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To feel uncomfortable using this Hotel toilet?

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N1C · 27/09/2022 23:07

Staying 7 nights with DH in a 4 star hotel in Mallorca, Spain. We may be married but I don't feel comfortable with doing my business in this toilet while he is in the room. There is a gap on every side of the door and it does not close completely.

Is this a standard setup in hotels in Spain or do you think I'm not being unreasonable and it's very odd?

See photo attached.

To feel uncomfortable using this Hotel toilet?
OP posts:
DrFoxtrot · 27/09/2022 23:36

I have IBS and used to have similar concerns about sounds etc. But luckily I have a farty DP who has made me feel so relaxed. Ask him to put some music on or something. It is a bit like announcing the arrival of your poo but it might help you relax.

StoneofDestiny · 27/09/2022 23:38

Been in loads of 'trendy' hotels abroad where the en suite is all glass. Don't get it - I don't want to see or hear anybody in the bathroom - 'toilet' is not a thing I want to share with my DH or best friend.

DramaAlpaca · 27/09/2022 23:40

I'm with you, OP. I'd hate that.

If it makes you feel better, DH is currently away for work and is staying in a hotel where there is nothing but a clear glass wall between bedroom and ensuite. He sent me a photo, apparently he got an upgrade to the penthouse suite. I'm glad I didn't join him on the trip, you have to keep some mystery in a marriage 😂

Onthebeach86 · 27/09/2022 23:41

We had a bathroom in Majorca which was separated from the main room by a clear glass wall. The toilet was tucked into an alcove but was visible from parts of the room. Wasn't impressed. I like privacy in the bathroom!

aliasname · 27/09/2022 23:43

I totally agree those doors are evil. It's not even that people can see in, it's just a feeling of not being private.

Those people scoffing that they are happy to shit in front of their entire family should maybe think how it feels to have a bowel condition, or incontinence or extremely heavy periods. Maybe step out of your own world for a tiny moment, yeah?

We had one of those at work, I kicked up a fuss and it was replaced. Hugely embarrassing to even have to do it in the first place though.

OP does the fan come on when you switch on the light? That should mask any noise. You can tell I'm an expert in toilet humiliation lol

Aria20 · 27/09/2022 23:44

Turn the tap or shower on if you are worried about him hearing - or just use the toilets in the lobby/restaurants. To be honest I often do this in Greece as I don't like having to put the dirty toilet paper in the little bin next to the toilet!

StoneofDestiny · 27/09/2022 23:44

TBH- I find it odd that married couples feel unable to fart, burp and wee in ear shot of each other!

I find it odd people want to do any of that in ear shot of their partner or imagine it's attractive behaviour. I don't want to hear mine eat or sniff either. Nothing wrong with manners - imagine the newsreader farting and burping through the broadcast, or your kids teachers doing it in front of the class, or the person on the train seat next to you.

VioletTopaz · 27/09/2022 23:51

YANBU op.
I don’t want to see or hear anyone I go away with (partner, family, friends) piss or shit. Or vice versa.
Please post a review. I actively avoid hotels with these daft doors.

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N1C · 27/09/2022 23:52

@aliasname thanks for your support Smile

OP does the fan come on when you switch on the light? That should mask any noise. You can tell I'm an expert in toilet humiliation lol

Unfortunately there isn't a fan that comes on with any of the lights in the room. Which leads me onto another thing that's odd about our room.

There is a shower in the room beside the bed. It also has a glass panel but there is a large gap between it and the ceiling which means all the steam goes into the bedroom. Not a big deal for me as it's warm and we just open the balcony door.

I feel that the designer was trying to be too cool and trendy.

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Lentil63 · 27/09/2022 23:52

I thought it was going to be worse, it’s not that bad.
I doubt it’s having a pee that is concerning you?
Drop some toilet tissue down before you go, to lessen any plop. He needs to go too! We all have way too many hang ups. I bet he doesn’t care. 😘

WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 27/09/2022 23:59
Hmm
WhileMyGuitarGentlyWeeps · 28/09/2022 00:01

StoneofDestiny · 27/09/2022 23:44

TBH- I find it odd that married couples feel unable to fart, burp and wee in ear shot of each other!

