To find this an invasion of privacy in my own home = or am i being dramatic

[FirestarterJackie]

Morning all

Family visiting yesterday including SIL and 6 year old niece.
SIL accompanies niece to toilet, although no idea why at 6 years old

In my bathroom I have a cupboard which I keep a cosmetics bag which contains my haemorrhoid pills and suppositories

SIL comes down and announces to the whole room that she has had to tell her six year old what a suppository is - so the obvious WHY was asked, and her response was 'oh DD wanted to look in your bathroom cabinet and in your cosmetics bags'

WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL, I was mortified

Who goes into someone elses bathroom and starts opening cupboards and then starts opening sealed cosmetic bags that are inside

I feel super pissed about this, not only the fact she checked, but then she brazenly came downstairs and basically announced to the whole gathering what was in my bathroom.

I still feel mortified

Not on! So no on! I'm sure with hindsight you could come up with lots of great responses but that ship has sailed. I think you could still tell her that it was unacceptable though.

Good job it wasn't my bathroom cabinet, I keep a waterproof vibey in there 😌

This. Would the 6 yo have been able to reach, unaided?

I would leave something very greasy (that you can clean off afterwards) on the cabinet door next time. She may not want to repeat it after that?
Or a note in said bag saying NOSY CUNT! and then she'll have to explain that to her 6 year old?

Was there a marbles stunt pulled in the 80s? Cupboard stuffed full which then as nosey sod opened it all fell out?

In your place, I'd say something and emphasise how very odd I found her behaviour. Really, what a very strange thing to do.

The snooping is not on. HOWEVER the big issue here is that SIL then announced what she had found.
That was spiteful and malicious. A normal decent person wouldn't have admitted they'd snooped but she was looking to humiliate you.
At the time I think I'd have had to say: "Leaving aside that you didn't stop your daughter rooting through private belongings, why did you feel the need to share what she found with everyone when it's clearly personal?" Easy to say after the event of course but you could text this.

Yeah… try explaining THAT to your 6yo sil!

seriously, text the woman and tell her that she invaded your privacy and you won’t be extending any kind of invitation for a looong time.

she should be ashamed of herself.

I’d also bitch about it to everyone who knows her

Its terrible behaviour - going through your things and then embarrassing you. So after reading these posts, what do you plan to do about it?

I don't think you could or should let it go. Personally, I'd not have her in my house again and I'd only be in her company when necessary for family harmony.

Was your H present? What’s his take on this. If possible, I’d get him to speak to MIL too

You’ve got to nip this in the bud..

And ask SIL if they would mind if you were rooting through their stuff ? Make sure there are some others around, so it will be embarrassing- WHO DOES THAT ?

This.

Unbelievable it so rude.

She must be common as muck.

Quoted the wrong one below.

I would think your SiL was having a nose and your neice then asked.

Either way, common as muck and I would warn people that know her that she does this in people's house.

I would REALLY shame her.

My husband would know how furious I was.

I suspect it wasnt only her DD that "wanted to look in your bathroom cabinet and in your cosmetic bags", she's just the fall guy.
I am utterly stunned with this gross invasion of privacy. I feel so angry on your behalf. The rummaging is one thing, but for your sister in law embarrass you like that, I cannot think of a single plausible excuse in her defence. Was she trying to be funny about it? Why would you do that?

I am not sure I would invite her back. I would certainly calmly call her out - you have practically unanimous support here that she was bang out of order on both counts.

She sounds absolutely crazy. Like a small child herself.

@takealettermsjones
"She sounds batshit. She was ridiculous for not using that opportunity to teach her daughter that we don't touch other people's property without asking"

This ^

And I would tell your 'D'SIL that she's not welcome in your home until she can learn to keep her sticky beak out of your personal space.

Visit her. Then 'find' a massive fuck off vibrator.

Walk in the room and innocently ask what this is you found down the side of the spare bed.

Is ut tour

If you think OP is a troll then just report it.

That is outrageous! YANBU!

Did the six year old really go snooping or was it her mother. I’m inclined to think a six year old wouldn’t have had the time, she was too busy toileting. Nah, her mother did the snooping while she was waiting for her daughter, saw the suppositories and saw the perfect opportunity to embarrass you. And then blamed her daughter.
Either way she was rude and tactless.

@FirestarterJackie how could a six year old read the word suppository without needing help from an adult i.e your SIL...

It would be a while before she set foot in my home again and not without an apology for snooping in my bathroom cabinets. Incredibly weird and rude behaviour.

Of course it wasn't the kid. Even if I were, she should have said no.

My six year old granddaughter can’t wait to get out of the bathroom when she’s done, she’s too engrossed in getting done and getting back out to play. We have to haul her back in to wash her hands on occasion. Bathroom cupboards don’t interest her one bit.