To breakup with a man for calling me a slut

[Helpandadvice1]

I have been with My boyfriend for four/five years
we live together

I went out with my friends at the weekend in a city away and he asked me to not post pictures as he would be embarressed his friends would see me out on social media and think I was easy
one of my friends took a picture of me and tagged me when we were out
he found it in the morning and he sent me lots of messages calling me a slut and that I looked like a prostitute
He has sent me 10 screens worth of abuse that he says I cannot think for myself and I always follow the crowd
i asked if he will break up with me and he says no

i am due back this week
one of my friends is with me and she says that the screen shots of the messages alone would be enough to get him charged with control and cohersion. He is sometimes very loving towards me and buys me flowers

i do not always want to have sex but he says that couples have sex once per week so I should - I was bleeding after last sex so I went to gp and they said everything is ok. The sex part of our relationship is not great - he is quite forceful and always touching me

he wants to marry but I am not sure
i think I have to ask him to leave my house my friend says to break up with him and not look back
it is my flat and he moving in

would i be over reacting to dump him based on one argument / text messages? Is my friend right?

Yes your friend is right he sounds vile

He's an abuser. Don't waste any more time on him.

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so many read flags in your post OP - leave and don’t look back!

In a word yes, the nice stuff he does in no way redeems the messages, the rape, because that's what it is, don't sugar coat it! And any other controlling thing he does. Do not let him move in because it will only get worse and I'll bet he won't get out easily!

On the off chance this is real then yes you absolutely need to leave.

Yes. Your friend is 100% right.

He’s a nasty controlling rapist

But it's not one argument is it, it's a whole load of abuse that you have posted about

A million votes to leave and never look back!

DO NOT MARRY THIS MAN.

As you own the flat, kick him out immediately.

Change the locks and block him.

Oh of course you should marry a controlling, abusive rapist because he buys you flowers occasionally. Also thinking this is a wind up 🤔

Leave now, run, don't look back. Love is definitely not forced sex.

Leave him as soon as you can. Emotional and physical abuse. Don’t ever consider marrying him. It won’t get better, trust me.

He is sometimes very loving towards me and buys me flowers

OP - do a list. Pros - all the good things like buying flowers. Cons - all the bad things, like telling you not to go out, not to post pics, verbally abusing you. Which list is longer, and why, if it's all the bad points, do you think 'is sometimes very loving and buys flowers' makes up for them?

For god's sake: "My boyfriend rapes me, mauls me, has made me bleed during sex and has sent me several screens of abuse. Is any of this a red flag?"

I can't be arsed

LTB

So you bled after sex and he still wanted it er no you get rid and now.

Dump him.

You need to stay clear of this one. He’s disgusting. Do you really want the rest of your life to be like this!?

I’m unsure what I’m reading here op.surely you can see.please please read back. And if needs be as if your friend wrote it to you.

Your friend is correct. He is abusing you. Kick him out, block him. If he refuses to go or hurts you again, phone the police.

@CovertImage

For god's sake: "My boyfriend rapes me, mauls me, has made me bleed during sex and has sent me several screens of abuse. Is any of this a red flag?

But he sometimes buys her flowers......

I'm literally shaking my head here.

Thanks i just needed a final push
he went crazy at me when I wouldnt move in with him and now i know why he wanted to move in to control me more
the whole relationship was fake 😓😓😓
its so sad

yep