What you and partner do that others would find gross

[VegMam]

Inspired by the peeing in the shower thread, where apparently it’s gross to share a towel (I disagree). Are there things you and your partner do that might be considered gross?

In my house we have multiple toothbrushes and my husband and I just use whichever one (ie we share toothbrushes).

However, we’d never wear outdoor shoes in the house, nor would outdoor clothes be allowed on or in our bed.

I also put snotty hankies in the washing machine, and the dog bowls in the dishwasher. However, I thought these things were all normal.

A relative is a senior consultant physician with a PhD in something to do with disease transmission. They put their dog bowls in the dishwasher and keep a couple of books in the bathroom.

@ShirtingForkBalls

We do, however, all share bathwater in this house. Why is that gross? you're not drinking it are you!

Imagine all the cumulative crusty bits of each person swirling around in lukewarm human soup and you're a quarter of the way there.

But you have sex with your partner no?
Also, like I said, you're not drinking it!
Do you never get ins swimming pool?

People don't scrub their bodily secretions off into a swimming pool though? And (hopefully) most are clean before they get into one! I'd never share bathwater. Unless I was the first in!

That’s gross @VegMam Can’t you afford your own toothbrush?

We are both very clean but happy to wee or poo in front of the other.

Let's see. I don't change my sheets as often as I should.
Sometimes I'll sleep in my clothes.
I don't shower every day anymore. I used to but since getting older my skin gets way too dry to the point of itching and cracking.

If I've been exposed to things I'm allergic too, I'll shower and clean clothes straight away.

If I were to ever have sex again, he most certainly is going to wash his wedding tackle and his hands thoroughly and trim his nails.
I'm not having UTIs because of another minging man.

Sometimes if I spill something dry on the floor, I don't sweep it up right then.

I never wear shoes in the house.

I guess that's all for my weirdness.

Change our bedsheets after 2-3 months 🙈or when visibly dirty.

Oh wow it’s like the underbelly of MN here….
Someone open the window and fetch the bleach.

Seriously?

I don’t shower every day.
I wash my hair rarely -every three months perhaps.
Change sheets maybe once a month.
Cat bowls in dishwasher.
Clothes on lying on bed.
Share towels.

Would never share toothbrushes, though.
Never intentionally fart in front of each other. Been together 28 years.

Never have I been more smug about my weekly changed sheets, daily showers, thrice weekly washed towels and clean home 😀

Some of you must stink

That’s disgusting, let’s hope neither of you have gum disease. We don’t take our shoes off indoors.

I live in a town and I just find it a bit gross, all the pavement dirt and dust that must get on your clothes, the fumes from traffic, someone in the supermarket coughing on you. It’s especially gross to me if you’ve sat down somewhere (eg train).

I put dog and cat bowls in the dishwasher and we share bath water. I’ve shared bath water all my life in my family and so did he, we were poor! If we want a non shared water we would shower. I don’t share towels and we don’t poo in front of each other. I am sure we have used each other’s toothbrush but not regularly

I’m not fussy about bodily fluids. I work in healthcare and deal with them daily and my days partner and I have a very close relationship but there’s just no need to leave doors open or to sit and chat with each other while we poo! We can pause for 5 minutes.

We don’t really fart in front of each other either maybe while sleeping.it’s not planned just don’t do it. We aren’t together 24/7 and I wouldn’t fart openly in work or with other people either so can control it while I go the loo or somewhere else without exploding, no one needs to smell other peoples farts.(I go to too many gigs where people drop disgusting eggy ones!)
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i do think people can be too over clean with the cleaning chemicals that they over use too often etc but not washing your hands at all is gross tbh. We shower daily ut not pre.post sec as a rule, we are pretty clean people anyway.

@KangarooKenny hope this is a joke !

I didn’t know this…we may have to change this habit!

Nope we shower every day and our once a week washed towels are used to dry our clean bodies… hardly filthy! But you crack on and keep your expensive electric bills by washing everything in sight so often! I

That’s the key. I’m always first in

The only things mentioned here that we do are dog related. She’s allowed on the sofa and we wash her bowls in the dishwasher. The heat and detergent kills any bacteria so I don’t see what the issue is there. Nobody would think anything of putting a chopping board or plate in that had been used for raw chicken (which also has the potential to contain harmful bacteria).

@ShirtingForkBalls

We do, however, all share bathwater in this house. Why is that gross? you're not drinking it are you!^

Imagine all the cumulative crusty bits of each person swirling around in lukewarm human soup and you're a quarter of the way there.^

But you have sex with your partner no?
Also, like I said, you're not drinking it!
Do you never get ins swimming pool?

I go to a public hydrotherapy pool. The difference here, though, is each person is obliged to shower off before and after swimming in the pool. They also cannot attend if ill. The pool water is also treated. Now, with many people using the same (untreated) bath water, who likely haven't showered before getting in the bath and may not after getting out, and may also use the bath when ill - you really can't say the two are much the same.

This! I don’t see why it’s like some sort of badge of honour to be gross.

I don’t fart openly at work or socially, therefore I’m quite capable of not doing so around my partner. I’m not a prude, neither of us are but there’s a place for manners and privacy - so closed bathroom doors (although we have separate bathrooms 😂) and just decent manners in front of the person I care most about in the world. Entirely relaxed, just would never ever want them to think I’m gross.

That aside, some of you are just gross. Do you teach your children to not wash their hands?

@Shinyhappyperson22 oh I will! And I make no judgements in your directions

@GrimmTales you will smell if that's how often you wash your hair.
Absolutely gross