Constant comments on blue eyes

[Janedoe95]

I was wondering if anyone else has experienced the same thing DC has blue eyes and they’re often the first thing people notice. (Which is fine)

but lately people seem to comment every time they look darker (say if I take a photo at night) people constantly comment on whether they’ll stay blue. Even complete strangers will come up and comment several have warned me they’ll change by 2 years rolls eyes

I have brown eyes and I’m not white so I’m not sure if that makes people more inclined to comment

does anyone else have similar experience? Does this happen to all children or all blue eyed children

I knew a little black boy with one brown eye and one a brilliant blue.
I made him so distinctive — he really stood out in a crowd. A really beautiful child.

One of my girls has always had dark brown eyes. The other had light blue eyes that started changing when she was two or so. They ended up a beautiful shade of hazel. Her daughter also had light blue eyes that have turned greenish-brown. I imagine she'll have hazel eyes as well.

There's a reason people use the term "baby blues" as a lot of children are born with blue eyes regardless of ethnicity.

My children's changed the other way - from a navy, very dark colour to very light blue grey. It was fascinating to watch them change over the first year.

Yes, I had two very blonde, very blue eyed kids who everyone said would darken. One has (though is still blonde and blue eyed just not as light as when they were little), the others hair is now very dark brown , but the eyes are still bright blue.

This is something I think about. When I see a child who is obviously mixed race, who has light eyes, my first inclination is to be like “wow how beautiful”. But at the same time I worry that the reason I appreciate it is because it is a kind of whitening of black features. An unconscious bias. It does make me wary of being overly gushy about it. Especially if it’s a parent I don’t know well.

For the record, my partner is mixed race (although not obvious to everyone) and our daughter has blue eyes and olive skin/blonde hair. She gets complimented a lot on her eyes (which is nice for me as it’s pretty much the only thing she has of mine!) but I am also aware that it’s the contrast in her colouring that makes them stand out so much.

Yeah. My 12 year old son is still blue eyed despite everyone and anyone telling me they’d turn brown by the next birthday. Shocker.

Its just curiosity, I wouldn't read so much into it.
I'm Asian, siblings and I all have dark brown eyes, including partners yet all th children have been born with blue/grey. It's fascinating as it's not hugely common.

My one year old DD has black hair and very blue eyes. And I am always stopped by strangers who either remark on her long hair (it’s had to be cut twice already) or her blue eyes. It does get irritating as it is all the time and I’m an antisocial grump but I have to remind myself that it is a major compliment.

Yes, son is 10 months and people constantly comment on his big blue eyes. Until around six months the topic of them maybe changing would also come up fairly often (I have green eyes so maybe that's why?) My son is quite sociable and very often tries to interact with strangers, so I guess it's just a fairly easy thing that they can remark on. His big smile and his fluffy blond hair also get decent mileage.

Meant to add - my husband has the same colour eyes and has jokingly 'told' my son before that he should enjoy the compliments whilst he can because at some point people will definitely stop remarking on it.

Yes, could be in innocent but sometimes also underlying racism about how wonderful blue eyes are and how much you must desire them.

I had comments like this re DD. Her eyes started light grey and are now hazel/brown. I am not white.

Also comments re skin colour (oooh I bet you're glad she's not so dark - always comment back to say there's no such thing as too dark or light), then comments I bet you're glad her hair isn't a proper Afro. My hair isn't (I'm mixed eth, but it is v curly) but I have family with Afro hair and tell these arseholes so, and that I couldn't care less

Some people are very basic

Also people who say it's deffo not racism or to do with ethnicity are naive.
Look at how @Alopeciabop describes her own child's darker eyes as 'muddy' but then blue eyes are lovely shiny things.

It's that type of language that black and brown people are subject to that still holds racist undertones

It's quite an inane/ dull thing to comment on but I wouldn't be annoyed by it.

Not unusual to have comments made about blue eyes as baby changing during childhood, irrespective of skin colour or race.

