Dh living with women...

[Macbeth8]

dh had taken new job which requires him to work away elsewhere for 3-4 nights so has had to rent accommodation to make it as cheap as possible

Basically he has found out today there is two women living in this houseshare and 2 men!
I just feel a bit miffed at this.
Hes put me in a really uncomfortable situation. How would you feel if your dh did this?
Its silly but I just keep thinking living with 2 other women who I have no idea what theyre like etc is just strange.

???

You clearly don’t trust him. I was in a mixed sex house share with a few colleagues for a couple of weeks (working away). My DP trusted me and it didn’t faze him. It wouldn’t faze me if he had to share.

It must be exhausting to be the sort of person who thinks like this.

I’ve just twigged who OP is. OP, your relationship is unhealthy and your DH is a controlling abusive chauvinist. You have considerably more significant issues to tackle than a couple of women existing in a house share.

Are they having to share bathroom facilities or are theses separated rooms/facilities with lockable doors? Some apartment type accommodation for corporate lets by the night is set up like this.

Otherwise its pretty cheap of the employer and most employers fund single sex accommodation (unless staff want it otherwise themselves). Its not just for both sexes' privacy but the risk of liability if anything does happen.

Shared student houses and flat shares are usually elective with respect to your housemates, not mandated by a cheap employer.

Well , good to hear that they don’t have to.

”Shagging” wasn’t what I was worried about.

Let’s face it: so many men are so problematic (did you mean to say distrust?) and dangerous and you never know which one until it’s tol late.
Sure, you can try and turn it to my ”distrust(?)”, but that doesn’t change the facts.

So, prior to that post, you thought women were forced into mixed sex house shares?

Oh yes. Thank you for correcting that typo few times. U, I, right next to each other and fat fingers are just not a good combo.

Some of us are ok with men (half a population) and if we are not fine with particular men, they simply don't get voted in, those who are not ok with men in house, can choose single sex houseshares.
Not every man is dangerous.

We have done this. I didn't care other than feel sorry for him for having to leave our home for stretches at a time to live in a shared set up due to financial reasons, much like being a student. No trust issues.

Unless they are going to be all sharing a bed I wouldn’t be bothered!

Energy crisis solution😁

@Macbeth8
I guess it's a trust thing but unless you have enough money to rent him a flat on his own for those days or use a b&b then this is quite common.

Before I was with my partner I had a 2 bed flat and used to rent my spare room out to a chap Monday to Thursday night he was married with kids and nothing ever happend it just helped me with my bills and some weekends he'd ask of his wife could come and they'd stay where we were and I'd just charge extra and she and the husband were both lovely and we are still friends now 20 years later.

I worked away for 12 months, in a flat with two younger women, who weren't related to my work or company. I needed somewhere to stay and a room was available.

I'm still not sure how, but we all managed to get by without having hot steamy orgies every week.

Puzzling quite frankly.

@Lunar270 did you watch TV with them though coz that's basically the same thing as having an orgy with them.....

And thank you for telling me men are half the population, that really did nothing.

Like I said: you never know until it’s too late.
They’re all nice, until they are not.

But good thing that single sex houseshare is possible - so that women can feel and be safe!

I lived in mixed house shares for years. I never once wanted to shag one of my male flatmates.

What are your concerns?

Tell your husband to make sure he does his fair share of chores and doesn't put it on them and it'll be fine.

He's moved for his job, you don't trust him, you won't move to be with him-what's the point?

You might as well split & you stay where you are

Did you post recently about his flatmates girlfriend being there all the time and him refusing to come home on his weekends off?

How would I feel if he ‘did’ what? You sound utteRly ridiculous.

Has he cheated before?

Is he gods gift?

Honestly, unless he’s George Clooney it wouldn’t bother me.

I work mostly with men and have had plenty of nights away for various work related events. I have managed to not sleep with any of them.

I wouldn’t care, and - as my username suggests - I am prone to overthinking.

DH and I were both in the military where we’d regularly share with both sexes.
We also both travel now for work and end up in hotels (not the same room), but hotels and nights out with the opposite sex.
If a man wants to cheat, he’ll cheat. Whether he’s in a house or not. If you trust him, then you trust him.

Netflix yes.

Oh no!

I definitely think you get a sense of camaraderie living together. They might have really annoying habits however so he wouldn’t go near.
However if you are going through a tough patch I would be worried. Maybe not that he would shag them but find someone to tell all your deep dark secrets to.