Husbands cousins have used the baby name we want

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Their baby was born a couple of weeks ago. Ours is due next week.

Would you still use the same name ?

We have had our hearts set on it for years. They knew and obviously liked it too. Does it matter ?

I don't know. I think it would be confusing to have to grandkids with the same name. It also makes a difference to me how common the name is. Oliver, fine. Agamemnon, maybe not.

I know sisters who had babies within weeks of each other (mums are very close and see each other daily) and one went with Leon and the other Leo
it doesn’t seem to have caused any issues

id just go for it

I wouldn't, that seems really awkward. It will come across like you copied it especially as they are so close in age and the same surname. It all depends if you see them often enough.

And you don't want comments from the family members comparing of constantly bringing it up.

Husband's cousins, definitely still use it.

Yes use it. They knew so if they vomplain just say "You knew we were going to use the name so if you're bothered about both having the same name you should have picked something else!"

My cousin used a name we used but there's 10 year age gaps. And we didn't care at all anyway. No one owns a name!

Call your baby whatever you like. It isn't an issue. I have three cousins called David. If there is ever a need to specify which David someone is talking about, they just say "David M" or "Auntie Jane's David". There have been no disasters.

Of course you should use it!

Use it, they’ll be 1st cousins once removed (I think!) so realistically how often will they be together?

My sister had 2 nieces with the same name, one through me and the other through her SIL. No one cares

How often do you see them and how close to you do they live?

I would use it but if the boot was on the other foot I’d be a bit miffed. 2 weeks after my baby was born, my aunt’s step-child named their kid the same name we’d used. I’ve never met these people but it still annoyed me mildly 😄 IWBU and YANBU to still use the name.

I wouldn't use a name my cousin had used, no.

My cousin’s DS2 has the same name as my DS2. DS2 is 8yrs older than hers. It was just a little bit confusing for my gran at times, but nothing more.

Use the name if you want to.

My uncle and his cousin had the same name because they were both named after their fathers.
Once they’re adults they will mix with different people.
It’s really not an issue.

I'm not sure I even know what my cousins' children are called. I'd just use the name you love.

Also my nephew has the same name as my son bar 1 syllable (same middle and last name) so these things do happen! The world still turns.

The two kids will only be second cousins. There's no reason at all for you to avoid using the name you want.

As much as I totally understand you and would be just as upset that they had chosen the same name I personally wouldn’t use the same name. They will forever be compared to one another and I would want my child to have their own identity rather than being known as the “cousins with the same name.” I’m sure you will find a name equally as beautiful.

I had a name I always wanted for a boy if I had one. When my son was born I didn't use the name for different reasons, I regret it. If you lice the name, use it.

*like even.

I have a cousin who is five years younger than me with the same first name and surname. Even as a five year old I found it odd that her parents didn’t choose another name. We live in the same small town 😂

I'd go for it

But this won't cause any one to have grandkids with the same name?

My grandma was an Irish Catholic and all her kids had St's names. My mum and her nine brothers and sisters followed suit and my brothers and male cousins all share a few names between them, same with the girls. When we talk about them we always use their surnames too.

I wouldnt use it. Just pick something else. Yours will just be “Anna 2” forever. Unless you never see them, then it doesnt matter i guess. But everyone will think you copied.