What you and partner do that others would find gross

[VegMam]

Inspired by the peeing in the shower thread, where apparently it’s gross to share a towel (I disagree). Are there things you and your partner do that might be considered gross?

In my house we have multiple toothbrushes and my husband and I just use whichever one (ie we share toothbrushes).

However, we’d never wear outdoor shoes in the house, nor would outdoor clothes be allowed on or in our bed.

Sitting down is more comfortable than standing. Sometimes it's the only peace we'll get. Sometimes it's the only time we'll see each other that day. Sometimes my ADHD insists I tell him this really important thing right now in great detail before I forget about it forever.

The smell isn't an issue. Like I said, we've both worked in healthcare so there are no sights or smells that are off-putting.

The no farting thing reminds me of this post a couple of years ago.

amp.nine.com.au/article/9cac215d-edfd-4510-811d-20970fa4393b

We dont have a cleaner.

I have a sofa in my bathroom (and a very big bath and very good ventilation)

We fart in front of each other. We'd been together for about two years and one slipped out (of me) in a lift in a hotel. I was mortified, he was delighted. He'd been holding his in (in my company) for the two years and had, apparently, been getting up in the night to go outside to fart. I wasn't in those days particularly prone to 'botty-burping' as we call it and had not been conscious of retaining gas on his account!

Now that we're older it's a normal part of our routine to the extent we 'visualise' each other's botty-burps .... "Oh, that was a long, thin one. Maybe 7 or 8inches, about half-an-inch wide ..." or "Jeezo, that was a splat .... size of a pizza .... a 16" pizza!!"

Also, when we do botty-burp, we pretend we've sharted ourselves. Someday, in the not too distant future, that will most probably be the truth .... 😉

Why do people think peeing in the shower is gross?

@VegMam

My French exchange family yelled at me after I pulled the plug out and drained my bath. Literally the whole family yelling at a mortified teenager. I thought it was weird when the Mum asked me if I wanted a bath and then ran it for me. I couldn't wait to go home from then on

Ha ha ...i remember that thread... no they are not sheets reserved for the deed... like they get whipped out when we are about to do it.
They are just regular bedding that was on there already that gets messy and could do with a change after.

@Housenoob

Why do people think peeing in the shower is gross?

Because they don't like the idea that you might end up standing in someone else's pee?

There is a perfectly engineered receptacle, usually in the same room, to pee in

We let the dogs on the bed. I let my dog lick my porridge bowl after I’ve used it. I know objectively it’s gross, but we have a dishwasher, so it’s not the end of the world. I’ve not died yet.

Outdoor clothes on the bed too. I’ve never even considered that could be an issue. I thought everyone did it.

Anal sex on the kitchen table 😛

DH will use my toothbrush if he can't find or hasn't brought his which gives me the ick. I'm pretty easy going but I draw the line at toothbrushes. He also used to pick his toenails, but now does this on the quiet because he knows I don't like it. He often walks in the house in his outdoor shoes - if I find mud or worse walked into the carpet I know it is him as DC are well trained.

DH doesn't like me swearing or farting in front of him, which is a great shame as sometimes either will slip out in front of him. However, he will happily fart/swear around the house on occasion. He also doesn't like me putting my feet up on the sofa with slippers on

Well I suppose any kind of sex on the kitchen table is unhygienic @MidnightAnnie!

@FeralWitch

Outdoor clothes on the bed too. I’ve never even considered that could be an issue. I thought everyone did it.

So did I until a recent thread with waves of disgust from a few posters

It gets cleaned down afterwards. Of course.

Those days are gone but anywhere was fair game back in the day @MidnightAnnie 😆

This is what I have a problem with.
I don't blow my nose on random towels. I live by myself and I tend to keep one near me for the purpose
From memory I've never done it in anyone else's house, and I don't then use it for anything else. No different to a handkerchief surely? I use those also because I can't fit a towel in my handbag

I've also never (audibly) broken wind in front of a partner! I'd be mortified.

I agree!

My dentist, who is very chatty, told me the only two things in a family that are unacceptable to ever share are ravors and toothbrushes because of what could be shared.

i never did the toothbrush anyway but I stopped pinching DHs razor for my arm pits!

Not even in your sleep?

I don't fart around anyone. Been with DH 23 years. We don't wear shoes inside the house either. I shower before and after DTD.

We do, however, all share bathwater in this house. Why is that gross? you're not drinking it are you!

The dog sits on the sofa. And occasionally the bed for a cuddle.

Bedsheets sometimes don't get charged for weeks! 😱🙀

Outside boots in bed is bloody disgusting. They might have poo on them! So gross & unhygienic.

Probably in my sleep! But then they'd usually be sleeping too?

Sheets you have had sex on. Obvs.

I agree that blowing your nose on a towel is gross - but how is putting a towel with snot on it in the washing machine any worse than putting something with blood or urine on it in there? That’s what the machine is for..