I find it odd people want to do any of that in ear shot of their partner or imagine it's attractive behaviour. I don't want to hear mine eat or sniff either. Nothing wrong with manners - imagine the newsreader farting and burping through the broadcast, or your kids teachers doing it in front of the class, or the person on the train seat next to you.

You don't want to hear your DH EAT or SNIFF or wee, burp, or fart in earshot of you? Confused WTF? What is wrong with you? I could not be in a marriage like that. Far better to be single than in a marriage with someone who thinks like you.

QueSyrahSyrah · 28/09/2022 00:02

It's becoming more common to have very open or glass bathrooms. DH and I have stayed in a couple of places similar and very pragmatically ask the other to put their headphones or go out on the balcony.

The place we stayed on honeymoon had a narrow glass window at head height between the room and the shower. He (jokingly) pressed his nose up against it for a few seconds whenever I showered.

MarmiteCoriander · 28/09/2022 00:09

It's more about the sounds and smells rather than the sights that make me feel uncomfortable.

I agree with another poster, could you turn the tap on or shower, or listen to something on your phone when you need to go?
Buy I can of toilet spray
Light a match/frangrant candle

Livelovebehappy · 28/09/2022 00:13

FatPatsCat · 27/09/2022 23:14

I was the same as you during my marriage OP - never even passed wind in front of him!

I used to use the toilets in the reception area if that's an option 😂

Fully aware I'll have the piss taken out of me but oh well!

Same here. Just because you’re married to someone, doesn’t mean you can throw all dignity out the window. I’ve been with my DH for 30 years and have never farted or burped within his earshot, nor has he ever seen me sat on the loo (although might have seen my head down it a few times!)

TheWideningGyre · 28/09/2022 00:22

Just take the shit @N1C. You'll feel much better for it.

I don't 'parade' my bodily functions in front of my husband, but neither am I ashamed of them.

We're just all bags of flesh, liquid and gas that have somehow reached sentience.

I shat on my husband's foot whilst expelling the next generation.

We can still look each other in the eye and find sexual attraction.

Free yourself!

LearnerCook · 28/09/2022 00:22

I felt like you do about toilet stuff when I first met my husband and it took me a while to get over.

Whatever you do, don't go on holiday to the US; all public loos there are worse than the one in your picture. The gaps all the way round the doors are beyond belief. Public toilet is exactly the right description!

KimberleyClark · 28/09/2022 00:24

StoneofDestiny · 27/09/2022 23:38

Been in loads of 'trendy' hotels abroad where the en suite is all glass. Don't get it - I don't want to see or hear anybody in the bathroom - 'toilet' is not a thing I want to share with my DH or best friend.

There should be a button you can press to make it opaque

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Peashoots · 28/09/2022 00:31

OP are you in alcudia? I think I stayed in this hotel in the summer! Was a problem for us as we had two teenage sons with us 😬
we complained and were moved to another room which had a proper wooden door. May be worth asking if they can change you.

CountingCrowns · 28/09/2022 01:16

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why are you so angry about other peoples marriages Confused

NotJustAnybody · 28/09/2022 01:18

I would never do a no. 2 in the presence of my DH.
In your situation, I'd run the taps or put some music/youtube on your phone while in there and spray the bathroom with Impulse/Linx. Then walk out in a nonchalant manner!

TheWideningGyre · 28/09/2022 01:44

NotJustAnybody · Today 01:18

I would never do a no. 2 in the presence of my DH.
In your situation, I'd run the taps or put some music/youtube on your phone while in there and spray the bathroom with Impulse/Linx. Then walk out in a nonchalant manner!

With it all stinking of shit? No-one's fooled.

They know you took a dump.

Why pretend it's something other?

Vecna · 28/09/2022 01:55

Almost all the public toilets I went to in NY were like this. There was one so bad I didn't even bother to relieve myself.

viques · 28/09/2022 01:59

Aria20 · 27/09/2022 23:44

Turn the tap or shower on if you are worried about him hearing - or just use the toilets in the lobby/restaurants. To be honest I often do this in Greece as I don't like having to put the dirty toilet paper in the little bin next to the toilet!

And all those swimming in the Grecian sea thank you for your gifts.