Constant comments on blue eyes

[Janedoe95]

I was wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing DC has blue eyes and they’re often the first thing people notice. (Which is fine)

but lately people seem to comment every time they look darker (say if I take a photo at night) people constantly comment on whether they’ll stay blue. Even complete strangers will come up and comment several have warned me they’ll change by 2 years rolls eyes

I have brown eyes and I’m not white so I’m not sure if that makes people more inclined to comment

does anyone else have similar experience? Does this happen to all children or all blue eyed children

There are just people out there who make comments on what they see about people who are visually striking.
Both my kids are mixed race but look very different and ive had a person at work comment to me that they look like that have different dads. Thats kind of rude but i think people just say what they see half the time and don't think

LT2 says it right there; of her baby ‘both his parents have blue eyes’ @YouSirNeighMmmm. though tbh not sure that means they definitely won’t if there’s some other colours further back?

DH and I are both pale and freckly with blue eyes and have 2 pale freckled blue eyed children. No one has commented on it ever!

Pretty sure it’s because of your ethnicity OP. One of my DC’s has a friend who is mixed race with brown skin, very curly dark red hair and green eyes and people comment on her colouring (which is so unusual and really stunning) all the time.

@ShirtingForkBalls

passport forms
drs/hospital forms
regulatory forms for profession

I can't remember what else, thinking about it though, it's been a while since I was asked

I used to get a bit stressed about it as I felt it was something one should know about oneself. It always seemed a daft question though when they were so changeable.

@BillBenWeed so I am racist (again you have no idea of my heritage) and I’m also too stupid to realise it? And even though I literally stated that colourism and racism is a big issue, you say I don’t think it is?? 🤨

And none of your post addresses the fact that 45% of Caucasians have brown eyes - am I being racist towards them by saying my daughter had muddy eyes?

and she DID have muddy colour eyes. I wasn’t trying to make it a positive thing or a negative thing. They were beautiful and she had nothing but compliments on her eyes, but they had no distinctive colour. They were muddy. And muddled. They literally were the combination colour of a pile of mulchy leaves. I DIDN’T say they were ugly, but they didn’t shine like jewels and I was telling the TRUTH. They didn’t glow brown/amber. They weren’t striking in colour like some people’s.

Eyes of ANY colour can be beautiful but some glow more than others. One man with brown eyes has eyes that draw attention, while another man has brown eyes which no one notices. Why? Because people are programmed biologically as well as socially to notice beautiful and unique things. Even as a mother I can see that my daughter’s eye colour was not the first thing people noticed. Though she was and is stunning. And her eyes, most say, are her best feature.

And it’s like you don’t want to see any other explanation, just racism. My son has DIRTY blonde hair. Also not a “positive” description but let me guess, you won’t jump on me for that.

@BillBenWeed

WTAF?

have I passed you off on another thread?

that's the second uncalled for shitty post you've aimed at me on this thread!

I haven't said anything any different than a lot if posters on the thread. The OP asked for experiences, I briefly gave mine. What's your problem??

...and FWIW, I don't think my eyes are stunningly unique FFS🙄🙄

I think people do comment when your child looks different to you, regardless of race. We get a lot of comments about DC2's blond hair, because DH and I both have dark brown hair, though we are all the same ethnicity. I'm sure there was no ill feeling behind it, but it happened so often that DC1 (also brown haired like us) started saying he wanted to be blond too!

This. I have to admit people who mention my blue eyes are either creepy or just really, really boring.

Sometimes it doesn't need thinking about. They'd talk about the paint they've got drying at home if they could.

DS who is Anglo-Chinese was born with blue eyes. Mine are brown and DH's are green with a halo of hazel around the pupil.

In the first few months, people did comment on ds's eyes being blueish grey, but over time they turned brown and now 17 years later, they are more like dh's. I think it's just an observation,seeing that neither mine or dh's eyes are blue.

My children are mixed race. My youngest came out with the darkest of dark brown eyes. Like gorgeous chocolate buttons. My first two came out with blue eyes and I remember hoping they would change. They did - both of them have absolutely beautiful green eyes. With their skin and hair colouring, they look absolutely amazing.

Im not a fan of blue eyes. Which is completely irrelevant to everything but just my personal preference. DH has brown eyes and I have green eyes so I don’t know…I don’t really get the love for blue eyes.

There were no blue eyes on one side of my family so when they stayed blue everyone talked about it. But no one talked about it on the other side. It's just because it's unusual to them.

Probably because your dc has different colour eyes to you.
We get it a lot with my ds, we live abroad and ds is my double, as pale skinned as they come with bright blue eyes. Dh is other nationality and is dark skinned with dark eyes and hair. People never comment when it's just ds and I together but whenever dh is with him people feel the need to comment constantly. It really winds him up so I can see where you're coming from.

I think people are just sometimes surprised to see blue eyes with non-white skin.
I teach a little boy whose parents are both east Asian, and he has the most beautiful light blue eyes. They are really striking against his darker skin. He's 7.
I also used to teach an older girl with a similar background, who also had really striking blue eyes.

It's just that it's unusual. Don't take it personally.

….not once did my post reference racism I simply questioned whether looking differently from my child was a reason people commented on his eyes more and other people kindly gave their experiences.

it’s not racist to notice people looking differently, you must have some kind of issue not every conversation that mentions race and appearance is negative people should be able to have open conversations and compare experiences.

Yes. My mother's cousins were/are exactly like this..... one of them has green eyes herself.

Tbh I don't get the fuss because their kid practically look full Caucasian anyway!

My husband is mixed race with green/blue eyes and has had comments all his life. our children have huge light blue eyes, very dark hair, olive skin and again people always comment on their eyes which is nice and they like the compliments. When I was pregnant with my children it was commented on a lot by my husband’s family about what colour eyes our children might have, this happens every time there’s going to be a new baby in the family - no one takes offence to this. I have to say I’ve got a thing for brown eyes, suppose we always want what we haven’t got.

My DC has bright blue eyes and I don’t think anyone ever commented on them the way you’ve described. However they’re exactly the same colour as mine so that’s probably why.

My DM - Italian, brown hair, brown eyes, olive skin - back in the day...... was often taken as the nanny of her four white haired, blue eyed, children. Not knowing or understanding, that she was the only one in her family with that colouring. Her mother, brown and green, father blonde and blue, and brother blonde and blue, all being fairly common in Northern Italy.

My children both have bright blue eyes while I have green eyes so I had a lot of comments on how their eyes might change (particularly my eldest who has my hair colour as well) so I do think it's normal, however - my (half) sister is mixed race with blue eyes and gets a lot of comments on how unusual it is and had a lot more comments as a baby/child about it so I do also think their might be something in that theory too because it is more unusual for certain ethnicities to have blue eyes.