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Dh living with women...

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Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 15:31

dh had taken new job which requires him to work away elsewhere for 3-4 nights so has had to rent accommodation to make it as cheap as possible

Basically he has found out today there is two women living in this houseshare and 2 men!
I just feel a bit miffed at this.
Hes put me in a really uncomfortable situation. How would you feel if your dh did this?
Its silly but I just keep thinking living with 2 other women who I have no idea what theyre like etc is just strange.

OP posts:
NewBootsAndRanty · 02/10/2022 15:54

StoneofDestiny · 02/10/2022 15:50

Can't imagine what the problem is unless your DH cannot be trusted and you imagine all women want to jump on all men!

This.

Midnights · 02/10/2022 15:55

I think it's probably very unlikely that the two women will be completely enamoured with your DH and throw their knickers at him! He's moving into a house share to keep things cheap when working away - it's not a sex den. These are probably professional women with lives of their own and very little interest in your DH, just like the two men he'll be living with.

A house share of 5 adults isn't some amazing romantic situation, don't worry about it. If it was my DH, he would probably just be annoyed at how messy everyone was, miss my cooking and home decor 😂 I'd have no problem - but my DH works away a lot, so I'm used to it.

19lottie82 · 02/10/2022 15:55

Are you worried one of them might trip and land on his cock?

TightDiamondShoes · 02/10/2022 15:58

Would you prefer to uproot your life and move close to his new job… or are you worrying he won’t be able to resist some sleep-headed lovely in a fluffy dressing gown pouring milk over her weetabix?

ThinWomansBrain · 02/10/2022 15:58

so if he was staying away in a hotel room - probably more expensive, presumably he'd be more likely to go out to bars/pubs in the evening - increasing the opportunity for casual sex/relationships that with someone in a house share.
Why don't you trust him?

Momo8 · 02/10/2022 15:59

He might secretly be bisexual and he could end up sleeping with any men he might houseshare with too!

MayThe4th · 02/10/2022 16:01

working away from home can put an immense amount of strain on a relationship.

I can see yours not lasting if you’re already lacking in trust in him and suspecting him of wanting to shag any women he comes across just because they’re sharing a house.

DaSilvaP · 02/10/2022 16:01

19lottie82 · 02/10/2022 15:55

Are you worried one of them might trip and land on his cock?

According to tales told by A&E stuff, even stranger accidents happen all the time ... You can never be too cautious?

thelonggame · 02/10/2022 16:03

My exH had a house share with a woman when he worked away from home for a few months, never crossed my mind that it could be a problem

Crunchymum · 02/10/2022 16:04

I just knew this would be a thread by @Macbeth8

Sigh

Shinyandnew1 · 02/10/2022 16:06

Macbeth8 · 02/10/2022 15:33

Really? I dont see that as the same thing...they will be sharing a bathroom, kitchen and living room. Meaning on some evenings watching TV together, possibly cooking together etc.
I just couldnt do it. Almost seems like going back to Uni days.

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My DH (then boyfriend) house shared in a mixed house at university, as did I. We still managed to not be unfaithful then!

Don’t you trust him?

DaSilvaP · 02/10/2022 16:08

Ever heard of self-fulfilling prophecies?
You might not be thinking it aloud, but you'll be sending the wrong vibes ...

Worthyornot · 02/10/2022 16:09

Crunchymum · 02/10/2022 16:04

I just knew this would be a thread by @Macbeth8

Sigh

What do you mean?

Confusion101 · 02/10/2022 16:09

Meaning on some evenings watching TV together, possibly cooking together etc.

The absolute horror of him watching TV with a woman..... Make him change job or divorce him asap..... 😜

sweeneytoddsrazor · 02/10/2022 16:11

Oh I didn't even look at the name of the poster ffs.

limitededitionbarbie · 02/10/2022 16:13

I'd tell him he better not piss on the seat or toilet when the lid is up incase any women he lived with thought he did that at home.

SpeckofDustUponMySoul · 02/10/2022 16:13

Ah, @Macbeth8, it's you. 🙄

BadNomad · 02/10/2022 16:15

This is the guy training for a police role? He's going away on a 17-week training course and you were convinced he was going to have an affair with a police lady, but now you've decided he's going to have an affair with a housemate instead?

OldFan · 02/10/2022 16:15

just couldnt do it. Almost seems like going back to Uni days.

@Macbeth8 I imagine the motive for the set up is just financial, it's probably the cheapest but most reliable way he could have someone to stay there.

As to watching telly with the others, he could choose not to do that if he didn't want to. He's not necessarily going to (not that there's anything wrong with him watching TV with people.)

Dirtylittleroses · 02/10/2022 16:16

Do you have issues with insecurity or jealousy?

I don’t get the issue. It’s no different to staying in a hotel and having dinner with his colleagues in the evening or whatever. He won’t be using the bathroom at rhe same time as the women. Just because they are women doesn’t mean they want to shag your husband. I’m going to guess a lot of women are immune to his charms.

Dirtylittleroses · 02/10/2022 16:18

Oh are you that poster whose husband is joining rhe police and you thought he’d shag a colleague? Now it’s going to be one of these women?

Tsort · 02/10/2022 16:18

19lottie82 · 02/10/2022 15:55

Are you worried one of them might trip and land on his cock?

🤣🤣🤣

Three is Company was like 60 years ago. I had no idea anyone still thought men and women couldn’t cohabit without shagging. This is such a weird thread!

Dancingjane · 02/10/2022 16:19

Have you reason to have trust issues?

MajorCarolDanvers · 02/10/2022 16:24

You either trust him or you don't.

SarahSissions · 02/10/2022 16:25

Oh my goodness. Watching TV together in the evening? You are right to be worried, how devilish