OH’s eyes bright blue as baby now very deep brown.

I honestly don't think it's racism. I'm white. With very blue eyes. Baby also has blue eyes (identical to mine).

But we still often talk about whether hers will change, because her dad (also white) has very deep chocolate brown eyes (gorgeous colour).

I will be briefly a bit sad if they change now, but only selfishly because they are so like mine. But I think it's likely they will because brown eye genes are dominant.

This conversation comes up not just between us. Friends and family regularly ask if we think they will change over time.

It's a common topic, because it's fairly interesting and eyes are often a standout feature on a baby. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I'm classic Swedish stock with very blonde hair and blue eyes. My baby currently takes after me (husband has blue eyes too and is fairly fair) and it's also pretty much the first thing people comment on. I think they're just looking for something to say!

Blue is so common so not noticed anyone say anything about blue eyes before.

My eyes were blue and I had blonde hair until 4. Then my hair changed to brown with green eyes.. 🤣.

My late husband had, and children have, very blue eyes. I mean really blue. ( think like Elizabeth Taylor who was known for her eye colour, amongst other things)Whenever we went on holiday, usually to Greece, we had constant comments about their eyes. Older ladies wanting to hug them, yes really, because their eyes were so blue. I felt a bit put out as mine are only blue/grey(lol)! I think it is just that it can be so unusual to see eyes that colour.

Almost all white babies are born with blue or blue/grey eyes and then a large proportion change, often in the first year but sometimes later. The colour’s often not stable until around 5 years old. It’s gets commented on a lot especially when you have 2 brown eyed parents and a blue eyed baby.
Your ethnicity may well be influencing some peoples thoughts and comments, but some people noticing might just be fascinated by the process.

We are asian, I have fair skin, dark brown eyes and jet black hair. Dh has light brown skin, green eyes and black hair. Eldest child has very fair skin, auburn hair which was blonde at birth and brown eyes. Her hair colour was remarked on a lot as if it would be a shame if it went dark. I was like pish posh with parents with dark hair it was always likely to change and did. She likes her auburn hair and it has shades of red and orange running through it. Ds has brown skin, is darker skinned than both myself and his dad, has jet black hair but was born with grey eyes. His eyes are hazel now and settled at 8 months. I've been told his eyes are beautiful, shame about his skin colour. The person who said it to me was throughly shamed by me. My baby has browner skin that her sister but less dark than her brother, she has big brown eyes and brown very tight curly hair. People comment on her big eyes and curly hair all the time as long as it isn't said nehlgatively its just something to talk about.

My niece has blue eyes, asian parents, sil has black hair, brown eyes and has dark brown skin bil is much paler with hazel eyes like my son. Niece is 1 and hers have not changed so are unlikely to now. People are obsessed but they aren't very common in asian people.

My dd was born with brown eyes and still has huge brown eyes, they are something people have always commented on. Take it as a compliment

DS2 had the most amazing eyes as a baby - intense blue with a purple edge to the iris. They stayed that way. I'd be surprised otherwise, with blue eyes in every known ancestor except his "black Scot" gt grandmother.

I’m blonde with blue eyes and it was always commented on with my two when they were babies too. People like cooing over babies but there’s not really much you can say about them so you say banal shit like “look at those beautiful blue eyes, I wonder if he’ll keep them?” or “look at those curls - do you have naturally curly hair?” or “doesn’t he look just like her daddy?” when they baby is lying there looking like a little pink blob.

@newjobwhodisperhaps totally agree.

I don't think it's racism, or even that blue eyes are more attractive. It's just one of those things that people say isn't it? It is pretty interesting that babies are born with blue eyes and they may change or they may not. I have blue eyes and all my DC do too, which was a shame because my husband has gorgeous hazel eyes! (For people saying it is racist, I am from an area that is predominantly white, ever single pupil at my school was white (over 2500 pupils), and as blue eyes were considered common, brown eyes, hazel eyes or green eyes were more sought after in my experience)