngest boy hasn’t bought a house yet, so help him achieve that.
Visit DD.
Visit my sister.
Visit my relatives in Canada that I haven’t met.
Buy a holiday cottage in Brittany.

butterfliedtwo · 05/10/2022 23:20

Runningintolife · 05/10/2022 21:46

No nobody buys control of my choices

Quite.

AutumnCrow · 05/10/2022 23:20

JustLyra · 05/10/2022 23:02

If there was an expensive treatment out there that could cure/considerably extend our youngests life then we both would consider it. Just for that.

There currently isn’t so it would be a no.

Oh bless you, you would anything for your child, I know.

BBBBMushroom · 05/10/2022 23:22

No absolutely not.

Motheranddaughtertotwo · 05/10/2022 23:23

No from me. DH and I have been together since the end of my teens and have had proper broke times; I’m talking choosing between rent and food. We’re now finally in a good place, no amount of money could tempt me.

lingle · 05/10/2022 23:24

Flowers JustLyra

butterfliedtwo · 05/10/2022 23:27

JustLyra Flowers from me too. I can't imagine what that's like.

Mamanyt · 05/10/2022 23:27

Yep, and in a heartbeat, if I were still married. HOWEVER, mind you, that says a lot more about my poor ability to choose a man than it does about the money involved. Which is why I am now happily single for the rest of my life.

Clingfilm · 05/10/2022 23:28

No. I'd be really sad. Suppose that makes him literally priceless. Don't tell him Grin

GoodShipLollipopBop · 05/10/2022 23:29

100% yes. Can I send you my bank details now?

Strokethefurrywall · 05/10/2022 23:32

Absolutely not.

Essentially it's a spousal death with a life insurance payout.

I mean, if he were a twat, yes. But he's not, so no.

Abcdefgh1234 · 05/10/2022 23:35

Yes. But married him again next year 🤣🤣🤣.

youcantry · 05/10/2022 23:36

Yes - In a heartbeat!

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