I posted this on the adoption thread but there was no replies.
I was looking for some advice with a step parent adoption. We are in Scotland.
My partner wishes to adopt my DD8. Her biological father is not on her birth certificate and has had no contact with her since she was 2.
However, he recently got into contact through a lawyer and wishes to have contact again and is taking the matter to court. Would this impact the adoption procedures when we start them? I know we have to continue the court case legally until we have officially started our adoption procedure.
If anyone could help us out with the length of time the adoption could take and what steps we need to take that would be greatly appreciated.
AIBU?
Step parent adoption
Usernameinvalid16 · 03/10/2022 21:51
Am I being unreasonable?
70 votes. Final results.
POLLDemBonesDemBones · 04/10/2022 12:40
@sculpturecity more nonsense. She would absolutely not be listed as adoptive mother on the new birth certificate. The adoptive father would not even be listed as adoptive father on the new birth certificate. They would simply be listed as Mother and Father.
ArtofWater · 04/10/2022 08:28
Step parent adoptions used to be be fairly common years ago but are a lot less so now as other options to secure children are available. For a step parent adoption you would need the fathers consent even if he is not in contact - courts can dispense with this but only in very exceptional circumstances and what you have described would not be considered exceptional. Adoption is permanent - you would be listed as adoptive mother on the new birth certificate and if you and your partner were to split, then he would have equal rights to your daughter, she would not revert to being 'yours', so definitely something to think hard about. It may be appropriate for your partner to gain parental responsibility for your DD, this would enable him to be involved in decision making , able to consent to medical treatment etc and would also offer some security in the event something happened to you. It would be worth you both seeking legal advice so you understand the options available and the implications of these.
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DemBonesDemBones · 04/10/2022 14:27
@SandrasAnnoyingFriend I'm so sad this lady didn't get answers on the adoption board because the judgement and misinformation on this thread is unreal. Imagine making a statement like that (that you'd be listed as adoptive mother) so boldly when you very obviously have no idea about adoption!
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