What you and partner do that others would find gross

[VegMam]

Inspired by the peeing in the shower thread, where apparently it’s gross to share a towel (I disagree). Are there things you and your partner do that might be considered gross?

In my house we have multiple toothbrushes and my husband and I just use whichever one (ie we share toothbrushes).

However, we’d never wear outdoor shoes in the house, nor would outdoor clothes be allowed on or in our bed.

I didnt realise sharing a bath or a towel with your dp was considered grim.

Me and exh would wee in the shower when we were sharing a shower, talk about poo a lot, sometimes send each other poo photos if it was a funny poo or if he spattered up, we didn't chat with the door open but I've given him a goodbye kiss whilst he's been on the loo. Farting in front of each other is tame 😂

What are people eating, that they have so much wind needing to be released??

I live in a town and I just find it a bit gross, all the pavement dirt and dust that must get on your clothes, the fumes from traffic, someone in the supermarket coughing on you. It’s especially gross to me if you’ve sat down somewhere (eg train).

I live in London! albeit a leafy area but I really don't think I get covered in filth working to the corner shop.

What about if you have guests? Their clothes could have been anywhere, if they sit on your sofa what happens afterwards?

I shower before and after DTD.

But how does that work with passionate/unplanned sex?

I try not to fart in front of dp but sometimes it just comes out... I'm that age... I whisper sorry and feel embarrassed. We've been together 17 years is this not normal? I've heard him fart about 4 times (in his sleep).

I don't even know when he poos. He's very secretive. I talk through the bathroom door if it's urgent, but he disappears. It's frustrating when it's mid-important conversation.

What grosses me out is finding used condoms he's not put in the bin. I don't think I have high expectations of cleanliness to expect him to properly dispose of these.

I scrape out sock fluff from under his toenails. It's strangely satisfying. I once used floss to strangle off a skin tag he had. I also trim his nose hair as it really annoys me to see it sticking out.

He's seen me give birth and tried my breast milk.

He doesn't clean under his foreskin though so oral has been out of the question for several years.

I take my shoes off when I come home. He doesn't and it pisses me off.

He washes my period pants though.

@MrsFezziwig 80s upwards, based on family 😆 I thought it was normal to have more gas as you age (increased intolerances, medications, slower digestion, etc)?

We share stuff. Towels, toiletries, cutlery, food, drinks, clothes. Everything is communal for us two. I have a separate head for his toothbrush when I stay at his though, I draw the line at sharing that.

Oh and we also don't close the loo doors (there are two in his bathroom) when we go for a wee, only for a poo. But if one of us needs to go into the bathroom while the other is having a poo it's fine. We also let the dog sleep on the bed, cuddle up on the sofa and lick our plates before they go in the dishwasher

I don't wear shoes in the house, but that's because slippers are more comfortable and I want to keep the carpet clean.

The cats sleep on the bed.

I'd happily blow my nose on a towel if it was about to go in the washing machine anyway.

I don't have a dishwasher, but if I did, I'd put the cats bowls in it. Not a toilet brush though. That's a step too far

I clean my husbands ears and cut his toenails, squeeze his spots.
We share towels
We don't intentionally share toothbrushes but we would do if we lost one/couldn't find it/didn't pack it on holiday etc

Married 42 years. Of course we fart in front of each other. I have IBS and am not going out of the room every time I fart.

We have no problem weeing in front of each other. Pooing not so keen on but if he is in the shower and I suddenly desperately need to poo I have no choice.

We don't have a lock on the bathroom door and don't very often totally close it.

We share towels but they are washed every 3 days. We change our bed once a week and both shower every day

This thread needs a trigger warning

H kisses the dog on the mouth.

I'm currently in the bath that OH just got out of

He doesn't clean under his foreskin though so oral has been out of the question for several years.

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I’d say it’s more abnormal for a man not to clean under his foreskin than it is to fart in front of each other

I'm not a fan of baths (I shower daily, baths just don't do anything for me) but on the rare occasion I've had a bath the water goes cold pretty quickly. Surely if a whole family shares bathwater, if you aren't the first one in, you're having a lukewarm bath? That would bother me more than the hygiene side of things, although tbh I do think it's pretty yucky.

I never wash my hands! Very rarely in fact, I'm 40 and have always been this way.

No need. Not a germaphobe. Like my microbiome and immune system.

Hopefully the non hand washers do so after going to the loo? If not that really is unhealthy and potentially dangerous. A lot of the other stuff on here is just different posters opinions

Do the non-handwashers really not do it even after a poo?

Hankies literally make me feel sick. I once moved out of a house share because one of them used hankies and I couldn't deal with it.

In general I have low hygiene standards, just not as low as many of you it seems.

Also non-handwashers, what about after handling raw chicken or sorting out the bins?

🤢 May a lifetime of sick bugs reign down upon you.

Absolutely all of this. Perfectly normal

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