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Constant comments on blue eyes

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Janedoe95 · 21/09/2022 22:36

I was wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing DC has blue eyes and they’re often the first thing people notice. (Which is fine)

but lately people seem to comment every time they look darker (say if I take a photo at night) people constantly comment on whether they’ll stay blue. Even complete strangers will come up and comment several have warned me they’ll change by 2 years rolls eyes

I have brown eyes and I’m not white so I’m not sure if that makes people more inclined to comment

does anyone else have similar experience? Does this happen to all children or all blue eyed children

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PinkRiceKrispies · 21/09/2022 22:38

Happens to me a lot as well and I am 37!

LimeTwists · 21/09/2022 22:38

Some people are just dull and look for incredibly dull things to talk about.

JustAWeirdoWithNoName · 21/09/2022 22:38

I think it's normal personally. Every baby in our family is born with blue eyes and gets comments that they might change (and it is true - my sister's DS went from dark blue to brown).
I don't think it's to do with your ethnicity

Penguinsaregreat · 21/09/2022 22:39

I honestly can’t remember.
I do think people say the most bizarre things though.
Just ignore them.

sunflowerdaisyrose · 21/09/2022 22:40

People did with my first as her's were blue but sometimes looked different depending on the light and were more of a steel blue - they did change to hazel - mine are dark brown. My second no one speculated if they would change as they were bright blue and seemed obvious they wouldn't change (they didn't).

TooMuchToDoTooLittleInclination · 21/09/2022 22:41

Mine were blue as a child, people always commented on them.. By the time I was 10 they had started changing, now they're blue/green (differed a lit) with flecks of hazel

when firms ask eye colour I just write 'other' now.

Natty13 · 21/09/2022 22:41

My siblings and I each have different coloured eyes but all started off with blue ones as children. Now with our kids we and our parents comment whenever we see each other (we live in different countries) we note whose are changing and what colour we think they will end up.

My sister and BIL both have the darkest brown eyes so their kids probably we are all most curious to see what they turn out to have because they could be anything on the colour spectrum. I find it fascinating, it wouldn't occur to me that someone would be bothered by comments.

MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 21/09/2022 22:42

I think it probably is because you're not white and you've got brown eyes so people feel it's more of a topic. 'oooh mum with dark skin and dark eyes with blue eyed baby'. I can imagine it gets boring for you.

bloodyplanes · 21/09/2022 22:48

My dd was born with blue eyes and now they are dark brown.

Dinosauratemydaffodils · 21/09/2022 22:49

I am white albeit with black hair, olive skin and blue eyes. People are still saying to me about my blonde haired blue eyed dc1 and he's 7. Also I'm in my 40s and people still assume my eyes are brown unless they're actually looking in which case they act surprised.

For the record both my grandmothers had brown eyes and both my parents have/had blue. People used to regularly assume my mum wasn't her mother's especially as all four of her brothers have brown eyes.

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Janedoe95 · 21/09/2022 22:49

Natty13 · 21/09/2022 22:41

My siblings and I each have different coloured eyes but all started off with blue ones as children. Now with our kids we and our parents comment whenever we see each other (we live in different countries) we note whose are changing and what colour we think they will end up.

My sister and BIL both have the darkest brown eyes so their kids probably we are all most curious to see what they turn out to have because they could be anything on the colour spectrum. I find it fascinating, it wouldn't occur to me that someone would be bothered by comments.

I’m definitely not bothered, I understand that people are just complimenting them but it’s just interesting how much attention/comments DC eyes attract (although I know babies tend to attract attention in general anyway)

although I do find it slightly sad how highly prized they are as if it’ll be a great loss if his eyes turn brown

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buckleten · 21/09/2022 22:50

Same, my second was born with blue eyes, they started to darken at around 6-8months and are now dark brown.

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 21/09/2022 22:51

LimeTwists · 21/09/2022 22:38

Some people are just dull and look for incredibly dull things to talk about.

This is absolutely true!

catandcoffee · 21/09/2022 22:55

People assume darker skin equals dark eyes.

