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Choconut · 02/10/2022 17:59

I wouldn't want my OH to be away half the week, let alone away half the week living with other women. I'd rather live on less money tbh.

AmInormallk · 02/10/2022 18:02

Are you very young, OP?

These posts seem to come from a less mature woman - gota be honest

Chill out

Hugocat1 · 02/10/2022 18:05

AmInormallk · 02/10/2022 18:02

Are you very young, OP?

These posts seem to come from a less mature woman - gota be honest

Chill out

I’m 42 and I would to be down with either. Dont be so patronising

pinheadlarry · 02/10/2022 18:08

Emotionalsupportviper · 02/10/2022 16:30

'ERE!

I'm ugly!

And I've had my moments . . . 😄😉😊

OP - if he's the type to play away he'll do it whether he's at home or not.

If he's not, he won't.

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MarigoldMoonStone · 02/10/2022 18:16

I'd probably want a low down on what the women were like, well what the men are like too tbf just because I'm nosey but if you trust him what is there to worry about. I'm sure he would rather not be living in a shared accommodation at all but it's much better than a hotel for long term as they can cook themselves, access to washing machine etc. Be fair to him :)

ChateauxNeufDePoop · 02/10/2022 18:31

Sorry, is this your fourth or fifth post on this now?

Cherryana · 02/10/2022 18:32

I would hate it.

Quartz2208 · 02/10/2022 18:35

I recognise your username OP - why are you still thinking this is going to work. He has clearly decided to do this

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Kite22 · 02/10/2022 19:06

YA obviously BU.

I mean, I would feel a bit sad about my dh being away for half the week every week, but that would be the fact he wasn't around, regardless of the living arrangements where he was staying.
I can't see any issue with the house share per se.

Pineappleflowers · 02/10/2022 19:10

If you’ve been living together for a while and now he’s living in a mixed sex houseshare 3-4 nights a week, that’s a huge step backwards for your relationship.

I hope the job is worth it. Ask yourself (and him!) what the longterm plan is. Is the idea he can do this job for a year then use that experience to get a promotion somewhere nearer his actual house? Or does he just plan to live elsewhere longterm?

PortalooSunset · 02/10/2022 19:11

For you to react like that I can only assume he's given you reason to distrust him in the past? If not, I think you're being a bit daft.

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Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 19:33

Probably the experiences I've had tbh?Ive lived in two house shares during my life. And it was anything goes...literally!
Housemates shagging after drunken nights out, orgies, strip poker..the lot!
Alot of the female housemates brought back their single mates for drinking games (me incuded) as it was "more the merrier" type of thing..cookouts n house parties!

One female housemate I lived with who ended up being dumped badly by text from her then bf..she was extremely upset crying...other housemates plied her with drink to cheer her up..basically, the next day she woke up in one of the male housemate's bed!
One was a serial male whore and came on to me many times.

I just think if you're fairly young (20's/30's) you could easily end up in those types of situations?!
I have no idea who the women are but from the whatsapp user profile they look to be about mid 20's.

It will be his first week this week.

Yeah guess hes not the most trust worthy as most have pointed out. He's also known to help a damsel in distress- giving lifts, that type of thing.

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AbreathofFrenchair · 02/10/2022 19:35

Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 15:31

dh had taken new job which requires him to work away elsewhere for 3-4 nights so has had to rent accommodation to make it as cheap as possible

Basically he has found out today there is two women living in this houseshare and 2 men!
I just feel a bit miffed at this.
Hes put me in a really uncomfortable situation. How would you feel if your dh did this?
Its silly but I just keep thinking living with 2 other women who I have no idea what theyre like etc is just strange.

Why are the women the problem and not the men?

I'm sure they won't be trying to seduce your husband at every given chance, just like I'm sure your husband won't be doing the same.

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Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 19:35

altmember · 02/10/2022 16:55

I can see why you're feeling uncomfortable if you're used to living together as a family unit, and then suddenly your OH is away for more than half the week. A hotel/bed sit is one thing, but sharing kitchen/dining/living space with others is slightly different. Even if you trust him explicitly and he doesn't cheat, there's the constant thought in your mind that he's spending more time living with other people than he is at home with you and the kids.

The longer that goes on and the more they cook, eat, watch tv and socialise together, the more likely he is to find comfort in someone else's company. If it's long term, ongoing arrangement then I think it's a bit different to a few weeks (or even months) temporarily working away.

Basically this covers it. Spot on.

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AbreathofFrenchair · 02/10/2022 19:38

TwoWrightFeet · 02/10/2022 15:52

I’m clutching my perils as the thought of it. Two women living unsupervised with access to a man. They will be positively hysterical!!!!

Quite. I hope they keep their ankles covered so as not to try and seduce him.

IncompleteSenten · 02/10/2022 19:39

So the problem is he can't be trusted to keep his dick in his pants given half a chance?

Stationsofthecross · 02/10/2022 19:53

I mean it wouldn’t bother me. It sounds like you don’t trust your husband OP - so perhaps that’s the issue. Sorry.

Stationsofthecross · 02/10/2022 19:55

Sorry - he’s helped a few women out ‘damsels in distress’ - so he’s not to be trusted?? What does that mean? How has he helped them? By shagging them or something?

InCheesusWeTrust · 02/10/2022 20:07

Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 19:33

Probably the experiences I've had tbh?Ive lived in two house shares during my life. And it was anything goes...literally!
Housemates shagging after drunken nights out, orgies, strip poker..the lot!
Alot of the female housemates brought back their single mates for drinking games (me incuded) as it was "more the merrier" type of thing..cookouts n house parties!

One female housemate I lived with who ended up being dumped badly by text from her then bf..she was extremely upset crying...other housemates plied her with drink to cheer her up..basically, the next day she woke up in one of the male housemate's bed!
One was a serial male whore and came on to me many times.

I just think if you're fairly young (20's/30's) you could easily end up in those types of situations?!
I have no idea who the women are but from the whatsapp user profile they look to be about mid 20's.

It will be his first week this week.

Yeah guess hes not the most trust worthy as most have pointed out. He's also known to help a damsel in distress- giving lifts, that type of thing.

That's frankly something like fresh 18 year olds would do. No one I know, and I know LOT of people who lived and some still live on sharedhouses had anything like that😂
Orgies with drunk housemates at 30s lol.

Sure

Tsort · 02/10/2022 20:19

Stationsofthecross · 02/10/2022 19:55

Sorry - he’s helped a few women out ‘damsels in distress’ - so he’s not to be trusted?? What does that mean? How has he helped them? By shagging them or something?

Helped them to his penis. 🤣

InCheesusWeTrust · 02/10/2022 20:22

Tsort · 02/10/2022 20:19

Helped them to his penis. 🤣

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Merryoldgoat · 02/10/2022 20:22

I’d suggest looking at OP’s pervious posts before commenting. Her husband is a feckless misogynistic prick who drinks too much and cheats and she’s in denial.

InCheesusWeTrust · 02/10/2022 20:24

Fuking hell that preview is not working for that pic!😂

Tsort · 02/10/2022 20:39

InCheesusWeTrust · 02/10/2022 20:22

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I’m in tears! 🤣🤣🤣