I only joined mumsnet recently. I've been a stepmum for around 2 years so relatively new to the role. I thought joining mumsnet would be good for getting advice and tips as well as venting about some of the stresses of parenting amd everyday life.
I've started 2 threads about 2 separate topics and commented on others posts. Of course eveyone is entitled to their opinions and it's always good to get another perspective. But within a week I've been called a cunt, an arsehole, told I don't deserve friends, I'm too involved with my DSD, my DSDs care is non of my business, I sounds like an nightmare etc. etc.
Of course there have been some positive comments as well but it's the negative ones that always stick. If people think I'm being unreasonable I'm happy to hear their reason but I think calling a stranger a cunt etc is unnecessary. People seem to read part of the post, miss out a chunk, make assumptions and twist every word you say. And it seems as a stepmum I'm already public enemy number one. 🤣
How have other people found the site? Am I just being too soft? Is it worth sticking around?
MNHQ have commented on this thread
AIBU?
Have people forgotten "Be Kind"
Steppymum · 04/10/2022 08:29
Am I being unreasonable?
230 votes. Final results.
POLLDoingprettywellthanks · 04/10/2022 08:36
I certainly hope the “Be Kind” nonsense has died a death.
HRTQueen · 04/10/2022 13:20
Step away if they do
if they are struggling and you can offer kindness and/or advice that isn’t attacking them do so if not just click on to the next thread
particularly when the subject is so emotive
AnneLovesGilbert · 04/10/2022 08:41
If someone’s attacking you report the post to MNHQ and they’ll take it down if it breaks guidelines. This is the only thread under your current username so no one can see evidence of what you’re saying.
Be Kind is a load of bollocks quoting a domestic abuser. It’s brainless and used to shut down discussion and silence women.
If MN isn’t for you there are other forums you may prefer.
Alltheholidays · 04/10/2022 13:05
@MooseBreath So you had the thread deleted because you disliked the responses!
You need to understand that you can’t force people to respond to you in the way you deem appropriate.
it really is as simple as that!
MooseBreath · 04/10/2022 13:26
You're not making yourself look particularly compassionate here. I deleted the thread because I needed to be in the best mental state possible to decide whether or not to bring a child into the world. That was the reason, not "disliking the responses". My decision was far more important than a Mumsnet post. People don't need to agree with anything I post, but berating posters isn't helpful or respectful.
Alltheholidays · 04/10/2022 13:05
@MooseBreath So you had the thread deleted because you disliked the responses!
You need to understand that you can’t force people to respond to you in the way you deem appropriate.
it really is as simple as that!
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MooseBreath · 04/10/2022 13:39
@Doingprettywellthanks That isn't the thread in question. I had posted a previous thread a few days prior under a namechange that had very different responses. I tried again a few days later when I felt I was able to deal with responses.
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