To question my DH about the bizarre items ive found?

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I've been away for work, I have come back to find items that certainly aren't mine, some quite bizarre things. A top, pink nail clippers, womens razor, small makeup pallete, all things that don't belong to me. My DD had also said to me on face time when I was away that DH was talking to a lady in the shower on the phone (she is only 5) so I didn't question her I just left it.
He also keeps checking my phone when I'm not in the room which is adding to my suspicion as that isnt normal behaviour for him.
I feel a bit silly really, it's a few random items but I know they do not belong to me and i feel like hes being weird. I'm not sure now if I'm over thinking or if I should genuinely ask him who the fuck the pink nail clippers belong to 😳😂AIBU to ask or am I being a twat? How do I go forward with this? Any help greatly appreciated.

What if it turns out the bizarre things you found are just that - bizarre, and that he hasn't actually been seeing someone? Have you every had people stay over before you discovered these items?

Please do this OP!!

So sorry you are going through this, but glad you have found him out.

It's a bit late for that!

I'm sorry OP. I cannot believe he's had OW over while your children have been in the house. That's despicable.

Oh fuck. I missed this. So are there conversations then?

oh fuck

What a careless bastard. I am so sorry.

Wow. He really is the lowest of the low. A cheating pig who defiled your home with your children right there. I’m so so sorry.

I've just text her telling her i found her number in the trash on his phone, she can collect her skanky items, and soon to be DEAREXHUSBAND may need a lift and place to stay as the house and cars belong to me.

So sorry this is happening to you. Have you taken photos of the screens? I hope his ass is twitching. Remain as calm as you can, easier said than done I know. I feel sick for you 😖

Were there conversations though? You must have found more than just a random blocked number?

Get ready for him to blame her.

Blocked her cause she wouldn't leave him alone blah blah.

So sorry op 💐

He had her in your home whole your child was there.

Dont back down. Dont forgive. Dont take him back.

If you feel yourself wobbling, remember that he had her in your home while your child was there.

So sorry OP. What a piece of shit.

OP I'm so sorry for you, what a bastard to do it in the marital home! He could have at least gone to a motel or something, but bringing her into your marital home? Fuck that's horrific. Either she left those things for you to see and he being a male didn't notice it wasn't your shirt and tidied up putting away thinking it was yours, or they had a fight and she left abruptly and forgot them. It seems like she was there for a few days though with everything she left. Maybe you should call her and tell her she left her things.

Its fine, kids are staying with my sister tonight. Just poured myself a nice large glass of afternoon wine. He's packing his things in deadly silence. I told him what I'd found and he just cried and said how sorry he is. I know who she is as well. There is absolutely no coming back from it.

I don't have WhatsApp - does the blocked contact prove that she is the OW? Were there conversations or anything?

Sorry, cross-posted.

Good on you for having the strength to throw him out. Has he come down and you told him yet?

That's what I don't get? There must be more.

Oh dear. I'm more shocked that he had her there whilst the children were there.... Sure fire way of being caught out because innocent 5yr olds would just come out with it.

Is she close to the family OP?

Gosh. What a crazy 2 hours you've had.

What an absolute loser he is.

When you say you know her, is she a friend?

So so sorry. What a waste.

How do you know it’s her if there’s no texts?

OP says she knows the woman. I'm guessing when she saw the whatsapp profile pic and realised who the number belonged to, a lot of things fell into place and she knows what's been going on.