To have been annoyed at bloke in sports shop for telling off my son?

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Our sports shop has a gaming section now (makes no sense to me either!) separate to Sports shop apparently but no real separation physically.

I was stood looking at games and a worker approached and said to DS (who is 10) "Don't do that, you can't just leave things here, this is a separate part of the shop. You can't dump things here. That's not nice!"

It was a really condescending tone, really 'super nannyish'

I asked what was happening and he said DS had put a Nike bag on a hook with gaming items on and it didn't belong there.

I asked him to direct any issues to me and I will be the one to tell my son off, not him, he had no right to.

He huffed and walked off. I asked DS what happened and why did he have a Nike bag and why did he hang it up in the games section.

He said he didn't bring the bag over, it was hung up there already and it got knocked off by a lady going passed with a buggy, so he was just putting it back rather than leaving it on the floor.

On hearing that he was just trying to be helpful I went back to the worker who was laughing with his mate and calling me a Karen!! I explained to him that DS hadn't brought the bag into his section, he was simply picking it up off the floor after it had gotten knocked off from there.

He just kept saying its a different section and the bag didn't belong there.

I just left as he wasn't listening to me at all and I was annoyed at being called a Karen for standing up for my son.

WIBU to email HO, I got his name but does that actually make me a Karen if I complain 😐

Being called a Karen is a really sexist insult and to be honest if I was in the wrong mood I’d complain to head office about that alone. I don’t think I’d have gone over and told him what happened after talking to DS though, I would have shrugged and ignored it.

The games section is because e-sports is big business and a very real thing.

YABU.

The worker was allowed to tell your son not to do something he felt was wrong.

But he didn't do it.

The worker was wrong in the first place. How can he be right for telling him off for something he didn't do 🤔

A Karen can be and man or woman so it’s not sexist, it’s a type of person who has an unreasonable meltdown at people (normally people working). It’s an entitled behaviour.

I wouldn’t say you were a Karen, the guy had clearly made a mistake but didn’t know that. He was in the wrong but he probably thought you were one of those people that thinks your kid is an angel. Id be annoyed but just forget about it.

If a police office pulled you over for speeding when you didn't do it would you say he was right because he 'felt' you did something wrong rather than knowing?

I think the fact that he was insulting a customer should be enough to raise a complaint.

The shops are combined because they are owned by the same company and they reduced the stores to include the game shop in the sports shop!

It’s the same shop!

Oh FFS get over yourself! 🙄🙄

This is a non-event. Move on.

Please do complain and take it all the way … who the fuck does he think he is ?
what an arse .. and to speak nastily about you too ? No your not a ‘Karen’ to complain
I would have swore at him

Complain mainly because he called you a Karen. This 'Karen' shit needs to stop.

What’s the male equivalent of a Karen? Let’s pick a random middle aged man name and chuck it about as an insult. People that use ‘Karen’ are dicks in my opinion. I think that society doesn’t like women who don’t want to take any shit.

They’re both Karen, it’s not about the persons sex it’s the entitled behaviour and childish meltdown that’s follows when they don’t get their way. Clearly mumsnet has no idea what a Karen actually is

Non event really.

I don't like using the name Karen as an insult - luckily I've never come across it in real life, only in the media and mumsnet!

If your kid is moving stuff around the shop and as a parent you are just ignoring it of course the shop assistant can ask the child to behave.
you are being a bit precious. I don’t like the term Karen, but you should control you child.

Here. Have some fries. 🍟

Other adults, esp those in a position of authority in a particular time or place, are allowed to speak directly to your children. Even if you don't like it. Even if you get conflicting accounts of what your child did, or didn't do. If you want to minimise this happening keep your dc by your side at all times. Once they are old enough to stray a little they are old enough to be challenged on their behaviour. And yes, sometimes the adults in question will be harsher or more incorrect than you'd like. That's life.

This is why we have a generation of wet wipe children.

But he did hang s bsg up where it didn't belong, which is what he was asking him nit to do. You're being precious about it, these things happen and certainly don't warrant complaint. And you don't know what happened because you didn't notice the bag being knocked off or your son picking it up.

Did you even read the OP?

The kid didn't move anything.

Why have I never seen or heard a man be referred to as a Karen then?
Time to call it quits with this shitty unintelligent insult.

YA both U. you for your immediate don’t tell off my precious child reaction, and him for being a sexist prick.

Just read on the BBC website that the male equivalent is a Ken. 😂

anyway back to the thread. I think the shop assistant could have asked your son to move the bag nicely. Being a dick to customers though.. that’s worth a complaint.

I get why you are annoyed at your son being blamed for something it turns out was not his fault, but what are you wanting to achieve in terms of how he sees this event. It sounds like the employee was a bit OTT to take the time to berate a small child, assuming he is young if mum is going to bat for him. My overall thought would be that your son likely would have forgotten this 5 minutes after happening, if not help him to by showing him it is not a big deal. Life is not fair and he has many more challenges to learn to live with than an uppity shop assistant

YANBU to complain, it'll probably get you nowhere but I agree if anything this Karen shit needs to be stopped. How ridiculous of previous posters saying Karen can be applied to men or women! Since when has a man ever been called a 'Karen'?