What do you do?
Do you acknowledge it? Answer as if they've asked you? Ignore it?
I have so many people in my life who drop massive hints for favours. I have to say it's mainly my mum who does this.
Such as things like: going to an event a family member has messaged me "Bob won't be able to come tomorrow because he can't get a lift and has no way of getting there".
I KNOW they want me to say "oh I'll pick Bob up".
Or "I was going to come to your house tomorrow. It will take me a while to get there. I'm not sure how many buses I'd need to get or which buses they are. Hopefully I won't get lost and I hope I'll eventually get to yours at some point in the day. I really don't know which bus to get. Do you know which?"
Usually I'll say "it's fine, I'll pick you up". Or something. But it's happened again today where I know it's a massive hint for me to do someone a favour. I'd rather they just ask that all this fannying about.
And half the time it isn't a favour I actually want to do, but feel like I should.
AIBU?
When people drop massive hints for favours ..
domesofpillows · 02/10/2022 00:12
domesofpillows · 02/10/2022 19:12
@Popcorns
Oh god I hate this 🙈
I just hate when that sort of thing happens. It makes me die inside!
I'm so bad though, I'll go so far out of my way to help someone and then can feel really posed off afterwards that I've done it.
I remember when I was getting married and invited a relative who said "god I don't know how I'll get there. I'll probably have to get a taxi or something. I wonder what that'll cost? God .. (looking around and looking at the invite)." The venue was only a 20 min drive from their house.
I said to DP "I know they'll expect me to pick them up and take them to the venue".
DP was like "there's no chance we are giving them a lift on our wedding day! They can get a taxi for once!"
urgen · 02/10/2022 20:00
I don’t agree with a PP who says it’s not all these CF who are asking/hinting for lifts…. It’s actually the drivers who are insisting on giving them a lift!
I don’t buy it. These people who proudly proclaim they don’t drive, don’t need to are EXACTLY the sort of people who drop these hints.
urgen · 02/10/2022 20:00
I don’t agree with a PP who says it’s not all these CF who are asking/hinting for lifts…. It’s actually the drivers who are insisting on giving them a lift!
I don’t buy it. These people who proudly proclaim they don’t drive, don’t need to are EXACTLY the sort of people who drop these hints.
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 02/10/2022 20:41
Exactly !!! LOL, as IF drivers are DESPERATE to give lifts to people who don't drive/don't have a car. Fuck that! Most drivers - including myself - have been used, and had the piss taken out of us far too many times (by cheeky fuckers expecting lifts, never offering petrol money, and using us as a free taxi service.) As IF we would INSIST we drive non-drivers around everywhere. That poster is utterly deluded! 😂
urgen · 02/10/2022 20:00
I don’t agree with a PP who says it’s not all these CF who are asking/hinting for lifts…. It’s actually the drivers who are insisting on giving them a lift!
I don’t buy it. These people who proudly proclaim they don’t drive, don’t need to are EXACTLY the sort of people who drop these hints.
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 02/10/2022 20:41
Exactly !!! LOL, as IF drivers are DESPERATE to give lifts to people who don't drive/don't have a car. Fuck that! Most drivers - including myself - have been used, and had the piss taken out of us far too many times (by cheeky fuckers expecting lifts, never offering petrol money, and using us as a free taxi service.) As IF we would INSIST we drive non-drivers around everywhere. That poster is utterly deluded! 😂
urgen · 02/10/2022 20:00
I don’t agree with a PP who says it’s not all these CF who are asking/hinting for lifts…. It’s actually the drivers who are insisting on giving them a lift!
I don’t buy it. These people who proudly proclaim they don’t drive, don’t need to are EXACTLY the sort of people who drop these hints.
urgen · 02/10/2022 21:35
So drivers are literally forcing you to be given a lift?? You would of course much rather walk at 2200 at night, or when it is freezing and pouring down. Don’t talk such nonsense!
Presumably this is another non driver who claims it’s a waste of money to drive and have a car especially as all these drivers have nothing better to do then force people into their cars and drive them where they want to go for FREE of course because they would rather walk 2 miles home.
urgen · 02/10/2022 21:35
So drivers are literally forcing you to be given a lift?? You would of course much rather walk at 2200 at night, or when it is freezing and pouring down. Don’t talk such nonsense!
Presumably this is another non driver who claims it’s a waste of money to drive and have a car especially as all these drivers have nothing better to do then force people into their cars and drive them where they want to go for FREE of course because they would rather walk 2 miles home.
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