Miss, Mrs, Ms or Mx?

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Which are you? I’m a Ms, and have been since I was about 8 years old. I didn’t change my title (or my name) when I got married and this caused some consternation amongst some of the older members of my family.

This made me realise that most women I know (married or unmarried) use Ms. I don’t think I’ve come across anyone under the age of about 50 who uses ‘Miss’ or ‘Mrs’. And I’ve never encountered a ‘Mx’. I do have a fairly specific demographic bubble, though.

So, I’m curious, which are you/do you use?

I use mrs. I’m 36. The only folk I know who use ms are divorced. If I saw your title without knowing you I’d assume you were divorced. Everyone I know that’s married uses mrs from 16 to 93. The only person I knew who was even remotely interested in their title as an 8 year old was my brother because “master” made him sound like a Jedi

I am 60, and have been married for 38 years. Mostly I use Mrs (My name His name) but sometimes I use Ms, just for the fun of it.

I use Ms by choice (as do virtually all the women I know around my age and younger, single or married), though I’m not massively fussed if other people refer to me as Miss: I wouldn’t go to the trouble of e.g. calling a service provider to complain or correcting a usage in passing. Mrs always sounds odd, mostly because if someone calls me Mrs Mysurname then in my head that’s my mum; if they assume I’ve married and taken DP’s surname then Mrs Hissurname is his mum; but again, it doesn’t bother me enough to get worked up about it. I’ve only come across Mx once or twice and thought it pointless: I know it’s intended to be sex-neutral but I can’t imagine a (non-trans) man ever opting to use it so everyone would assume woman from it anyway.

I've always been a Ms - single, married and divorced

Ms. Have been Ms since birth, have never associated it with divorce. My daughter is a Ms too and again, since birth.

I’m a Ms.
I’m neither single or divorced.
Too old and with same partner too long to be a Miss. Not married so I’m not a Mrs.

The only person I knew who was even remotely interested in their title as an 8 year old was my brother because “master” made him sound like a Jedi

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I have a clear memory of my father explaining titles and what they meant to me, then me deciding I was a ‘Ms’, and carefully writing ‘Ms Myname’ on EVERYTHING.

I still go by my married name 'Mrs X' even though I'm now divorced, But on Facebook I go by my maiden name as most of my friends on fb are school friends, I probably should stop using my ex husbands name, but as I'll eventually end up marrying my fiance of 10 years I can't be bothered, I'll change my name when I get married again

I’ve never seen mx. I thought that was a typo for mr 🙃

I'm married and I am Ms My name (not his) and - shockingly I am beyond the age of 50.

I'm Mrs. Late 30s. Divorced.

@HighlandPony You've never seen it, as in you don’t know anyone that uses? Or as in you were unaware of its existence?

I'm Mrs Ms or Miss depending on who you ask. I can't br bothered to correct anyone. The only thing I get pissed off about is people expecting me to prove that I changed my surname on marriage, even though it has been the norm in this country until quite recently.

I'm 40 and I go under Miss. I'm Scottish, I don't anyone who uses Ms at all.

I also work in a school and all the female staff are Miss or Mrs.

Maybe depends where you are from?

I was Miss before getting married, now I'm a Mrs.
Everyone I know is the same, don't know any Ms .
I'm not over 50 either 😁

Totally unaware of its existence. no idea what it meant either. Thought it was a typo. I suppose it’s the done thing here to be miss till you’re married then mrs. Nobody really keeps their name either. I’ve heard of people using ms or keeping their name but always online or in the media. I’ve never actually met anyone in real life who’s done either.

Could be. I’m also Scottish. North east. I only know a couple of ms and they’re divorced. Did anyone discuss titles with you when you were young? I don’t think anyone ever did apart from like you said in school to explain why miss MacDonald is now mrs Macleod

I'm Ms. Always have been. It's 100% about sexual equality for me. Why should women state their marital status when men don't have to? You can't ask something of one sex and not the other.

I’m much like you, OP. Ms since before I became an adult. Almost all the women I work and socialise a lot with now are Ms. (all graduates and in professional jobs). But most of my female childhood friends who did not go to university are Mrs if married, and Ms if not. A few who divorced changed to Ms but not all. I don’t think I know any women over 30 who use Miss, even if they’re single and never married.

I have sometimes used Dr. which seems to get a response more akin to what my DH receives on the phone and via email. But I’m not a Dr. so limit it to situations where it won’t be materially deceptive or threaten a non-superficial relationship.

I intensely dislike Miss because it gets used to patronize women in a way men are not with Mr but I think Mrs and Ms are so interchangeable now that they make no difference. People keep Mrs when they divorce, a few use it even if they don’t get married. People take Ms whether they’re married or not. It’s lost meaning as a marker of marital status.

I try not ti use a title, think it’s archaic and irrelevant - men don’t change their titles like this. Get annoyed when online forms make it mandatory, so go by Mx if that’s an option.

im not married but long term partner and two kids.

I agree that any title is archaic.

Ms. And I have been forever. Married twice, divorced once, Ms. the whole time.

I've always gone as Miss as I was told that Ms is for older ladies that do not want to disclose or are recently divorced. I've always hated Miss though as it seems to signify that I am single and available when the same isn't for men. I'm currently doing my masters and tempted to extend it to the doctorate so I can be Dr.... , I don't see myself getting married or if I do want my own or hyphenated name which will be a long way off so feel that may be the only route !

Ms too 😍

I go by Ms regardless of my relationship status.
I hate having to state it left right and centre!