To find this an invasion of privacy in my own home = or am i being dramatic

[FirestarterJackie]

Morning all

Family visiting yesterday including SIL and 6 year old niece.
SIL accompanies niece to toilet, although no idea why at 6 years old

In my bathroom I have a cupboard which I keep a cosmetics bag which contains my haemorrhoid pills and suppositories

SIL comes down and announces to the whole room that she has had to tell her six year old what a suppository is - so the obvious WHY was asked, and her response was 'oh DD wanted to look in your bathroom cabinet and in your cosmetics bags'

WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL, I was mortified

Who goes into someone elses bathroom and starts opening cupboards and then starts opening sealed cosmetic bags that are inside

I feel super pissed about this, not only the fact she checked, but then she brazenly came downstairs and basically announced to the whole gathering what was in my bathroom.

I still feel mortified

She sounds batshit. She was ridiculous for not using that opportunity to teach her daughter that we don't touch other people's property without asking, for a start. But even if she did let her daughter look (which she absolutely shouldn't have done), the fact that she announced it suggests that she doesn't see anything wrong with it, which is really weird imo.

Mouse trap in your cosmetic bag next time the child visits. See how much fun she finds that. Also rename her Keyhole Kate, even better if her name really is Kate. I'd probably be giving DSil some suppositories for Christmas

Well, now you know why your niece isn't allowed to use the bathroom unsupervised. Sounds like your SIL shouldn't be allowed either.

That said, suppositories are a fairly normal thing to have in a bathroom even if they weren't hidden away. Your niece's curiosity is normal for a 6yo, but SIL should have told her no, not helped her rummage. I'd guess most people hearing her say that would have been shocked by your SIL's rudeness, not by the fact that you have suppositories in your cosmetics bag. You're certainly reasonable to tell SIL not to do this again, even if it has to be after the fact. If this is your husband's/wife's sister, can s/he say something?

What a cruel and very immature thing to do.
I'd text her today and tell her how embarrassed she made you feel. Don't let her get away with it or she will just carry on.

I think you did the right thing by saying nothing. Sometimes when someone is really rude, it's better to stay silent and let the comment hang in the air like a fart with everyone else sitting there horrified. I think it's more embarrassing for the rude person.

She didn't have to look - but if she did, then she didn't have to say they were suppositories or what they were for - but if she did, then she didn't have to announce it to the room. What a complete CF.

Next time leave a giant penis shaped vibrator in there and let her explain that one.

Just refuse to host her again. And if she asks, tell her that her behaviour was extremely rude and you don't want her staying with you.

Make sure you have a good rummage through all her cabinets when you go round to hers next time! And announce heartily what you've discovered!

Well she's never allowed in your house again

As for the suppositories you did the right thing not saying anything she just made a complete fool of herself in front of everyone else. It's a perfectly normal medication.

Your SIL is an arsehole and should be told this, in no uncertain terms.

Sorry

MASSIVE cock shaped vibrator in the cupboard for the next visit @FirestarterJackie . Bonus points for realistic veins 🤢😆🙈

Yes, I would be annoyed about that, but I would be properly annoyed at your sil is treating this behaviour as if it’s alright. She’s not teaching her DD any respect. It would make me feel like they weren’t welcome in my home TBH.

Have you thought of lining up some dildos and butt plugs on the window sill along with handcuffs hanging on the towel rail and a whip on the back of the door. I actually think it might be worth the money to kit out your bathroom in kinky gear.

But wow! If she pulls that sort of stunt I'd honestly not have her round. If she contacts you'd I'd give her a short message like "I found what you did yesterday very rude, you shouldn't let your child go through people's private things"

Completely inappropriate and rude.

SIL was odd to let her look. I presume she was actually rummaging around and lied about the child wanting to.
If the child had asked what they were it would be easy enough to say ‘some sort of medicine, not sure what’.
And then really odd to come and announce it. It sounds like either she thought it was funny or she really doesn’t like you very much.

‘By the way, another time I’d appreciate it if you would not go poking around in my bathroom cupboards. And you might also tell your daughter that it’s totally unacceptable behaviour and you shouldn’t have allowed it in the first place.’

What a cheeky fucker! Why isn’t she telling her DD that you do NOT look through peoples’ private possessions?

She definitely used it as an opportunity to put you down and try to humiliate you. Which is ridiculous, medicine is medicine. I’d not be welcoming her back anytime soon. Or if you do ever allow her back in the house, say very clearly in front of EVERYONE: “ I hope this time you and your daughter will stay out of my private things.”

Just text her and tell her how rude it is to do that and allow her daughter to do that and never snoop in your house again.

She really needs to be told! What a weirdo! What did your DH have to say about her?

She told you in front of other people so I would be a bit reluctant to tell her 1:1 . I would rather keep it for the future and comment on the spot like next time when she’ll go to your bathroom tell her not to go through your cupboards and cosmetic bag again, it’s a bad habit.

This. You need to pull her up, even if you couldn't do it at the time.

What a bitch. That was downright nasty.
Im sure that next time you visit her house you’ll remember to take a pot of prawns and find a few places to secrete them.

Massive invasion of privacy. Although some people are so poorly boundaried I understand this is common. My FIL told me he looks in everyone’s bathroom cabinet to see what medication they are on.

Now if they stay I sweep the house of anything in drawers/cupboards I want kept private because he would go rummaging.

A note in your cosmetics bag saying "my SIL is a nosy c*nt" should work for next time.

She was totally inappropriate.

Even if there was a genuine reason for her to look in the bathroom cabinet (eg run out of hand soap or something)she certainly shouldn't rifle through cosmetic bags and definitely shouldn't talk about things she'd seen, especially as in this case she saw something intimate. She has no boundaries.