Brown eyes are my favourite colour eyes.

MinnieMouseclubhouse · 21/09/2022 22:57

I suspect it is to do with your ethnicity and you having brown eyes, so your child having blue eyes is more unusual. It must be annoying.

We never got that but I have blue eyes too and my daughter is incredibly pale. It's always her blonde eyelashes that get comments 🤷‍♀️

MrAgonyAunt · 21/09/2022 22:59

People are only saying what they have seen so don't get upset.

AspireMe · 21/09/2022 23:03

I'm mixed race as is my sister and her partner and my nephew was born with blue eyes which then turned hazel and are now brown. And I commented/marvelled at them every single time I saw him Grin I wouldn't do the same to a strangers baby though Hmm

kimchifox · 21/09/2022 23:04

2 of my DC have blue eyes and I do not but I don't remember excessive comments - although when they were newborns a few people said "I wonder if they will change?" - I guess it's a "thing" because babies may develop melanin (not necessarily present at birth) as they grow. Does anyone on your side have blue eyes? I think you need the blue eyed gene on both sides for it to be passed on but I'm not a geneticist!

People always comment on babies - they might say "I wonder if he will grow up to be a doctor/footballer/ maths whizz like you/ like dad?". I think it's sort of in our human nature because a baby just represents a world of possibilities, their whole future lies ahead of them - babies are a source of wonder, unsullied and pure and gorgeous! Just enjoy your "possibly permanently" blue eyed boy! Wink

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Janedoe95 · 21/09/2022 23:04

MinnieMouseclubhouse · 21/09/2022 22:57

I suspect it is to do with your ethnicity and you having brown eyes, so your child having blue eyes is more unusual. It must be annoying.

We never got that but I have blue eyes too and my daughter is incredibly pale. It's always her blonde eyelashes that get comments 🤷‍♀️

I wondered if it was that especially as blue eyes are fairly common and as I don’t personally usually comment on eye colour myself but I’d probably notice blonde eye lashes too as they’re so unique

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MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 21/09/2022 23:06

There's only so much to talk about with babies,they're just making conversation. Dh and I have grey eyes and ds has deep conker brown eyes so we have comments too.

megosaurusrex · 21/09/2022 23:09

My DS had the most amazing blue eyes when he was born, I used to get comments all the time. I don't get them so much now as they've got slightly less blue. People just like to talk about babies appearances for some reason! It's mostly just filler conversation. People often don't know what to say about a baby other than "oh they're cute" or something like that. I try not to read into it, most of it's just random chatter.

JanFeb · 21/09/2022 23:10

I'd say it's to do with your ethnicity too. My youngest has blue eyes and white skin so get a few comments about how 'fair' they are and eye colour. Though they are still a baby so time for them to change, as other child has brown eyes. (I'm mixed race dh is white)

Isonthecase · 21/09/2022 23:10

We get loads of comments on my kids eye colours, both the one with brown eyes and the one with blue. I used to get loads on mine as a child too. We are all different shades of beige (we get comments on that too). People make small talk and it's usually inspired by what they can see.

Overshadowed · 21/09/2022 23:11

My husband winds me up by commenting on my blue eyes. I’m 38 and people still comment

Alopeciabop · 21/09/2022 23:17
  1. Blue eyes look big and shiny on babies - It makes them noticeable so people comment.
  2. It’s the colour baby eyes often start off as - then they change. Which is why people are curious if they’ll change. If a kid starts off with brown eyes they’re 99.9% likely to still have brown eyes three years later - not such a good conversation piece.
  3. It is sad thinking of the baby losing it’s big blue eyes, just like it’s sad thinking of them losing their chubby wrists or long eye lashes. Again, that’s just because you’re standing looking into said big blue eyes! People think your baby is lovely! Not because of some aryan fetishism. 🙄 My kid had muddy colour eyes when she was little but they were huge so everyone commented on them. It gives them something to say that’s nice. Babies are blobs so eyes give something to focus on that make it different to all the other blobs at that moment in time.